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| Would you marry a Korean? |
| Yes of course, if I met a special person |
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| Maybe I would, maybe I wouldn't / It's not something that is a priority |
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| I don't think I would but never say never |
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| Been there, done that, never again |
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ABC KID
Joined: 14 Sep 2007
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 Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 2:42 am Post subject: Would you marry a Korean? |
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I am lucky to be happily married to a Korean. I have met others in the same situation. However, I have come across others that got married and were not so happy. One even got divorced...
So my question here for all those posters out there that are currently unmarried is would you ever marry a Korean and why? |
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the_beaver
Joined: 15 Jan 2003
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Marriage is an antiquated and stupid tradition to which I am morally opposed.
Although if there was some compelling reason, such as substantial tax breaks, and I had to get married, nationality/race wouldn't matter. I'd even go as far to say that gender wouldn't matter, but I'm not all that big on others' tallywackers so even with a substantial tax break I wouldn't get into such a marriage because the thought of a Hershey consummation puckers my sphincter and I don't like sitting here on a puckered sphincter so I'm ending this line of discourse. |
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JAWINSEOUL
Joined: 19 Nov 2005
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 3:22 am Post subject: |
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I plan to marry my fiance after some family issues are resolved  So that would make it 1 for yes. |
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kermo
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Location: Eating eggs, with a comb, out of a shoe.
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 3:27 am Post subject: |
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So far, I haven't found myself too susceptible to the charms of the Korean male. However, if I met a guy who knocked my socks off by being witty, sensible, intriguing, etc., I'd still have reservations.
Language differences can create problems or make existing problems worse. I choose my words very carefully, and I would be frustrated if a tactful and kind remark were misunderstood, or an emotionally charged plea was misheard.
Cultural differences run so deep that I wonder if I could feel as if I really understood him, or that he understood me. There are superficial customs and habits that can be learned, but some values and expectations are hard to articulate.
And then there are the in-laws. Daughters-in-law don't rank too high on the social ladder, and even if I wanted to play the "dutiful subservient matron" game, the odds would be stacked against me.
On the plus side, "mixed" kids are very very cute. |
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bejarano-korea
Joined: 13 Dec 2006
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 3:37 am Post subject: |
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Before October the 14th... no chance, because they all look like Yoko Ono or 'Karate' out of Batfink
Post October the 14th and meeting the piano teacher (amongst others)... damn right!
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| However, if I met a guy who knocked my socks off by being witty, sensible, intriguing |
Thats cos you aint ever met me petal!  |
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Okibum
Joined: 28 Jul 2006
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 3:42 am Post subject: |
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| I am crazy about my Korean boyfriend, and if continues to work out, I would not be opposed to marrying him. |
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Faunaki
Joined: 15 Jun 2007
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 3:51 am Post subject: Why not? |
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I am married to one. I can't really say how I feel about it yet cause I have only tried in Korea where it's annoying. I would like to see how things go in Canada where I know what the hell is going on.
That being said, why not marry a Korean? As long as you don't have to live in Korea forever. |
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bejarano-korea
Joined: 13 Dec 2006
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 3:53 am Post subject: Re: Why not? |
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| That being said, why not marry a Korean? As long as you don't have to live in Korea forever. |
That would be a pre-requisite of mine, let me tell ya! |
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kentucker4
Joined: 03 Sep 2007
Location: Georgia
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 4:12 am Post subject: |
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| Most Korean girls are too whiny for me as far as marriage goes. That tone in their voice is so nagging when they are upset. Uggggh |
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Homer
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 4:29 am Post subject: |
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I have been married to a great Korean woman for 10 years now so that puts me squarely in the "yes" category I suppose. 
I would like to discuss two points made by Kermo here (interesting points by the way!)
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| Language differences can create problems or make existing problems worse. I choose my words very carefully, and I would be frustrated if a tactful and kind remark were misunderstood, or an emotionally charged plea was misheard. |
That is indeed a barrier to overcome initially. But, honestly, with a little work from both people it quickly becomes irrelevant. The problems Kermo highlights happen in the early goings if neither partner is fluent in the others language. Once say the intermediate level is reached, they disaprear. Language once that level is reached does not pose any extra problems. Communication however is another issue but that is an issue present in every couple, mixed or not...
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| Cultural differences run so deep that I wonder if I could feel as if I really understood him, or that he understood me. There are superficial customs and habits that can be learned, but some values and expectations are hard to articulate. |
Cultural differences can be deep indeed. However, I think these depth of the differences depends on both people more than it does on the "cultures" themselves. People and values is another big one. These also depend on each person and how ready they are to compromise and understand the other person. This is pretty much the bedrock of any couple I think: compromise and understanding.
Overal I feel that the points raised above are a learning opportunity rather than a problem but that is just how it unfolded for me and my wife. In the end, basic compatibility transcends culture and language. If you have that then the rest falls into place. If you do not have that then cultural differences and language can become excuses to explain the problems...
Just my two cents anyway... |
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SuperHero
Joined: 10 Dec 2003
Location: Superhero Hideout
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 5:06 am Post subject: |
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| kermo wrote: |
| "mixed" kids are very very cute. |
One of my friends who returned back home had the ugliest kid I ever laid eyes on in my entire life - yes the kid was mixed. |
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SuperHero
Joined: 10 Dec 2003
Location: Superhero Hideout
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 5:07 am Post subject: |
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| the_beaver wrote: |
Marriage is an antiquated and stupid tradition to which I am morally opposed.
Although if there was some compelling reason, such as substantial tax breaks, and I had to get married, nationality/race wouldn't matter. I'd even go as far to say that gender wouldn't matter, but I'm not all that big on others' tallywackers so even with a substantial tax break I wouldn't get into such a marriage because the thought of a Hershey consummation puckers my sphincter and I don't like sitting here on a puckered sphincter so I'm ending this line of discourse. |
It's a damn good thing I wasn't eating or drinking anything when I read this. |
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littlelisa
Joined: 12 Jun 2007
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 5:58 am Post subject: |
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I put other.
I doubt I would ever marry anyone, so I guess the odds are just as slim for Koreans as they are for non-Koreans. |
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peppermint
Joined: 13 May 2003
Location: traversing the minefields of caddishness.
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 6:10 am Post subject: |
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| I wouldn't say never, but it's about as likely as my getting hit by lightening and winning the lottery on the same day. Met lots of great Korean guys when I was there, but none that really made me want more than friendship |
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Hank the Iconoclast
Joined: 08 Oct 2007
Location: Busan
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| Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 6:30 am Post subject: |
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| If I met someone special, then most definitely. |
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