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How about old women and younger men?.....Kosher?
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Older women dating younger men.....
Men: I would date an older woman
47%
 47%  [ 22 ]
Men: Nope, I prefer to date someone my age or younger.
17%
 17%  [ 8 ]
Women: I would date a younger man
23%
 23%  [ 11 ]
Women: Nope, I prefer to date someone my age or older
10%
 10%  [ 5 ]
Total Votes : 46

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lastat06513



Joined: 18 Mar 2003
Location: Sensus amo Caesar , etiamnunc victus amo uni plebian

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 8:23 am    Post subject: How about old women and younger men?.....Kosher? Reply with quote

Ther e has been some talk about older men/younger women "may-december" relationships........That seems to be the internationally acceptable standard.

But what if it were the woman who is older than the man?
A few friends of mine have married or at least dated women that were several years their senior.......they seem to be happy and there "intimate life" seems to be healthy and they seem to be content with each other....

The question I would like to pose to the people here is:

Men: Would you ever consider dating a woman who is several years older than you? And if you had, what was your experience?

Women: Would you ever date a man who is several years younger than you? And if you had, what was your experience?

I know alot of women would reply by saying: it is like dating a teenager or a baby and it felt more like babysitting than actual dating.....but you know men say the same things occasionally about the young women they date.....

But what was your experience?
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kingplaya4



Joined: 14 May 2006

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 8:36 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

With one exception, every girlfriend I've had has been older. (Okay that's not so many, but even so). They haven't been much older, but still I prefer someone whose maturity at least equals mine.
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Ya-ta Boy



Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: Established in 1994

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 3:18 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

'several' is such a vague word. Make it a concrete choice. Osama bin Laden's 26 year old son is married to a 52 year old woman.

I'm more interested in this question:

If you were 26 would you be...

a) interested in a one night stand with a 52 year old woman?

b) interested in a Benjamin Braddock/Mrs. Robinson-style affair?

c) interested in marriage if the chemistry was right?

d) none of the above?
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VanIslander



Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Location: Geoje, Hadong, Tongyeong,... now in a small coastal island town outside Gyeongsangnamdo!

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 3:19 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

How prudish am I?
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Hank the Iconoclast



Joined: 08 Oct 2007
Location: Busan

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 3:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

My girlfriend is four years older than me.
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Natalia



Joined: 10 Mar 2006

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 4:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

It would depend on the person and the age difference. I'm not interested in schoolboys, but maybe in ten or twenty years time that age difference wouldn't be so much of an issue.

But if guys can do it, I don't see why girls can't.

I find the sixty year old white man with twenty year old Asian girl thing sickening though. There has to be some sort of moral limit on the age gap.
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SuperHero



Joined: 10 Dec 2003
Location: Superhero Hideout

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 4:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I know three different foriegn guys who married Korean women 7-8 years older than they are.
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Young FRANKenstein



Joined: 02 Oct 2006
Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 4:51 pm    Post subject: Re: How about old women and younger men?.....Kosher? Reply with quote

lastat06513 wrote:
Men: Would you ever consider dating a woman who is several years older than you? And if you had, what was your experience?

Why not? If you like each other, what's the problem? My last gf was older by a few years and it worked out pretty well for the most part (neither of us are spring chickens). When I was 25, I dated a 40-year old divorcee. So what? She was hot!

I've also gone the other direction, too. Before my last gf (above), the one previous was only 19, a 17-year difference. That one didn't last long, but it had nothing to do with the age difference.
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neandergirl



Joined: 23 Jun 2005

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 4:56 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sauce for the gander is sauce for the goose. Both my sisters are happily married to men younger than they are (one just 2 years, the other 7) and a good friend of mine lived for 10 years with a man nearly 20 years younger than she.
As long as it's legal and above board, what's the issue?
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Justin Hale



Joined: 24 Nov 2007
Location: the Straight Talk Express

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 5:01 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Physical attractiveness is central to male heterosexuality. Men would thus have little problem with dating an older women who is attractive. It's quite rare though. Generally, men like 'em younger and women like 'em older.

