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shawner88
Joined: 01 Feb 2003
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 Posted: Mon Dec 08, 2003 10:56 pm Post subject: Scolded for not bowing to my bosses mother.... |
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| My bosses mother comes to the hagwon everyday. Everyday I stand up and bow and say "Anyong hashimnikka!" and sit down. Today I saw her and she was talking to my bosses wife. I didn't bow or say anything, they looked busy. The halmony flipped her lid and cursed me out for a full minute in Korean. It was really embarrassing. I don't mind showing respect, but cut me a break here... |
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kangnamdragon
Joined: 17 Jan 2003
Location: Kangnam, Seoul, Korea
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| Posted: Mon Dec 08, 2003 11:13 pm Post subject: |
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Tell her if it weren't for Americans, she'd still be speaking Japanese!!!
....kidding |
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Swiss James
Joined: 26 Nov 2003
Location: Shanghai
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| Posted: Mon Dec 08, 2003 11:15 pm Post subject: |
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| I guess you just live, learn, and do it next time- not worth kicking up a fuss about. |
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rapier
Joined: 16 Feb 2003
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| Posted: Tue Dec 09, 2003 1:07 am Post subject: |
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I was showing the new teacher around the hakwon. I totally forgot to introduce him to the bosses wife(who was stood waiting)- just walked past her and asked her to make coffee for us. 
Took her a few days to get over that. |
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ratslash
Joined: 08 May 2003
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| Posted: Tue Dec 09, 2003 1:27 am Post subject: |
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| loser! (not you op, your boss!) why do you have to bow anyway? if she better than you just because she is older? no. like today, some old guy pushed in front of me at the bank. i wouldn't usually mind but i had been waiting for twenty minutes. i don't mind showing elderly people some leniency and some respect, but do you really deserve respect just because you are older? |
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Mr. Pink
Joined: 21 Oct 2003
Location: China
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| Posted: Tue Dec 09, 2003 2:33 am Post subject: |
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| Haha I wouldn't bow after the first time I met her. It drives my wife nuts I only do it the first time I meet someone, after that, I figure the bow is like a handshake...something that should be done once, after that you are aquainted...I know Korea isn't like that, but sheesh, at least I bowed once! |
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On the other hand
Joined: 19 Apr 2003
Location: I walk along the avenue
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| Posted: Tue Dec 09, 2003 5:31 am Post subject: |
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| why do you have to bow anyway? if she better than you just because she is older? |
Probably not. But you can probably analyze any social convention to expose its underlying absurdity. A person from some country where people don't say "Nice to meet you" when first meeting someone could wonder about THAT custom. Why do I have to tell that guy it's nice to meet him? We just met, why should I be expected to like him, how do I know he's not a real jerk, and so on and so forth.
But, of course, radically critiquing a custom does not negate the basic social benefits that result from following it. |
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in_seoul_2003
Joined: 24 Nov 2003
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| Posted: Tue Dec 09, 2003 5:47 am Post subject: |
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TECO
Joined: 20 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Tue Dec 09, 2003 6:03 am Post subject: |
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They don't expect us to do it because we're foreigners.
Never bowed in Japan either.
Foreigners who do it look stupid. |
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khyber
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: Compunction Junction
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| Posted: Tue Dec 09, 2003 6:50 am Post subject: |
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usually i barely bow to my boss
just tilt a bet and mumble .hansogn
that can be enough for me |
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On the other hand
Joined: 19 Apr 2003
Location: I walk along the avenue
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