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Rock
Joined: 25 Feb 2005
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 Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 3:59 am Post subject: Would You Do It? |
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Met a Taiwanese girl where I live named Camille. Very sensitive, innocent girl, she has a nice body but I'm not attracted to her looks. Have known her for a couple of years.
Anyway, today she'd proposed. Or rather, she'd said "Marry me. . .think about it. . .I have money."
Well, the thing is I don't love her, although I'm attracted to her rack and her plumpish figure. Yet I believe you have to love the woman you marry, no? Any disagree?
Would you marry a woman you didn't really love, or didn't have some deep feelings for?
I think I care about her somewhat, but not enough to say I love her. Besides, she's a drinker, probably a little lost. She'd been abused by some guy before too.
But sometimes I wonder if the biological aspects overide that word we construe as 'love', and that in a Western context.
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seoul_nhl
Joined: 18 Mar 2006
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:03 am Post subject: Re: Would You Do It? |
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| Rock wrote: |
Met a Taiwanese girl where I live named Camille. Very sensitive, innocent girl, she has a nice body but I'm not attracted to her looks. Have known her for a couple of years.
Anyways, today she'd proposed. Or rather, she'd said "Marry me. . .think about it. . .I have money."
Well the thing is, I don't love her, although I'm attracted to her rack and her plumpish figure. Yet I believe you have to love the woman you marry, no? Any disagree?
Would you marry a woman you didn't really love, or at least felt you had some deep feelings for? |
have you slept with her yet? not to be a pig, but really if the sex is great....well love is overrated.....remember more then 50% of people who claim they are in love end up divorced. I agree with both love and shagging reasons. Marriage is more about compatibility in all aspects of your life, rather then just love! |
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RACETRAITOR
Joined: 24 Oct 2005
Location: Seoul, South Korea
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:04 am Post subject: |
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| Uh, doesn't this seem the least bit fishy to you? |
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Rock
Joined: 25 Feb 2005
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:07 am Post subject: |
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| No, I don't believe in sex outside of marriage. She doesn't either. Both of us have been down that route before, she ending up getting clobbered in the face with a coffee mug by some dumb dude, and me, broke. |
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Rock
Joined: 25 Feb 2005
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:09 am Post subject: |
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| RACETRAITOR wrote: |
| Uh, doesn't this seem the least bit fishy to you? |
Yeah, she wants to go to America, and said so. I don't really care, since I'm not planning to go there for years if I can help it though alas, I'll have to return there some day. |
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sojourner1
Joined: 17 Apr 2007
Location: Where meggi swim and 2 wheeled tractors go sput put chug alugg pug pug
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:11 am Post subject: |
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Maybe. Do you have fun while spending time with her? Are you like 2 peas in a pod? Does she like doing what you like to do?
There are a million questions you could ask yourself, but only you can know for sure.
I might would know more if it is right for you marry her if I was a friend of yours that I personally knew and spent a lot of time with. For example, I knew that it was right for my sister to marry my best friend when I observed them spending time with each other for a couple years straight. It was all a good accident that was meant to be. You can't go looking for it, but it just has to happen by accident and it has not for me yet. I think money has little to do with what is right or not so right to do, but it helps a great deal.
It so happened to be that my sister married an intellegent highly successful man who became self employed making the big bucks, but this effected nothing about the decision to marry. They love being togethor and are best friends... It all came natural with no plans and was all an accident. I think is so special to have observed as I hadn't had an opportunity to make a new best friend of the opposite sex nor even the same sex. Life is one long lonely journey, but if the right woman friend comes along, I will marry her. That's for sure.
You know if your woman friend is right to marry and only you know this much. I wish I could tell you, but I can't since I am not around the 2 of you to know enough. |
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kimchi_pizza
Joined: 24 Jul 2006
Location: "Get back on the bus! Here it comes!"
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:12 am Post subject: |
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Since I am divorced from a Taiwanese woman, I can tell you
that based on my experience of dealing with a Taiwanese
wife and living in Taiwan and since you are not in love with
her then the reasonable answer would be.....
Hells yea! She's got MONEY! Milk her for all she's worth!
(Naturally I'm not serious but what do you expect for posting such a dumb question on a public forum. 1. SHE proposed 2. She's bribing you 3. No love...ok, booty's good but... 4. You posted this nonsense which means you have NO sense. Sounds like a mess and a half ta me.) |
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Rock
Joined: 25 Feb 2005
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:17 am Post subject: |
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A man without a woman here is like a fish out of water. It's essential, but I don't believe in sleeping around. What I'm getting at is whether you should marry to fulfill sensual desires and therefore end this struggle with temptation, or wait for the right one, which isn't easy being in a foreign country and surrounded by a sea of silky skinned women.
