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Yu_Bum_suk



Joined: 25 Dec 2004

PostPosted: Wed Nov 07, 2007 8:31 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I wonder how much the cattiness and inability to help each other out is a factor. I notice this amongst Koreans even more so than with westerners. Young male teachers get a lot of mentoring and support from older males, whereas young female teachers get very little from any. I can only imagine what it would be like for a salarywoman in Korea.
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Control Z



Joined: 20 Jun 2007
Location: Anyang

PostPosted: Wed Nov 07, 2007 9:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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I wonder how much the cattiness and inability to help each other out is a factor. I notice this amongst Koreans even more so than with westerners. Young male teachers get a lot of mentoring and support from older males, whereas young female teachers get very little from any. I can only imagine what it would be like for a salarywoman in Korea.


Salarywomen don't exist. They're called office girls. They wear uniforms and serve coffee. They have big hopes of being the "first saleswoman in the company" or the "first female to enter management level" but not much is expected of them and few, if any, ever move up at all. They're eventually squeezed out once they get married, have a baby, or get old or ugly. There is always a fresh crop of young women to take their places. On top of all that, most of their salaries are very low.

I've worked at several international companies over the course of the past five years but Korean corporate rules are followed. They easily get around any inconvenient head office requirements. Most women don't sue or fight when they're replaced during their maternity leave. If a woman is a teacher, chemist, or part of some other solid profession, she can have a nice career and garner respect. Otherwise, most women move from the title of office girl to housewife/mother. They need to land a man who is going to take care of them financially because they have very few opportunities to have a career and make decent money. It's sad.

About cattiness, I've heard the following numerous times from Korean men and women alike: "Woman's enemy is woman."

There was one woman at my office, Sunny (of all names!), and she was referred to by the other female office workers as "Queen." She was there the longest and was therefore the Queen Bee. I was told that she wouldn't greet or talk to new female employees for at least two months. She was running a catty little clique. She was recently squeezed out. Why give her raises every year when the company can hire a pretty young thing to do the same simple tasks for a much lower price?

Oh, there are so many stories...
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Big_Bird



Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...

PostPosted: Wed Nov 07, 2007 10:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

mindmetoo wrote:
Big_Bird wrote:

You have a point. Women who do fight though, appear to be particularly reviled in our society. Look at how the term 'feminist' is often used as a term of derision. And so many silly witless women are running round saying stuff like "I'm not a feminist or anything like that, but I think women should get the same pay for the same work." Always makes me want to puke. These spineless gutless women don't deserve to enjoy the benefits that the feminists, with whom they're so terrified of being associated, have brought them.


Here we are in agreement. I don't think women today appreciate the struggle that won them what they enjoy. It's been said the price of freedom is eternal vigelence. No matter what you win, someone is always coming up behind you to take it away. Last time I looked there were surely politicians that wanted to run the government based on old testament principles. The bible has no amending formula.

By the same token, the struggles organized labor made have also lost ground. Some of it is their fault, of course. Going on strike for silly reasons. Not recognizing market conditions and demanding more money. At the same time, society has done well to make unions the villains.


I just came across this little quote from Julie Birchill:

Julie Birchill wrote:
"There is a short and sharp way to deal with women who say they are not feminists ... If a woman answers 'no' to the question 'Are you a feminist?', she should immediately be stripped of her voting rights, her right to institute divorce, her legal protection from domestic violence and marital rape - oh, and her pay should be cut to 19% less than that of her male colleagues. Then she could lead the carefree, non-ball-breaking life she so desires, and not be forced to take advantage of all those unpleasant and exhausting social gains which those nasty butch feminists in the 20th century forced on her."



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postfundie



Joined: 28 May 2004

PostPosted: Thu Nov 08, 2007 12:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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In many ways Saudi women are very secure, strong women with a backbone and right to speak up for herself. They aren't considered to be b/witches for being fiesty, loudmouths who demand to have their way. I find this society in many many ways to be both liberating and REAL. The facad of western women is a joke.


wow things are so wonderful in Saudi Arabi...I 'm glad the women there are sooo happy and that they can't drive because you'd feel unsafe on the roads if they could...

