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traxxe
Joined: 21 Feb 2007
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White Lies:
The Philippines has a problem with this. Many people will lie through their teeth in order to smooth things over and make the opposite party happy. It is somewhat of a cultural phenomenom once you start to know the people you can get a better idea of the scope of it.
These lies are never gross lies but are small lies. In our culture honesty should be observed at all times. This culture in many places allows for dishonesty when the gain of it represents the happiness on another person's behalf.
I lucked out since my wife's family is incredibly religious. Her father is a voracious reader and exposed to more than the world around him. He taught is family that this cultural practice was shameful and that honesty is one of the pillars of riteous living. Her family took it to heart.
Still, you will find this creep up from time to time and for some people it is a deal breaker.
Thank you, yes I have family support...
As for the question about the US visa. You cannot apply for it overseas I believe? You can but by the time it processes you have to be residing in the states. The exception is for U.S. military since they are still considered domiciled in the U.S. while abroad.
I wasn't aware about the aspect of not counting your salary here. Once you file your taxes and report the income. Income is income isn't it? You might have to get a reference.
I was just married in December and we cannot do much until she graduates in two months so I haven't gotten all the details yet.
So I could use some guidance in this area too. I thought I couldn't do anything via the U.S. route since I'm in Korea another year or more. |
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The_Conservative
Joined: 15 Mar 2007
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| Posted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 4:49 pm Post subject: |
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| traxxe wrote: |
White Lies:
lies. In our culture honesty should be observed at all times. . |
Ahhaa! Thanks for the laugh. Little white lies are commonplace in the West. You can see that at work, in relationships and all over.
For example the wife who asks her husband "Do I look fat in these jeans?"
What do you think most men are going to say?
Or the boss who says "I came up with this idea and I think it's great." (To the employee). "What's your opinion?"
What do you think most employees are going to say?
And on and on. Don't get the idea that the West is some bastion of honesty. Just as many lies are told there as here...it's just that certain lies or fibs are more culturally acceptable in one place than another. |
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ttompatz
Joined: 05 Sep 2005
Location: Kwangju, South Korea
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spliff
Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand
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| Posted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 6:06 pm Post subject: |
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boyne11
Joined: 08 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 11:04 pm Post subject: |
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Spliff,
Does she have a sister? |
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spliff
Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand
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| Posted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 11:29 pm Post subject: |
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| Actually she does, just turn 17...fine too! Are you interested? |
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mistermasan
Joined: 20 Sep 2007
Location: 10+ yrs on Dave's ESL cafe
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 2:39 am Post subject: |
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| where are some good places to filipinas in korea? i am willing to try. |
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spliff
Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 2:48 am Post subject: |
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| guido wrote: |
| This explains a lot about you Spliff....I always wondered what you were like...for all the times you try to be quick witted and cool...you are just one of those guys....hahahaha...classic |
Yep, just one of those guys w/ a really great wife, thank you!  |
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aarontendo
Joined: 08 Feb 2006
Location: Daegu-ish
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 3:04 am Post subject: |
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| guido wrote: |
| This explains a lot about you Spliff....I always wondered what you were like...for all the times you try to be quick witted and cool...you are just one of those guys....hahahaha...classic |
Yeah I met some nice girls in Thailand, hell it seems the dating scene there is a bit better than here.
If by one of those guys you mean good taste in women or something than I might have to agree there  |
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mike123_ca
Joined: 12 Mar 2003
Location: wandering between Chonan and Asan
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Beej wrote:
I knew your wife is a daughter of Issan, is she with you in Korea now?
spliff wrote:
Yeah, she's been here a year now and is getting quite accustomed to K-Land.
Daughter of Issan, first time I've heard that, but I like it.
My wife is from Ubon Ratchathani. I was wondering where your wife is from? |
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ttompatz
Joined: 05 Sep 2005
Location: Kwangju, South Korea
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 4:25 am Post subject: |
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| mistermasan wrote: |
| where are some good places to filipinas in korea? i am willing to try. |
The English service at any catholic church in the country will be full of them.
You can also pick your favorite Filipino store, sit down, have a coffee and wait for them to come in. Strike up a conversation and go from there.
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spliff
Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 1:47 pm Post subject: |
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| mike123_ca wrote: |
Beej wrote:
I knew your wife is a daughter of Issan, is she with you in Korea now?
spliff wrote:
Yeah, she's been here a year now and is getting quite accustomed to K-Land.
Daughter of Issan, first time I've heard that, but I like it.
My wife is from Ubon Ratchathani. I was wondering where your wife is from? |
Khon Kaen |
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boyne11
Joined: 08 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 2:58 pm Post subject: |
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| spliff wrote: |
| mike123_ca wrote: |
Beej wrote:
I knew your wife is a daughter of Issan, is she with you in Korea now?
spliff wrote:
Yeah, she's been here a year now and is getting quite accustomed to K-Land.
Daughter of Issan, first time I've heard that, but I like it.
My wife is from Ubon Ratchathani. I was wondering where your wife is from? |
Khon Kaen |
What's the visa process for bringing your Thai wives to Korea?
Is it same as the Filipinas? |
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spliff
Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Location: Khon Kaen, Thailand
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 3:04 pm Post subject: |
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| Same for bringing any foreign spouse. Very easy if you have the paperwork at hand. |
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xingyiman
Joined: 12 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 3:21 pm Post subject: |
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| aarontendo wrote: |
| guido wrote: |
| This explains a lot about you Spliff....I always wondered what you were like...for all the times you try to be quick witted and cool...you are just one of those guys....hahahaha...classic |
Yeah I met some nice girls in Thailand, hell it seems the dating scene there is a bit better than here.
If by one of those guys you mean good taste in women or something than I might have to agree there |
Yeah Thai girls are nice. But there is a chasm between the cultures that is much greater than what would be experienced with a filipina. The US owned the Philippines for 50 years and they are comfortable with much of American culture. Although I have met many nice Thai women I honestly think I could never be more than a boyfriend. From what I have observed I am very happy I married a Filipina. There's the dowry system and all that "show of wealth" loss of face garbage that just makes life too complicated from what I have observed. You better be careful about commenting on how dating in Korea can be a bit hard. Some of the resident "playboys" will start giving you a hard time for being a loser, burger flipping, toolbox who could only date fat chicks back home. Nearly everyone I met in Thailand who has come from Korea disses the daing scene there. Very few people I knew there ever dated seriously. Please don't get me started on the "myth" of easy Korean gals. |
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