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the_beaver
Joined: 15 Jan 2003
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| weatherman wrote: |
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| katydid wrote: |
| unless what you mean is she feels weird bestowing the term to a waygoogin? |
That's what I mean. |
Then what is her context for relating to you as a 'the' boyfriend. Do you ever use Korean in conversation? Are you using Korean cultural norms when dating? I really wouldn't stand for this. |
Sometimes she speaks Korean sometimes she speaks English. When she's speaking English I don't care if she uses my name. It irks when when she uses my name when she's speaking Korean.
However, with the host of problems it's possible to have in a relationship, I think I can deal with the few that we have. |
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jaebea
Joined: 21 Sep 2003
Location: SYD
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| Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2003 2:55 pm Post subject: |
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| Sometimes she speaks Korean sometimes she speaks English. When she's speaking English I don't care if she uses my name. It irks when when she uses my name when she's speaking Korean. |
I can see how it might grate when you're speaking in Korean.
I guess -oppa or -ssi suffixes would be a good counterbalance.
I consider speaking in English easier, both technically and socially, but it's inherent lack of support for formal language and honorifics in this context (unless you like to call each other Sir, Madam, Mistress, and others :) ) is sort of awkward, especially if you've been exposed to the Korean language, where the honorifics are such an inbuilt and natural part of the language. :)
Then again, you have the counter-argument that in a relationship of this sort, you shouldn't need to resort to honorifics, where there is no major/minor relationship, but a pairing of equals.
That's another can of worms that I just don't want to get into at this point in time.
It just feels *nice* to be called oppa. :)
jae. |
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Ilsanman
Joined: 15 Aug 2003
Location: Bucheon, Korea
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| Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2003 5:25 am Post subject: the |
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| the ladies in the red lighted windwos call me abba. |
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Zed
Joined: 20 Jan 2003
Location: Shakedown Street
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| Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2003 5:35 am Post subject: Re: the |
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| Ilsanman wrote: |
| the ladies in the red lighted windwos call me abba. |
Are you the Dancing Queen?   |
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Tiger Beer
Joined: 07 Feb 2003
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| Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2003 6:37 am Post subject: |
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| O-bah from a girlfriend is rather disturbing. |
I use to think so too.. but being that alot of Korean guys hook up with Korean girls under the term 'o-bah' i'm not too sure anymore.
Confirming that I slept with a Korean girl once who kept yelling 'o-bah' over and over and over and over and over again. Has a different kind of meaning to me after that one. |
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katydid
Joined: 02 Feb 2003
Location: Here kitty kitty kitty...
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| Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2003 7:47 am Post subject: |
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OH MY GOD....no offense, TB, you know I like you and mean well when I say this, but couldn't you have taken that comment to PM?
What a horrible image.....LOL |
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Mashimaro
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: location, location
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| Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2003 5:26 pm Post subject: |
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I agree. I would not date a girl who would not call me oppa. |
So do you always call older Korean males Hyong? If your girlfriend is older than you do you call her Nuna? Or do you only like these terms when they suit you? |
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Seoultrader
Joined: 18 Jun 2003
Location: Ali's Insurgent Inn, Fallujah
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| Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2003 5:27 pm Post subject: |
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| Tiger Beer wrote: |
| Zed wrote: |
| O-bah from a girlfriend is rather disturbing. |
I use to think so too.. but being that alot of Korean guys hook up with Korean girls under the term 'o-bah' i'm not too sure anymore.
Confirming that I slept with a Korean girl once who kept yelling 'o-bah' over and over and over and over and over again. Has a different kind of meaning to me after that one. |
Oh, oh, oh I love it when they scream out "oppa" at the apex of their thundering climax 
Someone hand me a tissue... |
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Holyjoe
Joined: 03 Mar 2003
Location: Away for a cuppa
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| Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2003 6:02 pm Post subject: |
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Oh, oh, oh I love it when they scream out "oppa" at the apex of their thundering climax
Someone hand me a tissue... |
You really shouldn't be spying through motel windows, you know |
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dogbert
Joined: 29 Jan 2003
Location: Killbox 90210
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| Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2003 6:18 pm Post subject: |
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| Tiger Beer wrote: |
| Zed wrote: |
| O-bah from a girlfriend is rather disturbing. |
I use to think so too.. but being that alot of Korean guys hook up with Korean girls under the term 'o-bah' i'm not too sure anymore.
Confirming that I slept with a Korean girl once who kept yelling 'o-bah' over and over and over and over and over again. Has a different kind of meaning to me after that one. |
What about the ones who yell "om-ma, om-ma"? Not sure which is more disturbing. |
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mack the knife
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: standing right behind you...
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| Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2003 8:44 pm Post subject: |
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| Pump up the volume |
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