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Here's an article for you to read, Little Princess (though I dislike the Bill and Hilary photo- I don't know what that proves...)

http://www.theage.com.au/news/relationships/feminists-make-better-wives-study/2007/11/20/1195321743204.html

Take a feminist out to dinner.

That's the advice of a social psychologist who concludes in a new study that feminists make better partners and have stronger romantic relationships.

Laurie Rudman of Rutgers University had found in earlier research that negative stereotypes of feminists - that they're unattractive, man-hating lesbians, in a nutshell - cause young adults to distance themselves from the "F-word" and tone down their demands for equality.

A majority of college-age respondents agreed with such statements as "Most men would probably not want to date a feminist" and "Romance depends, in part, on men being allowed to be in charge."

This was alarming to Rudman, who is old enough to remember the heyday of the women's rights movement in the 1970s. Continued efforts to achieve gender equality could be seriously hurt, she reasoned, if women (and men) think it comes at the expense of love.

So, with the help of graduate student Julie Phelan, she set about trying to determine if there was any truth to the notion that feminists are more likely than traditional women to have crummy relationships.

The results, appearing in the online edition of the peer-reviewed journal Sex Roles, show that for both women and men there was a benefit to having a feminist partner. Feminist women were also more likely than others to be in a romantic relationship.

"If you're a woman paired with a male feminist," said Rudman, "you have a healthier relationship across the board" - better in terms of relationship quality, equality, stability and sexual satisfaction.

"And men paired with female feminists have greater sexual satisfaction and greater relationship stability," she said. "So, (there were) higher scores on two of the four dimensions, with no difference on the other two."

There you have it: Feminists are sexy.

"Contrary to popular beliefs, feminism does not disrupt men's pleasure in the bedroom," said Rudman.

That makes perfect sense to counsellors like Gina Ogden, who says "the cultural missionary position - man on top" isn't conducive to romance.

"If a relationship is based on authoritarian control, keeping one person on top and the other underneath, it gets old pretty fast - for both partners, really," said Ogden, a Boston sex therapist who surveyed 3,810 people for her book The Heart and Soul of Sex.

"In an egalitarian relationship, there is more flow of give and take," she said, "and that's the romantic tension. That tension - the sexual desire - is in that space between you where you're able to flow back and forth."

In her experience, said Ogden, "where there's caring, sharing, openness and honesty, sexual satisfaction increases. It not only feels good now, but it is likely to get better and better as you age."

For the study, the Rutgers researchers designed two surveys, one for college students in the laboratory and the other an online questionnaire for older adults.

The subjects - 513 students and 471 adults aged 18-65 recruited online - were asked how they felt about career women and whether they considered themselves feminists. They were also asked about their partners' feminist identity and attitudes.

Not surprisingly, feminism scores among the subjects were tepid. The mean for women in the college group was 6.2 on a 10-point scale, and the mean for men was only 4.9. (The men's average score was slightly higher in the older, online group.)

Next, they were asked a series of questions intended to get at four measures of relationship health: quality (for example, "How often do you and your partner laugh together?"), equality ("How often do you and your partner disagree about your role in the relationship?"), stability ("How often do you think about finding another partner?") and sexual satisfaction ("How often have you considered having a sexual relationship with someone other than your partner?").

As for the notion that strong, independent women can't get a date, Rudman and Phelan asked the subjects about their sexual orientation, whether they were currently in a relationship, and how attractive they thought they were ("I seem to be very popular with the opposite sex").

It turned out that self-identified feminists were no more likely to be homosexual or to consider themselves unattractive, Rudman said: "There's zero correlation." And they actually had a better chance of having a romantic partner.

"There goes the spinster idea," said Rudman. "If you're a feminist, men are slightly more likely to want to be in a relationship with you."

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If this is a thread to justify how someone wants to date Korean men rather than Western men, I say just date the Korean men. Look, many Western men have their faults, but they don't go to room salons, I would suspect cheating is even less common in North America. Hey, I have heard of so many Koreans playing Western women and then saying it's normal in their culture to have more than one girl. Seriously, I am not kidding. And, I would suspect Latin cultures and Italians are viewed as into all that romance, but the men certainly don't go around carrying a female or male purse. Do you remember that Seinfeld episode where one of the characters talked about carrying a man purse? That was hilarious!

I don't know if feminism destroyed romance. Romance was often used in a more conservative in America and Canada where you courted a woman for a while before marrying her or having sex with her. This is no longer the case and men and women objectify each other more.
They just cut to the chase, maybe. I wasn't really alive in the 50s, so I wouldn't know, but a French friend complained that she thought her American boyfriend had no clue about romance compared to what she was used to. I don't think that's the fault of feminists. Men and women are just not taught about being ladies and gentlemen and romantic.
It's maybe the parents. Feminism has done great things for women.
Many of the Western women wouldn't be in Korea if it weren't for feminism.

As far as being skilled, a woman can be extremely romantic and skilled in the bed. I don't think saying most women who are skilled in bed are this or that is anything but being kind of harsh.