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Cornfed
Joined: 14 Mar 2008
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 6:53 pm Post subject: Explaining why you're not married |
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| Koreans seem to think it is bizzare that a man over 30 should not be married and wonder why this should be so. I have thus far evaded the question rather than encumbering them with my views on the state of Western women, the raw deal that men get in marriage in the West and the peculiar idea of marriage generally, as I think it is possible that this might cause some resentment. What do other single men generally say? |
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Catullus

Joined: 09 Apr 2008
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 6:57 pm Post subject: Re: Explaining why you're not married |
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| Cornfed wrote: |
| I have thus far evaded the question rather than encumbering them with my views on the state of Western women, the raw deal that men get in marriage in the West and the peculiar idea of marriage generally |
Could you elaborate a bit more? I have never thought about marriage very deeply; I still consider myself too young to be considering it seriously. I would like to hear the opinions of someone older and more experienced than I am�if you don�t mind. |
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cornie_man

Joined: 31 Jul 2005 Location: Sparkling in Korea
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:00 pm Post subject: |
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| (Shrug) - best answer ever! |
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michael5799042
Joined: 16 Jan 2008
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:02 pm Post subject: |
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| I pretend I am shocked that they asked me and I say "But I am so young!" It gets a laugh and deflects the question. |
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caniff
Joined: 03 Feb 2004 Location: All over the map
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:02 pm Post subject: |
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| We have 'Cornfed' and 'cornie' in the first three posts. WTF is going on here? |
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Cornfed
Joined: 14 Mar 2008
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:08 pm Post subject: Re: Explaining why you're not married |
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| Catullus wrote: |
| Could you elaborate a bit more? I have never thought about marriage very deeply; I still consider myself too young to be considering it seriously. I would like to hear the opinions of someone older and more experienced than I am�if you don�t mind. |
I don't really want to turn the thread into a rant, but if you're interested the following illustrated blog seems to summarize the issue nicely.
http://loseloseprospect.blogspot.com/ |
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IncognitoHFX

Joined: 06 May 2007 Location: Yeongtong, Suwon
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:10 pm Post subject: |
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I get harrassed constantly about that at work. Mainly by students, both my younger students (girls who want to be married by eighteen) and my older students, who think one should at least be engaged by my age (married at 25).
I tried to convince them otherwise... but nope, I'd have to reverse what their parents said.
Anyway, my male students don't care. They just want to have mastered Starcraft 2 by then. |
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Young FRANKenstein

Joined: 02 Oct 2006 Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:22 pm Post subject: Re: Explaining why you're not married |
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| Cornfed wrote: |
| What do other single men generally say? |
"Are you proposing to me?" |
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nobbyken

Joined: 07 Jun 2006 Location: Yongin ^^
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:39 pm Post subject: |
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Tell them you're not sure which way you swing!  |
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bogey666

Joined: 17 Mar 2008 Location: Korea, the ass free zone
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:39 pm Post subject: Re: Explaining why you're not married |
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| Cornfed wrote: |
| Koreans seem to think it is bizzare that a man over 30 should not be married and wonder why this should be so. I have thus far evaded the question rather than encumbering them with my views on the state of Western women, the raw deal that men get in marriage in the West and the peculiar idea of marriage generally, as I think it is possible that this might cause some resentment. What do other single men generally say? |
I'm sure I'll get this question and my answer will be
haven't felt like it.
have seen no need to.
more downside than upside.
or perhaps the best would be
why should I become an ajosshi before my time? |
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RJjr

Joined: 17 Aug 2006 Location: Turning on a Lamp
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:49 pm Post subject: |
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Since my students have always been young, I've always told them that women always say no when I ask them to marry me.
Of course, the real reasons are many.
I don't want kids and that would be the only reason to get married, and I probably still wouldn't get married then because of financial reasons.
Over the years of managing truck drivers, I've heard them all complain about their marriages...how they caught their wives cheating or their wives complained that the drivers didn't make enough money and so on. I would do the payroll for my fleet and most of them had alimony and/or child support coming out of their checks. Some divorced drivers said they were driving so they could have a truck to live in since their wife had taken the house in the divorce. It seems like women pretty much always win the house in divorces.
I've dated American and Korean women who financially raped their ex-husbands in divorce and the husbands had been the ones working hard and had been paying for everything already while the women leached until the Big Divorce Court Payday.
No thanks. If I want a wife, I'll just borrow one for a while. |
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gangpae
Joined: 03 Sep 2007 Location: Busan
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:52 pm Post subject: Re: Explaining why you're not married |
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| Cornfed wrote: |
| Koreans seem to think it is bizzare that a man over 30 should not be married and wonder why this should be so. I have thus far evaded the question rather than encumbering them with my views on the state of Western women, the raw deal that men get in marriage in the West and the peculiar idea of marriage generally, as I think it is possible that this might cause some resentment. What do other single men generally say? |
Exactly, blame Oprah and change the subject. |
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genezorm

Joined: 01 Jul 2007 Location: Mokpo
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:57 pm Post subject: |
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| i just say "yo i'm a playa and i like to play with different girls everyday" |
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Atavistic
Joined: 22 May 2006 Location: How totally stupid that Korean doesn't show in this area.
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| Western female bashing in the first post. A fine representation. Good job. |
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bogey666

Joined: 17 Mar 2008 Location: Korea, the ass free zone
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 8:07 pm Post subject: |
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Since my students have always been young, I've always told them that women always say no when I ask them to marry me.
Of course, the real reasons are many.
I don't want kids and that would be the only reason to get married, and I probably still wouldn't get married then because of financial reasons.
Over the years of managing truck drivers, I've heard them all complain about their marriages...how they caught their wives cheating or their wives complained that the drivers didn't make enough money and so on. I would do the payroll for my fleet and most of them had alimony and/or child support coming out of their checks. Some divorced drivers said they were driving so they could have a truck to live in since their wife had taken the house in the divorce. It seems like women pretty much always win the house in divorces.
I've dated American and Korean women who financially raped their ex-husbands in divorce and the husbands had been the ones working hard and had been paying for everything already while the women leached until the Big Divorce Court Payday.
No thanks. If I want a wife, I'll just borrow one for a while. |
AGREED. |
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