You are without a doubt and Islamist tool Bar none..I used to think BB had this title or maybe DD but you got it...you Islamist troll...


(by the way so what if you knew a couple of Saudi women who had it better, due to having more money, than some women in the west...Big fat deal...you can come up with all the exceptions that you want...women in the west enjoy far more freedom than that relgious apartheid kingdom)


please tell me that you are not teaching children...if not I shudder at the thought of you telling them that it's better if women don't drive)
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newton kabiddles



Joined: 31 Mar 2007

PostPosted: Thu Nov 08, 2007 1:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

it's just demand. if a woman needs open heart surgery and she has a choice, she'll usually choose the man.
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postfundie



Joined: 28 May 2004

PostPosted: Thu Nov 08, 2007 6:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

anyway not to spoil BB's and Vicisssssssitude's 'western women languish in torture pity party' but this article just came out on yahoo today.....


(by the way I do wish that women earned as much as men...but more effort placed on better negotiating skills is much better than telling us we should sing praises of thanks to 'feminists'...generalizing is ok here I guess even though it means throwing in people like Andrea Dworkin)




Report: Muslim women face worse struggles By FRANK JORDANS, Associated Press Writer
35 minutes ago



GENEVA - Women in predominantly Muslim countries are struggling to compete for jobs, win equal pay and hold political office, falling behind the rest of the world in eliminating discrimination, a report said Thursday.

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Nordic nations, by contrast, received the best overall grades for gender parity in education, employment, health and politics, according to the review of 128 countries compiled by the World Economic Forum.

The United States received mixed marks.

"The purpose of the rankings is to bring out where a country stands in terms of dividing the resources that are available between women and men," said Saadia Zahidi, one of the report's three co-authors.

Sweden, which has more women than men holding high political office, topped the list, followed by fellow Nordics Norway, Finland and Iceland. New Zealand, Philippines, Germany, Denmark, Ireland, and Spain round out the top 10.

Zahidi said religious and cultural reasons are important in understanding why men have economic, political, education and health advantages over women in much of the world.

Ex-Soviet nations with a Muslim majority, such as Azerbaijan and Kyrgyzstan, were in the middle of the field, but nearly all countries in the Middle East place in the bottom third. Pakistan, Chad and Yemen were at the bottom.

Women living on the Arabian peninsula receive nearly as much education and health benefits as men there, Zahidi said, "but they're held back on political participation and economic empowerment."

The annual study does not take into account a country's overall level of economic development: women in Sri Lanka, South Africa, Cuba and Lesotho all fared better � relatively speaking � than women in industrialized nations such as Japan, Switzerland and the United States, which fell eight places from last year's study to 31st.

The U.S. scored lower because the percentage of female legislators, senior officials and managers fell in 2007, and the pay gap between women and men widened, the report said.

The world's most populous nations � China and India � were hurt in the study by the preference of many parents for boys, which has led to abortions and infanticide being directed primarily against girls.

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curlygirl



Joined: 26 Mar 2007
Location: Pundang, Seohyeon dong

PostPosted: Thu Nov 08, 2007 5:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm not going to quote any studies, I'll just speak from personal experience. In my previous work (I was a technical writer) I was paid less than men in my company. Why? Because when I was first interviewed the boss asked me how much I would expect to be paid. I didn't want to appear greedy or risk my potential boss thinking "Huh, I won't hire her, she wants too much", so I asked for a lower amount than I wanted.

Once I realised how much less I was getting then my coworkers I read some books on negotiating pay rises and spent the next 4 years reducing that gap. I know for a fact that, percentage wise, my pay rises were higher than my male co-workers from that point on because I negotiated damn hard!

My two cents.
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Vicissitude



Joined: 27 Feb 2007
Location: Chef School

PostPosted: Fri Nov 09, 2007 11:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

postfundie wrote:
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In many ways Saudi women are very secure, strong women with a backbone and right to speak up for herself. They aren't considered to be b/witches for being fiesty, loudmouths who demand to have their way. I find this society in many many ways to be both liberating and REAL. The facad of western women is a joke.


wow things are so wonderful in Saudi Arabi...I 'm glad the women there are sooo happy and that they can't drive because you'd feel unsafe on the roads if they could...

