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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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 Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 1:22 am Post subject: What advice do you give to a heartbroken friend? |
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| How can you help a heartbroken friend heal faster? Any advice? |
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Atavistic
Joined: 22 May 2006
Location: How totally stupid that Korean doesn't show in this area.
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 1:54 am Post subject: |
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1) Don't call him.
2) Don't have ex sex.
3) Don't try to befriend him.
4) Wait.
Just end it. |
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JongnoGuru
Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 2:27 am Post subject: |
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More moaning about relationships, huh?
Big Bird, these kinds of threads seem out of character for you. Is this the same lovestruck friend of yours who was the subject of your previous thread, something like "Do you find it sickening/sweet/frustrating/icky/etc. when a friend just can't stop mooning about somebody?"? Or are these different people? And is it a girl, as Atavistic assumes, or a fella? Because advice differs according to their sex. |
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jessie-b
Joined: 17 Apr 2006
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 2:50 am Post subject: |
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| If you're heartbroken, advice is the worst worst thing to get. Go to a funny movie together or just cook some food at home together. If they are far away, send them something fun. When my heart was last broken, I watched "Father Ted" episodes every night for six months. Something to drown out the heartbreak, even if its just for a half-hour, helps. |
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wo buxihuan hanguoren
Joined: 18 Apr 2007
Location: Suyuskis
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 2:51 am Post subject: |
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| Tell her that everything happens for a reason, that it is for the best, then give her a copy of Voltaire's "Candide" to read. That should do the trick. |
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endofthewor1d
Joined: 01 Apr 2003
Location: the end of the wor1d.
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 2:52 am Post subject: |
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there are plenty of fish in the sea.
it's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
tomorrow is another day.
he/she wasn't good enough for you anyway.
time heals all wounds.
every dark cloud has a silver lining.
what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.
life goes on.
a rolling stone gathers no moss.
you are what you eat.
look before you leap.
i hope this helps. |
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peppermint
Joined: 13 May 2003
Location: traversing the minefields of caddishness.
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 2:54 am Post subject: |
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give them a big feather pillow to beat anyone who sounds like endofthewor1d with. 
We all know those things are true, but when you're in the midst of it, platitudes are the last thing you want to hear.
Male or female, don't let them wallow in misery much. Take them out and distract them from it for a while
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endofthewor1d
Joined: 01 Apr 2003
Location: the end of the wor1d.
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 2:57 am Post subject: |
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| peppermint wrote: |
give them a big feather pillow to beat anyone who sounds like endofthewor1d with.
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don't bite off more than you can chew. |
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 2:59 am Post subject: |
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| JongnoGuru wrote: |
More moaning about relationships, huh?
Big Bird, these kinds of threads seem out of character for you. Is this the same lovestruck friend of yours who was the subject of your previous thread, something like "Do you find it sickening/sweet/frustrating/icky/etc. when a friend just can't stop mooning about somebody?"? Or are these different people? And is it a girl, as Atavistic assumes, or a fella? Because advice differs according to their sex. |
Ha! I never made the connection with the other thread - I assume you mean he one titled Lovelorn people? There was a theme that night, about nympomaniac people and evil people and other people, and I just grabbed a less obvious word out of my mental dictionary and joined the fun. It had no connection to anything, except the theme. I had no person in mind actually.
No, this is a very recent development, and a very good male friend of mine has been dealt up some heartbreak, and I wondered what advice people have. I feel for him, and wish I could offer up some useful advice to speed him on his recovery. And anyway, it's always an interesting theme, isn't it? So many stories and songs are written about it. We've all been through it, at one time or another, too. I wondered how others cope with it, and if they have some wisdom to share.
Anyway, I think Karma Police might need a few tips, to help him get over princess.  |
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pest2
Joined: 01 Jun 2005
Location: Vancouver, Canada
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 3:00 am Post subject: |
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| Tell the friend, 'its not the endofthewor1d ' |
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 3:01 am Post subject: |
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| endofthewor1d wrote: |
| you are what you eat. |
Bloody hell! What kind of advice is that, given the context?   |
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endofthewor1d
Joined: 01 Apr 2003
Location: the end of the wor1d.
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 3:03 am Post subject: |
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| pest2 wrote: |
| Tell the friend, 'its not the endofthewor1d ' |
well played, sir. |
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endofthewor1d
Joined: 01 Apr 2003
Location: the end of the wor1d.
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 3:03 am Post subject: |
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| Big_Bird wrote: |
| endofthewor1d wrote: |
| you are what you eat. |
Bloody hell! What kind of advice is that, given the context? |
hey! don't look a gift horse in the mouth. |
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yushin
Joined: 14 Oct 2006
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 3:04 am Post subject: |
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| your an adult for god's sake! get over it and move on!!!! |
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 3:06 am Post subject: |
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| yushin wrote: |
| your an adult for god's sake! get over it and move on!!!! |
What a lovely friend you are.  |
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