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[lastat06513]

In Korea, most of the non-Korean brides tend to be younger than their Korean counterparts because many Korean women tend not to marry younger than 25-29. The average Korean woman wants to travel/ study abroad and work for a few years after graduating from university, thus they tend to marry in their late-20's/early-30's.

However, many (not most and certainly not all) immigrant brides are from the rural areas in their homecountries and have no more than a high school education (though a previous poster in this thread is an example of the educated exceptions). Alot of them are looking to get away from their homecountries due to poverty and the poor choice of potential mates they have (sorry to say, but a Vietnamese farmer makes far less than a Korean farmer) and I am also sorry to say this, but Korean men tend to be more financially sound with their money and more stable in their employment than their potential male counterparts in other, less-developed countries.

Why do they marry men considerably older than themselves? There are many reasons for that- a mature age sometimes brings about the image of a calm mind, stable lifestyle, financial stability, and in some cases, a fatherly figure who can comfort and protect them- which is something some young women want in a potential mate, no matter where the woman is from, not just from Vietnam or the Philippines.

When I was in Korea in my early and mid-20's, a person my age was considered still a child in the minds of people, and was not able to have a stable life because most Korean men my age were still in college or in entry-level positions in companies or even still in military service.

I think there are people who would marry people their own age and there are people who would like to marry a person older than themselves.....it is not a cultural thing as much as it is an individual choice.

[fusionbarnone]

I once had a Russian babe tell me that as long as a guy could support three, he's in. Another hottie told me age does'nt matter(cool eh!). She didn't mention that her mama neglected to teach her how to cook because she was expected to marry someone wealthy enough to hire a personal chef.

How many guys treat their non-item lady friends on world travel, fancy hotels, limos, interesting restaurants, and take them shopping on their birthday for gold, watches etc. If a guy has the "class" to flow this way his company will always be shared with attractive and more than one(sometimes many). Most guys want everything for free; it doesn't work that way. Maybe "some" older guys have greater financial prospects and aren't mean about making things happen.

When gals like someone, they will give just as much. Hugh Hefner has it all and no one questions his age neither do his girlfriends care either.

As for the Korean ajoshis with young brides, good on them I say.

The average age seemed to be mid-twenties. One cute young lady was my regular drinking buddy from Uzbeckistan who, upon discovering my background in martial arts(she being skilled in Shotokan karate and Muay thai), offered to drive out to my city which was over two hours drive away, and "fight"(????) me in my apartment. I gracefully bowed out as she probably would have kicked my butt.

Her husband was in his forties.

[Tiger Beer]

Do they Vietnamese you're seeing in Korea look Vietnamese? Or do they look Korean?

Granted, I lived in HongDae of Seoul, and probably almost NONE around here attending the big universities, but I wouldn't mind at least seeing Vietnamese around.

Where do they congregage? Filipinos often go to Hyehwa, where do Vietnamese go?

[Hollywoodaction]

Some of these couples aren't farmers and younger women but rather people who were married by the Unification Church.

[MissSeoul]

[MissSeoul]

OP, my uncle who was a korean Marine officer was in Vietnam during Vietnam War.
He met a beautiful young Vietnames girl who was selling flowers outside Korean Marine Base, one day he couldn't see her anymore, then 6 months later when he saw her she was with her Vietnames husband. She was only 15 years old !
My uncle told me some Vietnames girls even marry at 13 years old.

I don't know it's still that way in Vietnam, but it was...during war.

[hari seldon]

[roknroll]

[Hollywoodaction]

[Kepler]

Of course, it's not just older Korean men who like and marry young Vietnamese women. One reason I think that so many of the English teachers in Vietnam are guys that are 50+ is because these guys like living in a country where it's easy to find girlfriends that are half their age. I've seen many examples of that. There was a fat, bald 55 year old teacher at a school that I taught at in Vietnam who liked to show up at work parties with his 17 year old girlfriend (the legal age of consent in Vietnam is 16). A friend and former English teacher in Vietnam complained to me that she got tired of all the older male English teachers who thought they were God's gift women. Whether they are God's gift to women or not, they still have a lot more to offer than the locals who often earn less than $100 a month. This has made it more difficult for Vietnamese men to find wives.

[Cheonmunka]

I understand the forces that push us to an Asian bride, but I can't accept a relationship of a 45 year old man married with an 18 year old girl. Or 52yr/22yr for that matter.
It's legal so society accepts it. But, the role of the man is only as a sugar daddy. How can he sincerely love?

[ultra]

http://www.thanhniennews.com/overseas/?catid=12&newsid=35213

South Korean carpenter Lee Kyong Hee told Thanh Nien he and six other men arrived in Vietnam in September last year to look for Vietnamese wives.

But just after Hee selected a bride, the police busted the illegal match-making company he had been using and he lost the US$12,700 fee he paid for the wife �selection.�

Gang Myeong Hwan, who came to Vietnam last October, met a similar fate. The matchmaking service he was using was also raided by police, leaving Hwan and other men out of pocket and still single.

According to the South Korean National Statistics Office, the number of Vietnamese brides in South Korea totaled more than 10,000 last year, up 74 percent from the previous year, with most married to farmers and fishermen.

[ultra]

http://www.thanhniennews.com/overseas/?catid=12&newsid=18762

Vietnamese wife kills herself in Republic of Korea
A Vietnamese woman who was married to a Korean committed suicide by drinking pesticide Monday in the Republic of Korea�s Kyeongchu province.
The local police think that Nguyen Thi L, 21, from Vietnam�s southern An Giang province might have committed suicide because her husband�s family had forbidden her from sending money back home.

L married a 44 year old Korean through a marriage bureau before migrating to Korea in February.

[ultra]

http://www.thanhniennews.com/society/?catid=3&newsid=34556

Korean man arrested for �selecting� mail-order bride

Police Thursday caught a South Korean man in the act of �selecting� a wife from among 65 young women in Ho Chi Minh City�s Tan Phu District.

[ultra]

http://www.thanhniennews.com/society/?catid=3&newsid=32583

The police smashed an illegal crime ring yesterday that was allegedly operating clandestine matchmaking activities for foreigners, local police said.
In the process, they found 54 Vietnamese women preparing to showcase themselves before two Korean men in hopes of being selected as a future mate.

Vietnam has become a popular destination for bachelors from South Korea and other Asian countries looking for wives, often on week-long pre-arranged trips that include medical checkups, visa procedures and speedy honeymoons.

The commercial match-making operations have stirred anger amid reports of potential brides being paraded and humiliated before their suitors.

Even worse have been reports of isolation and abuse suffered by many women in their new homes.

According to the South Korean National Statistics Office, the number of Vietnamese brides in South Korea totaled over 10,000 last year, up 74 percent from the previous year, with most married to farmers and fishermen.