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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| bejarano-korea wrote: |
| don't kiss her ass |
Why not? She might like it. If she lets you.  |
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butlerian
Joined: 04 Sep 2006
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 7:42 pm Post subject: |
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| bejarano-korea wrote: |
You don't need our help Butlerian - keep on using your scouse wit and charm, don't kiss her ass or agree with everything she says or does - women sometimes throw little challenges down to see how you react nd you are to pass them if the realtionship is to go further. Not that I tink you'll have a problem with this by the way, I think you have a lot of things going for you that you would have to mess up big to mess it up at all.
Was the hair post you made the other day down to meeting this girl? 
bloody hell, what woul your 'al feller' say if he saw that post?  Be yourself and don't be a kiss ass, good advice by Wo by the way! Good job mate! |
Thanks, good advice again. Luckily she was in my city this weekend, so it was fairly easy for me to quite assertive and decide where to go/what to do.
As for the hair post...I guess it was kind of related! Haha...it was a bit weird posting about that, but after a lifetime of the same hairstyle it was a case of now or never! At the moment, I've just had it cut shorter so my fringe is shorter now etc. My students seemed to like it so that's a good sign as they can be very honest when they feel like it! I may try using the 'mud' that Dome Vans suggested if and when I find some. |
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Capo
Joined: 09 Sep 2007
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| Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 12:43 am Post subject: |
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| Big_Bird wrote: |
| bejarano-korea wrote: |
| don't kiss her ass |
Why not? She might like it. If she lets you. |
I find biteing is more enjoyable |
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mysteriousdeltarays
Joined: 07 Feb 2003
Location: Food Pyramid Bldg. 5F, 77 Sunset Strip, Alphaville
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| Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 1:46 am Post subject: |
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She is a human being the same as you. Last I heared 50% of the population is more or less this.
She is just a nice girl, just treat her like that. She is probably very nervous dealing with you, although women are good at covering it up.
She is your friend. Maybe you have sex or something maybe not. If she is your friend who cares? In other words don't panic. It is just some girl you met.
By the time you figure out how much money you have spent trying to be nice to her she will have found somebody else.
Women never seem to have a shortage of admirers. In fact I'm not sure they are really human beings, despite the statistics, I suspect they are Goddesses. |
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bassexpander
Joined: 13 Sep 2007
Location: Someplace you'd rather be.
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| Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 1:54 am Post subject: |
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Just concentrate on being fun and interesting. Either you match-up, or you don't. Be yourself.
Couples who succeed in this world share the following qualities:
1. They have fun together.
2. They make a good team because they compliment each other well.
3. They can agree on money issues.
4. They can work out sexual issues so that both parties are at least somewhat content.
5. They share a similar core set of values.
6. They can share responsibility and look out for each other.
For now, you only need to worry about 1 and 2.
Bassexpander's advice is that you should date someone for 2 years before marriage. Not everyone can do this, but I feel it's a good idea. |
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mysteriousdeltarays
Joined: 07 Feb 2003
Location: Food Pyramid Bldg. 5F, 77 Sunset Strip, Alphaville
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This isn't a Fatso from Canada babbling about Rubins and the PC way of looking at women.
Just relax. It is half the world's population. They love being commodities, so what? They are half wits on that, once you get into the meat market... what more can I say? |
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peemil
Joined: 09 Feb 2003
Location: Koowoompa
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| Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 2:16 am Post subject: |
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Kick her in the shins and run away.
Girls love that sort of stuff. |
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butlerian
Joined: 04 Sep 2006
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 2:19 am Post subject: |
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| bassexpander wrote: |
Just concentrate on being fun and interesting. Either you match-up, or you don't. Be yourself.
Couples who succeed in this world share the following qualities:
1. They have fun together.
2. They make a good team because they compliment each other well.
3. They can agree on money issues.
4. They can work out sexual issues so that both parties are at least somewhat content.
5. They share a similar core set of values.
6. They can share responsibility and look out for each other.
For now, you only need to worry about 1 and 2.
Bassexpander's advice is that you should date someone for 2 years before marriage. Not everyone can do this, but I feel it's a good idea. |
That's a good summary. Thanks. |
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butlerian
Joined: 04 Sep 2006
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 4:16 am Post subject: |
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| Update: she told me today that she has to go for coffee with her boss after doing a seminar on Saturday, so we won't be meeting then. She suggested going hiking sometime. I said "sure", but deep inside I think it's just another case of time to move on... |
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bassexpander
Joined: 13 Sep 2007
Location: Someplace you'd rather be.
