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crazy_arcade
Joined: 05 Nov 2006
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 Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 2:42 pm Post subject: Dating an "original" Korean--tips and advice |
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So, yeah, I'm seeing a Korean that doesn't speak any English and doesn't know much at all about most things foreign.
It's been pretty fun communicating almost totally in Korean and I think I learned more Korean words on the first date then a few months of studying on my own. However, I also made a faux pas on the first date. The day before I thought we had finalized the plans to meet up. So I go to meet her and she's not there...turns out that since I didn't message her that day she thought I didn't want to meet her. Just a cultural difference and she was really cool about it.
Anyone got any experience with these types of situations? It's quite a different dating experience from what I'm used to in Korea. |
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nevermindb
Joined: 13 Oct 2007
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 2:47 pm Post subject: |
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| I wanna know...how'd you get the date? If she didn't know any lick of English and "doesn't know much at all about most things foreign," how'd you get her to go out on a date with you? That's pretty cool. |
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Jackie
Joined: 03 Nov 2007
Location: Central South Korea
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 2:59 pm Post subject: Dating an "Original" S Korean Man |
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"Philosophy is constructed on the premise of woman's abasement." Helen Cixous--"Sorties"
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Atavistic
Joined: 22 May 2006
Location: How totally stupid that Korean doesn't show in this area.
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 3:16 pm Post subject: Re: Dating an "Original" S Korean Man |
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| Jackie wrote: |
I have been out with other Korean men, but this guy was both the most fun and toughest one I ever dated. You western women need to share your stories. |
My Korean guy is awesome. Best guy I've ever dated. The only stories I have to share are really sweet ones that I won't share here. |
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The_Eyeball_Kid
Joined: 20 Jun 2007
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 3:34 pm Post subject: Re: Dating an "Original" S Korean Man |
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| Jackie wrote: |
All I can say is, I met him in the states, he has little English, but studies English all the time. He is rather brilliant. He is much more perceptive to anyones' body language, which he learned from his own culture.
Dating? Come on, this man is a commander: 8 years in Korean military and oldest son means that I have no choice or voice, I have to do whatever he says to keep the peace. If he orders food, I have to eat or I can see he gets upset. His shoes have to be immaculate, which means you have to be ready to assist him polish them at a moments notice. And yours too better be glossy clean.
I was able to demonstrate to Mr. Hard#$& my natural ability to rock and mountain climb. It was the single thing that I did (besides my spectacular cooking) that won me any respect.
I have been out with other Korean men, but this guy was both the most fun and toughest one I ever dated. You western women need to share your stories.
He never understood, or understands why I said "see you later." I was worried about being dominated in the worst possible way for the rest of my life. |
Erm... There's no easy way to ask this, but are you a weirdo? |
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crazy_arcade
Joined: 05 Nov 2006
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 3:43 pm Post subject: |
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| nevermindb wrote: |
| I wanna know...how'd you get the date? If she didn't know any lick of English and "doesn't know much at all about most things foreign," how'd you get her to go out on a date with you? That's pretty cool. |
My buddy hooked me up. |
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Young FRANKenstein
Joined: 02 Oct 2006
Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 3:43 pm Post subject: Re: Dating an "original" Korean--tips and advice |
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| crazy_arcade wrote: |
| Anyone got any experience with these types of situations? |
My last serious relationship was similar to yours. One of the best relationships in my life. TTYTT, my two best releationships have been here in Korea with Korean women. I'd have been married by now with the first one if it hadn't been for her mom saying she'd disown the daughter if we married. |
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Major Kong
Joined: 29 Oct 2007
Location: South Korea
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 3:55 pm Post subject: |
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May you both enjoy the closeness of sharing the cultural differences
and grow while learning from each other. A good Korean
partner certainly opens many experiences and sights you
may not have known otherwise. Keep a good thing going,
it's worth the effort. |
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SuperFly
Joined: 09 Jul 2003
Location: In the doghouse
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 4:03 pm Post subject: |
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My wife hits me  |
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Jackie
Joined: 03 Nov 2007
Location: Central South Korea
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 4:08 pm Post subject: Re: Dating an "Original" S Korean Man |
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Because a woman can acutally read and write in English makes her wierd? I am sure this is something you are not accustomed to. Ouch...sorry, but could you be any more specific?
La Feminista |
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Luna
Joined: 22 Feb 2007
Location: seoul suburbs
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 5:09 pm Post subject: |
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What the heck does "original" Korean mean? Does speaking English make a Korean "unoriginal"?  |
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Beej
Joined: 05 Mar 2005
Location: Eungam Loop
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 5:16 pm Post subject: |
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| Does she show some of her "originality" in the bedroom? |
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crazy_arcade
Joined: 05 Nov 2006
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 5:50 pm Post subject: |
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| Luna wrote: |
| What the heck does "original" Korean mean? Does speaking English make a Korean "unoriginal"? |
Sorry, the "" must be very confusing for you.
It's just some sort of Konglish Koreans use. Pretty self explanatory.
Just a Korean that doesn't know much that isn't Korean.
Has nothing to do with English ability really. |
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Atavistic
Joined: 22 May 2006
Location: How totally stupid that Korean doesn't show in this area.
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 5:52 pm Post subject: Re: Dating an "Original" S Korean Man |
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| Jackie wrote: |
Because a woman can acutally read and write in English makes her wierd? I am sure this is something you are not accustomed to. Ouch...sorry, but could you be any more specific?
La Feminista |
I think they meant you're weird cause you stayed for any length of time with a guy who bossed you around. Esp since you now signed yourself "La Feminista."
Or maybe *I* just find that weird. |
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aarontendo
Joined: 08 Feb 2006
Location: Daegu-ish
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| Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 5:54 pm Post subject: |
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| When you take an original Korean home, no means yes. Least that's what my college roommates told me when I studied abroad here. |
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