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[Wurmwood]

I`m thinking of having a vasectomy. I just don`t think I want kids. My question is the title of the thread. What percentage of Korean women are going to be okay with the fact that I don`t want kids? How many of them will even evaluate me in terms of a long-term relationship? Bare in mind that I recently turned 30, so I think the pressure to have kids is only going to get stronger from here on out. Is it true that there`s more family pressure to have kids for women in asian cultures?

[Atavistic]

Which are you more worried about? Becoming a father or not getting laid as often as you want?

[Otherside]

If you "think" you don't want kids, I wouldnt have a vasectomy, wait till your 100% sure atleast?

Also, I can assume that your not in a serious relationship right now as you would have discussed this issue with your partner rather than throwing it to the floor. So....I'd hold off on getting the snip.

What's the downside? You meet a girl for a one-night stand/fling etc, FFS use a condom!
You find yourself in a serious relationship...Well initially you should be using a damn condom, and after a while - perhaps discuss this issue with your partner - Its either going to be a dealbreaker or it isn't. If it is, well you have the option to change your mind or move on, if it isn't a dealbreaker...then get the snip then.

In response to your actual post... I think it will hurt your chances of a long-term relationship in a big way. Sure you may find someone has the same feeling towards kids... Then again, if you don't, Would you want to have kids that you "don't want" only to keep your partner happy?

[Wurmwood]

What`s holding me back is the possibility that I`ll meet someone great and she`ll leave me when she finds out I don`t want kids. No, I don`t wanna have kids just to keep someone. I think the desire to remain child-free is a prerequisite for a long-term relationship for me, but I`m afraid this will leave me with very few options indeed. What am I suppose to do; ask every woman I date if she wants kids at the out-set or wait until the relationship gets that serious and spring it on her?

[Atavistic]

[Wurmwood]

I`m open to dating non-Korean women. I admit that, like many other male teachers, I`ve got a touch of yellow fever, but it doesn`t ultimately matter. Besides, if Korean women are all bent on having kids, teachers may have to be my main dating pool.

To clarify, I`m not a kid hater; which is good because I`ll be teaching them soon. I just think kids are more fun when they`re someone else`s responsibility. I think the drawbacks of having my own outweigh the benefits.

[Atavistic]

[Kevtron]

Though it doesn't seem you need more reasons not to have kids...but in case you did:
http://www.vhemt.org/

Also out of curiosity. Are you still out of Korea while thinking of getting the snip done? If not how much does it cost here and is it covered by the most medical here?

[Wurmwood]

I`m not yet in Korea, but I will be in a week. I`ve looked at other posts about getting a vasectomy there and apparently it`s a relatively simple and inexpensive matter, though I couldn`t give you any specific information about getting it done.

To address another point you brought up earlier, Atavistic, this question is kind of about getting laid in that I`m concerned about being able to find someone to fool around with without the expectation of starting a litter down the line. I`m not saying I`m only interested in casual relationships; I`ll get married if I find the right person. It`s the kids I`d like to avoid.

Btw, I guess I`m interested in this child-free email list you`ve got, but apparently I can`t pm you because I just joined the forum a few weeks ago and you have to post 25 messages before they`ll let you pm anybody. Perhaps you could pm me. Thanx.

[kimcheechochy]

Hmmm tough call. What is more important to you? Not having rugrats or not having a great girl? If it's the "no rugrats" option, you should definitely cut off the flow for your one-eyed purple-headed yogurt slinger. But if you find a great girl, you would probably do anything for her, including breeding.

Condoms are pretty reliable bud, and they come in all kinds of flavors. Not that I have tasted any of those flavors. Ok strawberry is my favorite but I SWEAR I'm not gay (ok just on tuesdays).

[kimcheechochy]

[The_Eyeball_Kid]

Personally, OP - and don't take this the wrong way - having a vasectomy would seem to be the least of your concerns when it comes to what might jeopardize a relationship. Your unsettling weirdness should be a much more pressing issue.

[Wurmwood]

Take it easy, guys. Just because the question is of a sexual nature doesn`t mean that`s all I`m concerned with. Of course I`m coming there to teach and I realize I`m not going to be fighting women off with a stick the way many newbies think they will, but I also plan on dating and I think my question is a legitimate concern. I`m pretty sure this is a question a lot of guys face when contemplating getting the snip.

[crusher_of_heads]

Just turn her around.

[NicRenee]