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| Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 4:22 am Post subject: |
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| Go hiking. See what happens. |
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Paul_Zerzan
Joined: 26 Sep 2007
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| Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 6:06 am Post subject: |
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| butlerian wrote: |
| Update: she told me today that she has to go for coffee with her boss after doing a seminar on Saturday, so we won't be meeting then. She suggested going hiking sometime. I said "sure", but deep inside I think it's just another case of time to move on... |
Maybe she reads this board and it has had a negative effect.
It definitely would not have impressed her if she did read it. You'd probably come across as unsure of yourself, lacking in confidence, and looking for affirmation from others.
Not attractive qualities in a man, I'd say.
You did put enough information out there for this to be a real possibility.
Don't mean to be too negative, Butlerian. I always wonder when threads like this get started what the possible benefits might be because none of the responses ever say anything substantial.
Did you really learn anything new about women from anyone who answered you? |
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butlerian
Joined: 04 Sep 2006
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 6:09 am Post subject: |
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| Paul_Zerzan wrote: |
| butlerian wrote: |
| Update: she told me today that she has to go for coffee with her boss after doing a seminar on Saturday, so we won't be meeting then. She suggested going hiking sometime. I said "sure", but deep inside I think it's just another case of time to move on... |
Maybe she reads this board and it has had a negative effect.
It definitely would not have impressed her if she did read it. You'd probably come across as unsure of yourself, lacking in confidence, and looking for affirmation from others.
Not attractive qualities in a man, I'd say.
You did put enough information out there for this to be a real possibility.
Don't mean to be too negative, Butlerian. I always wonder when threads like this get started what the possible benefits might be because none of the responses ever say anything substantial.
Did you really learn anything new about women from anyone who answered you? |
I doubt she read about it on here. I know, of course, that if she did then it would look like I was unsure of myself etc. However, because I'm pretty sure that she wouldn't check on here, I decided to allow myself to show this moment of weakness to people who don't know me in order to gather advice and other peoples' experience.
One thing is for sure: I didn't learn anything from your post. |
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soju pizza
Joined: 21 Feb 2007
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| Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 6:48 am Post subject: |
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| butlerian wrote: |
| Paul_Zerzan wrote: |
| butlerian wrote: |
| Update: she told me today that she has to go for coffee with her boss after doing a seminar on Saturday, so we won't be meeting then. She suggested going hiking sometime. I said "sure", but deep inside I think it's just another case of time to move on... |
Maybe she reads this board and it has had a negative effect.
It definitely would not have impressed her if she did read it. You'd probably come across as unsure of yourself, lacking in confidence, and looking for affirmation from others.
Not attractive qualities in a man, I'd say.
You did put enough information out there for this to be a real possibility.
Don't mean to be too negative, Butlerian. I always wonder when threads like this get started what the possible benefits might be because none of the responses ever say anything substantial.
Did you really learn anything new about women from anyone who answered you? |
I doubt she read about it on here. I know, of course, that if she did then it would look like I was unsure of myself etc. However, because I'm pretty sure that she wouldn't check on here, I decided to allow myself to show this moment of weakness to people who don't know me in order to gather advice and other peoples' experience.
One thing is for sure: I didn't learn anything from your post. |
He brings up some good points IMHO, but he could have done it a better way.
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mithridates
Joined: 03 Mar 2003
Location: President's office, Korean Space Agency
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| Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 9:38 am Post subject: |
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| Update: she told me today that she has to go for coffee with her boss after doing a seminar on Saturday, so we won't be meeting then. She suggested going hiking sometime. I said "sure", but deep inside I think it's just another case of time to move on... |
The girl I've been dating for the past year and a few months first turned down a munja from me to hang out - I forgot about it and two weeks later we ended up hanging out for the first time and it's been all systems go since then. Your task then is to find something else to think about for two weeks or so. (good on two counts: either you find something else to think about and then you end up hanging out with much less pressure, or you find something else to think about and then continue thinking about something else)
Look, it's a page on the possible colonization of Ceres!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Colonization_of_Ceres |
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djsmnc
Joined: 20 Jan 2003
Location: Dave's ESL Cafe
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| Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 6:25 pm Post subject: Re: Dating a great girl - what do you do? |
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I met a girl in a club in another city a few weekends ago. Anyhow, we arranged to meet in my city this weekend as she was going past it on her way for another appointment. She's smart, really pretty and has great English (English hagwon manager). The problem is that all of the girls I've met before in Korea I've never liked - or realised the potential in - them.
I think we had a good time this weekend, and I think she enjoyed it too. But I find it difficult to keep cool or know what to do when I find a girl I really like. I find it easy to do if I'm not that interested in the girl. Anyone else have this problem?  |
The three American Marines taking turns with her don't have that problem. They just pluck em while they're hot and leave the leftovers for the advice-seekers on Dave's! |
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