Of course you and I know the answer. Nonetheless, it's something to ponder a little. You get to the point you think love is non-essential, particularly as you get older. Romantic love seems less moving to those who've felt it before but find it's nothing compared to reality .
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jinju
Joined: 22 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:20 am Post subject: |
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| Shes a Filipina, right? Last time I checked, thats a 3rd world country. Better find out if her idea of "I have money" isnt "I have 10 grand in a bank in Manilla and 12 brothers and sisters". |
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kimchi_pizza
Joined: 24 Jul 2006
Location: "Get back on the bus! Here it comes!"
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:23 am Post subject: |
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| Rock wrote: |
| A man without a woman here is like a fish out of water. It's essential, but I don't believe in sleeping around. What I'm getting at is whether you should marry to fulfill sensual desires and therefore end this struggle with temptation, or wait for the right one, which isn't easy being in a foreign country and surrounded by a sea of silky skinned women. |
Yea, but you're a fish marrying a fisherman (fisher of men, get it?). She'll tempt ya with a golden worm with booty then followed by a hook, line and sinker. Then you're done for. Why waste your time and the probable pain and trouble? You sound youngish and a bit naive. What's the hurry? You oughta wait. 'Nuff said. |
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kimchi_pizza
Joined: 24 Jul 2006
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:27 am Post subject: |
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| jinju wrote: |
| Shes a Filipina, right? Last time I checked, thats a 3rd world country. Better find out if her idea of "I have money" isnt "I have 10 grand in a bank in Manilla and 12 brothers and sisters". |
Naw, I'll give Taiwanese credit. When they say they've got money then THEY'VE GOT MONEY. In Taiwan, business first then love and relationship second, maybe third...usually fifth (after "face", occupation, and the BMW). |
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jinju
Joined: 22 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:47 am Post subject: |
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| kimchi_pizza wrote: |
| jinju wrote: |
| Shes a Filipina, right? Last time I checked, thats a 3rd world country. Better find out if her idea of "I have money" isnt "I have 10 grand in a bank in Manilla and 12 brothers and sisters". |
Naw, I'll give Taiwanese credit. When they say they've got money then THEY'VE GOT MONEY. In Taiwan, business first then love and relationship second, maybe third...usually fifth (after "face", occupation, and the BMW). |
Ahhh shes Taiwanese...same deal. Finf out how much. I wouldnt do it if she couldnt afford 40 pyeong in a 5 (or less) year old apartment in Seoul. |
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RACETRAITOR
Joined: 24 Oct 2005
Location: Seoul, South Korea
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:56 am Post subject: |
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| Rock wrote: |
| No, I don't believe in sex outside of marriage. She doesn't either. Both of us have been down that route before, she ending up getting clobbered in the face with a coffee mug by some dumb dude, and me, broke. |
Sorry, I guess nobody told you. The 19th century is over. |
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PGF
Joined: 27 Nov 2006
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 5:27 am Post subject: Re: Would You Do It? |
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| Rock wrote: |
Met a Taiwanese girl where I live named Camille. Very sensitive, innocent girl, she has a nice body but I'm not attracted to her looks. Have known her for a couple of years.
Anyway, today she'd proposed. Or rather, she'd said "Marry me. . .think about it. . .I have money."
Well, the thing is I don't love her, although I'm attracted to her rack and her plumpish figure. Yet I believe you have to love the woman you marry, no? Any disagree?
Would you marry a woman you didn't really love, or didn't have some deep feelings for?
I think I care about her somewhat, but not enough to say I love her. Besides, she's a drinker, probably a little lost. She'd been abused by some guy before too.
But sometimes I wonder if the biological aspects overide that word we construe as 'love', and that in a Western context. |
Do you need money? make it a business deal. Marriage is just a piece of paper if that's what you agree upon. So much $ per year with X amount of $ down. After three years, divorce and she can be a citizen and you've got some xtra tax free money.
Why not?
But, don't slip her the beef, ever, if it's just business. Then you could get in trouble down the line....she has feelings...you do not...she wants a baby....you want someone who you have something in common with.....
JMO. If you are young. Do it. There is no stigma in the west re: a divorced man...well, not really. |
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