You are without a doubt and Islamist tool Bar none..I used to think BB had this title or maybe DD but you got it...you Islamist troll...


(by the way so what if you knew a couple of Saudi women who had it better, due to having more money, than some women in the west...Big fat deal...you can come up with all the exceptions that you want...women in the west enjoy far more freedom than that relgious apartheid kingdom)


please tell me that you are not teaching children...if not I shudder at the thought of you telling them that it's better if women don't drive)

You sound like you absolutely hate Muslims. That's YOUR problem. I happen to love them. I grew up with them all my life and I think they are the BEST people on earth, bar NONE! That makes me a troll? Whatever!

BTW, I've known many Palestinians who are quite poor and live in Saudi or they've migrated to other areas of the Middle East from Saudi. Their biggest complaint is over passports, NOT the lack of women drivers on the road. Most people have private drivers or take public transportation, which is readily available in the cities. Trust me, this is not that big of an issue with most women in Saudi. They are more angry at Israel than anything.
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Vicissitude



Joined: 27 Feb 2007
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PostPosted: Fri Nov 09, 2007 11:59 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

postfundie wrote:
anyway not to spoil BB's and Vicisssssssitude's 'western women languish in torture pity party' but this article just came out on yahoo today.....
Wait a minute here, I'm not the one having a pity party here. Let's get that straight right now. In many cases, I've made a lot more money and had more perks or benefits than my male colleagues. Moreover, at times when I feel an employer is giving us the shaft, I've been the one to speak up on behalf of everyone and DEMAND that things get done. Nine times out of ten, I get my way. Oh and I'm not nicey nicey like a lot of people try to be. I'm direct, prosaic and at times down right offensive. It works for me! Too many people are worried about being nice. Rolling Eyes
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Pluto



Joined: 19 Dec 2006

PostPosted: Fri Nov 09, 2007 2:46 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

What I don't understand is why you say women in Muslim lands, the Arab world in particular, are treated better than women in western countries. I remember being on a convoy in Karbala Iraq when there was a car ahead of us. Well, the woman in the vehicle who was covered from head to toe in 55C heat was slapped and beaten in front of all of us. Her crime; she looked at us because she was curious I suppose. That was Iraq. Kuwait is a little different. I know males, and not females, get about 10,000 dollars per month if they were a part of the Kuwaiti tribe. Women were at least able to drive.

If you want to demonstrate how women should be treated, you should point to the Nordic countries. That is where women have the most power vis a vis the US or the UK. There is plenty of reason to critisize the status of women in US society, but women are treated better in the US than any Arab country that I know of. Point is, I'd look at the status of women in Iceland before Saudi.

The World Economic Forum just came out with new data confirming this data. The AP reports with the headline:


Report: Muslim women face worse struggles

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20071108/ap_on_re_eu/global_gender_gap;_ylt=Av2r75Nc0nl3Qqx_UKFhNcCs0NUE
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Funkdafied



Joined: 04 Nov 2007
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PostPosted: Fri Nov 09, 2007 11:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Getting paid slightly less than men doesn't equal "second class citizen", the thread title is highly disingenuous and misleading. This is also an elite problem for salaried women only, wage earners make the same regardless of sex. So it's hardly going to top the list of important things that need addressing in the world.
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Vicissitude



Joined: 27 Feb 2007
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PostPosted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 3:26 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Funkdafied wrote:
Getting paid slightly less than men doesn't equal "second class citizen", the thread title is highly disingenuous and misleading. This is also an elite problem for salaried women only, wage earners make the same regardless of sex. So it's hardly going to top the list of important things that need addressing in the world.

Indeed Exclamation
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bucheon bum



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PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2007 11:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yup, saudi women get treated really well.

Quote:
RIYADH, Saudi Arabia - A Saudi court sentenced a woman who had been gang raped to six months in jail and 200 lashes � more than doubling her initial penalty for being in the car of a man who was not a relative, a newspaper reported Thursday.
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