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[pest2]

Ill tell this story even if its slightly off-topic because it has to do with Korean women who claim to like conservative guys.

So Im getting a haircut the other night. There's like one hairstylist in my town who knows how to do a "non-Korea man haircut". (she calls it, "beckham style".) So I've gone to her several times and sort of gotten to know her. Plus she speaks intermediate level English.

I am asking if she has a boyfriend yet. She is saying no, she's still single. I told I her I didnt believe it because she is so pretty (in fact, she is cute). She says, "nooo, I am single". I tell her I think she just tells all the guys who come in to get hair cuts she is single so they come back and get more haircuts from her. Apparently, she has heard this theory before because she is denying it before I have even finished saying it.

So I start asking her where she can meet guys. I suggest the internet. She says she doesnt like that. I suggest a church or social group. She says she doesnt have time. I suggest a nightclub or bar. She says she is getting too old for that ( I say she must be crazy to say that since she's only 27). I say, "yeah, nightclubs are kinda bad anyway because guys there just want sex". She says, "Oh, no, not Korean guys. Korean guys dont want sex". I laugh out loud. "What do you mean Korean guys dont want sex? Every guy wants sex." She says, "Oh no, Korean man is very kind and takes care the woman. Not having sex before marry." I ask her why Korean guys always call da bang girls and visit special barber shops. She says, "they need coffee and a haircut".

[Atavistic]

[MissSeoul]

[pest2]

[newton kabiddles]

[MissSeoul]

[bassexpander]

[Newbie]

[pest2]

[pest2]

[Atavistic]

[MissSeoul]

[pest2]

[pest2]

[Rae]

First off, I'm sorry to hear about your experience, OP. I didn't know it was that common to cheat in S.Korea. Are you in the city? For the people that claim it very common, do you think it correlates to your lifestyle/circle of friends? Not to say you're a bunch of players, but it seems the average Kgirl that dates foreigners isn't the very tradition type of Kgirl. Maybe if you're the first foreigner she's dated, then maybe she is "traditional" but if she's had multiple foreign bf's then that should tell you that she's NOT the "girl next door" even if she may look and act like it.

That's the thing about Asian girls, to Westerners they seem like a "good girl", even the ones you'll find in mini-skirts with piles of make-up, most are quiet and "sweet". All I'm saying is:

If you're a conservative guy looking for a serious relationship with a conservative kinda girl, the tell-tale signs of being a "good girl" vs a "bad girl" are a little different with Asian women. Looks are misleading. Actions are misleading. And keep in mind some aren't purposely trying to act innocent, but it's more culturally accepted to behave in a more demure way in public. (Though I'm sure some can be nominated for best-actresses! But with those types of girls, you should get a hint by how you met her and where.)

OP, don't take all the guys' advice and become a player and totally convert to having 1million 1-night stands. Be yourself! If you want to sit and watch TV at night vs dancing, then you'll find a girl that accepts that and enjoys it too or will be willing to compromise with you.

It may take awhile before another person wins your trust but try not to judge every Kgirl by just one horrible experience. Just learn from your mistake. Be grateful it was only 3 months. Next girl you meet, maybe try to get to know her more before officially dating, and be more cautious before giving your trust.

I wish you luck. Time heals.