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[crusher_of_heads]

I agree with the last post.

Of course, at 60, you will more than likely be thinking more of getting up out of bed rather than getting it up-provided you're a dude and not one of those freaky Thailand shemales.

[flakfizer]

Want to avoid heartache? Simply don't love anyone.

[mateomiguel]

want to avoid heartburn? Simply don't eat anything.

[crusher_of_heads]

Want to avoid having children? Don't have sexual relations with that woman?


Don't want to miss your stop on the subway?

Don't get on the subway.

[flakfizer]

Want to avoid this thread? Too late.

[lastat06513]

I think the only thing missing from this thread is a beer keg....

And.....I should rename it:


If you want to avoid _______, you should _____________.

Clever........

[Unposter]

There are social as well as personal reasons to marry. From a social perspective, despite overpopulation, there is a need for a next generation and there are needs for assigning responsibilities for who should raise this next generation. But, certainly in a free society, society should not force people to raise the next generation, though society may want to offer social benefits, which is what most Western nations do.

From a personal stand point, many people actually get satisfaction by raising a family. You may not be rich and powerful; you may not be a movie or rock star; you may just be another normal, relatively middle class person but if you are a parent, you are special, especially in at least one person's eyes. It is one of the greatest creative acts and it is also one of the most satisfying of work.

Now, there are plenty of people who do not see this satisfaction at this point in their lives. Some people like to describe this as "not ready." Whether you are "not ready" yet or you will never be "ready" is not the point. Some people reach a point in their lives when they want more responsibility at work and some people are still working for the weekend. It is just where you are at.

You may not want to marry and have children but that is your wish and has little to do with the institution itself.

I think maybe instead of tearing down the institution of marriage, we need to look for ways of strengthening it.

One of the ways to do that is to encourage no fault divorce. Living together is marriage. It is just that some people see marriage as a prison and others see it as an agreement (the commitment to commit which is exactly what makes a good marriage). With no fault divorce, couples can realize that this agreement is not working and can move on.

The problem is and it another thing I would change is the anachronistic attitude that marriage is there to protect a woman in a paternalistic society. While I don't believe that women as a whole (rich women tend to have more equality than poor women) have reached equality with men and certainly pay discrepency is one example of this not fully equality regardless of how "blind" the law is to gender, their is little reason to economically protect women through marriage. Women can easilly enter the workforce and should be educated to be economically independent.

If this happens then there would be less financial penalties for men if the marriage fails which normally occur unless the woman is found to have cheated.

The problem is still our Judeo-Christian roots. In the Bible, it is a commandment to marry and have children. As long as a significant number of our leaders believe this, marriage will be a conservative institution instead of a liberal institution which encourages love and caring and frees us rather than traps us.

I think you will know when you want to form a family. And, when and if you do, regardless of what you think now, you will do it because well humans have been doing it since their have been humans.

Marriage is a great partnership where people love, care for and help each other. Socialism cannot make us artificially do this. But love and family can bring people together the way no social concept can. Of course, marriages do fall apart. But, as long as we recognize this and change the laws to reflect this reality, marriage will continue to flourish.

If we make draconian laws to force people into unhappy marriages, I think marriages will implode from the unhappiness they bring.

It really is up to you and your attitude, expectation, willingness, and the commitment you bring to marriage. And, of course what your partner brings too. It really can work. It can also fail. But, it is a great thing to try because when you are on your death bed and you look back at your life, it is always good to have loving, caring family and friends there.

It is like the movie wedding crashers. The guy didn't know how important marriage was until he saw a funeral. Then, it all made sense to him.

Good luck with your relationships. They can be worth more than gold.

[kimcheechochy]

Marriage =

[Atavistic]

[crusher_of_heads]

[Flash Ipanema]

[Flash Ipanema]

From the link I posted above:

[karma police]

a good thing about being married is that i haven't needed to clean the bathrooms since we tied the knot...

[Mix1]

[Gamecock]