Natalia wrote:
I find the sixty year old white man with twenty year old Asian girl thing sickening though


Sorry to hear that. Chances are it's a consensual relationship. Younger women like older men because generally they're wealthier. Older men like younger women because generally they're more physically attractive. I assume you are sickened - really, sickened? Shocked - because the opportunity generally isn't available to women.



Natalia wrote:
There has to be some sort of moral limit on the age gap.


The moral limit is consent. People's lives and bodies are not the property of bourgeois lefties. People own their lives, own their bodies and they will do as they please with them.
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Bryan



Joined: 29 Oct 2007

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 5:25 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm 20, my girlfriend is 27. Last girlfriend I had was 23 when I was 19.

The benefit with these older girls is that they have some type of purpose in their lives and are actively working toward it. Nobody at my age has that.




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Men would thus have little problem with dating an older women who is attractive. It's quite rare though.
My older girlfriends are all attractive.


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The moral limit is consent. People's lives and bodies are not the property of bourgeois lefties. People own their lives, own their bodies and they will do as they please with them.


What certain people consent to does not automatically make their actions moral. People can consent to immoral things, because agreement does not equal moral goodness.
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Draz



Joined: 27 Jun 2007
Location: Land of Morning Clam

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 5:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I prefer guys who are a bit older but I expect this to change once "younger men" for me includes the late 20s - early 30s age group. Young enough to still have passion and energy, but old enough to have figured some things out. The best men! Wink
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Justin Hale



Joined: 24 Nov 2007
Location: the Straight Talk Express

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 5:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Morality is all about ownership. If a 60 year old man and a 20 year old girl are attracted to each other, for what ever reason, and wanna get it on, there is no moral defence to be made for it being morally wrong and it is totally contrary to the findings of evolutionary psychology. These anti-nature moral warriors, legislating what others do with their own lives and bodies, with their low fertility rates, are as dangerous to civilization as prohibition and Co2.
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Bryan



Joined: 29 Oct 2007

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 5:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Justin Hale wrote:
Morality is all about ownership.
No, morality is about the good and bad actions a human being can choose to do for himself.


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If a 60 year old man and a 20 year old girl are attracted to each other, for what ever reason, and wanna get it on, there is no moral defence to be made for it being morally wrong and it is totally contrary to the findings of evolutionary psychology.

Yes, there is (but not to do with their age). For example, if the man is married and going behind his wife's back, he is lying, even though this agreement between them is consensual and even if he discloses that he is married to the young girl. Lying to his wife is wrong, and being involved in a consensual act does not change this.


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These anti-nature moral warriors, legislating what others do with their own lives and bodies, with their low fertility rates, are as dangerous to civilization as prohibition and Co2.
Ad hominem... I am not "legislating" anything by the way.
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Justin Hale



Joined: 24 Nov 2007
Location: the Straight Talk Express

PostPosted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 7:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Bryan wrote:
Justin Hale wrote:
Morality is all about ownership.
No, morality is about the good and bad actions a human being can choose to do for himself.


Ownership of one's body and life is central. Perhaps it's not all reducible to ownership - I'm not sure - but ownership is often key. The reason homosexual sex is not morally wrong is because the parties own their bodies and lives and can do as they please with both. Same with a 60 year old man and a 20 year old girl, which leads me on to.....


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Yes, there is (but not to do with their age). For example, if the man is married and going behind his wife's back, he is lying, even though this agreement between them is consensual and even if he discloses that he is married to the young girl. Lying to his wife is wrong, and being involved in a consensual act does not change this.



Well, it's only the age thing I was disputing. The case above is wrong regardless of the parties' age. Lying, cheating is wrong but 2 adults consenting to sexual relations per se is not. Natalia thinks heterosexual relationships involving old men and young women are sickening. Feeling sickened by consensual intercourse is irrational and indecent.
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