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nicholas_chiasson · Joined: 14 Jun 2007 Location: Samcheok

friends are a reflection of your own personality. Mine stink. That is correct grammar if you've figured it out.

endo · Joined: 14 Mar 2004 Location: Seoul...my home

mikeyboy122 · Joined: 28 Feb 2008 Location: namyang

Look first within your heart. If you can't find the answer there, good luck.

SuperFly · Joined: 09 Jul 2003 Location: In the doghouse

"some people would rob their mother for the ends"

mikeyboy122 · Joined: 28 Feb 2008 Location: namyang

Indeed, your wisdom is evident.

endo · Joined: 14 Mar 2004 Location: Seoul...my home

nicholas_chiasson · Joined: 14 Jun 2007 Location: Samcheok

Newbie · Joined: 07 Feb 2003

Haven't had a bad friend since grade 6... having a bad friend is the same as having a bad hogwan job, it's all your fault. Either your fault for not doing your research, or your fault for being too sensitive.

regicide · Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Location: United States

Julius · Joined: 27 Jul 2006

jajdude · Joined: 18 Jan 2003

Ah, I've just been stupid enough to help people who never respond in kind. I bet we all know at least one jerk like that. Say you lend them $100 or whatever, and suddenly they lose all memory or buy you one beer and next say, "Your round." Now $100, big deal, that was just an example. My experiences have been much larger than that when it comes to jerks I was foolish enough to befriend.

NAVFC · Joined: 10 May 2006

bacasper · Joined: 26 Mar 2007

I consider friends important, and I would do whatever I can for a true one, yet more times than I care to remember I have been sorely disappointed in them. I don't believe I did anything wrong in any of the cases (in one case questionable), and in not all of them were circumstances external to blame.

Then again, I even had family like that, so yeah, many people really do suck. At least some friends have lasted decades, and for that I am grateful.

Julius · Joined: 27 Jul 2006

Dome Vans · Guest

I have a definate distinction between friends and best friends. The thing I've found that friends can just drift apart, maybe they go off and have other friends, change as a person and then the inevitable drifting apart and losing contact.

I have had friends that at the time that we have a really good laugh and for the moment it's really good. But I would say that being quite a sensitive person and understanding people very well, I am able to tell straight off whether that person will be a best friend or not. How people act and their opinions can tell you a lot about them.

As such I have one absolute best friend from secondary. We don't need to be in constant contact but how he is, is what I look for in a friend. I've had loads of friends that I've had so much fun with, namely work friends but usually that's where that friendship stays, if you see what I mean. If you are lucky to meet a friend at work then that's great but most often they're friends that just stay at the workplace.

Usually very quickly you can see if a person is brash, arrogant, big mouthed, aggressive, rude, racist etc. This is a turnoff straight away. These are the people to steer clear of and not invest too much trust in, because more often that not it'll be misplaced.

In Korea I've not met anyone who I'd consider an amazing friend but there are a couple of people who are consistently good to hang around with, and I'm sure I'll be friends with them for a long time. Even though I'm in Korea I'm not desperate to hang out with people I don't like. Just because I'm abroad I'm not going to hang out with somebody just because I need company. Other people here serve their purpose, a football friend etc. But as with most friends I wouldn't divulge anything about my personal circumstances or feelings, that's saved for my family and my best friends. I'm always very careful with who I confide in.