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[gajackson1]

http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/couplesandmarriage/articlecosmo.aspx?cp-documentid=7822448&GT1=32001

for those who don't want to read it all, here are the 'Big 5' ~

Trait 1: She's Exciting and Always Evolving

Trait 2: She Really, Really Loves Sex

Trait 3: She Makes It Clear He's Not Her Entire Life

Trait 4: ...Yet She Still Conveys How Very Important He Is to Her

Trait 5: She Wants Him to Be the Best Man He Can Be

I realize this, sadly, is not the same board it was years ago, and the discussion will probably slide fast. But i thought it was an interesting read, even for a quickie Cosmo blurb, and wondered about others takes on it? Think this is a American/Western standard? Age, race, other factors figure in? Does this seem 'about right' to the guys here? Girls, is Cosmo right about this??? Perhaps most importantly, what do you think Koreans would say about these standards???

Glen

(for the record, it took 20 years and a move 1/2 way around the world, but I got mine:D)

[ciccone_youth]

It sounds about right... but what would I know. I think I'm all those things yet unmarried

[chapter]

I'd agree

1) Hey it keeps things interesting. It keeps things from getting boring.

2) NO explanation needed.

3 & 4) Yeah who doesn't want to feel important in a relationship and in saying that we don't want to be smothered and feel like we can't have a life outside of the relationship either.

5) Never hurts to have someone keep you on your toes.

[little mixed girl]

if i were to make a list, it would be somewhat similar.
i wouldn't have put the sex on there, because i wouldn't have been thinking about it.

but i think that those are things that apply to both men and women.
i wouldn't want to be with a guy who made me the center of his world and agreed with everything i said.

and people need encouragement and support. that means giving them some praise when they do something good and support when they do something bad. no one likes it when their partner only focuses on the wrong and never the good.

[bassexpander]

As long as she does 1 thru 5 in high-heels, I think we're all good.

[RJjr]

Those aren't the five reasons for marriage. Those are the five reasons for divorce.

Trait 1: She's Exciting and Always Evolving = She argues a lot and is no longer the same girl he married.

Trait 2: She Really, Really Loves Sex = She's sleeping with other men.

Trait 3: She Makes It Clear He's Not Her Entire Life = She comes home late at night smelling like alcohol and cheap cologne.

Trait 4: ...Yet She Still Conveys How Very Important He Is to Her = She wants him to do the honey-do list of chores.

Trait 5: She Wants Him to Be the Best Man He Can Be = He's not making enough money.

[rusty1983]

I think you get married when you find someone as desperate and insecure as you are

[Faunaki]

[nolegirl]

[bovinerebel]

[Cornfed]

Except in exceptional circumstances where the woman is rich or something, there's no reason for a man to get married other than for sex on tap. Sure, he might want to form a spiritual bond with a kindred spirit and all that gay stuff, but why would he do this with a woman when just about anything else (another man, a dog, cat, goldfish, pet rock etc.) would be far more suitable for such purposes? So men typically marry a woman they think is going to be attractive, faithful and available for sex for a long time. It's as simple as that. Generally their assessment of the situation subsequently proves to have been wildly optimistic.

[Atavistic]

[Faunaki]

[Suwon23]

Number 5 seems like the kind of thing women think men should want in a woman. But isn't the most common complaint of men in relationships that their significant other is constantly trying to "improve" them? I had a girlfriend once who even used the word"fix" (in the improvement sense, not the veterinary sense ). It was infuriating.