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[Real Reality]

Sex Matters to Women Who Say It Doesn't: Study
Chosun Ilbo (October 26, 2005)
http://english.chosun.com/w21data/html/news/200510/200510260017.html

[jdog2050]

[samd]

[endo]

^ I have to agree with SamD here.


My Korean co-worker, a great guy and a devoted Christian, lexplained it to me.

He used to work for a large newspaper and we got to discussing room salons.

Well he told me that back when he worked for the paper, his boss would often bring his associates for drinks at a room salon. And often the boss would pay the services of a girl to take care of the guy (usually hand or blow job, but sometimes full on sex).

I was quite surprised to hear this. Now I (young, non-married, male) would likely be all over this so I wasn't judging anyone here.

However, I just couldn't picture my co-worker being into this stuff.


I asked his if being a Christian made him a hypocrite.


He kind of agreed, but defended himself by saying that he really had no choice in the matter. Basically if he said no, his boss would perhaps get angry.

His boss could possibly not even promote him as by not taking part in the room salon activities, he would be seen as an outside within the group.


There was a lot of pure-pressure going on here.



My co-worker also explaind how he discussed this topic with his wife. She had obviously brought it up and he said to her that he basically loose his job if he didn't partake in those extracurricular activities.

She eventually persuaded him to take a job at a private school, which paid less, but also had a set closing time.


It was a really interesting conversation.

[aldershot]

but endo and samd, it's still bloody cheating. whether it's "forced" or not (and i don't believe it to be completely forced-- free will abounds my friends) is moot. monogamy is the topic of discussion and going to room salons and gettin' your freak on with a woman other than your wife doesn't constitute its definition.

[Real Reality]

Sex Buying Practices Still Rampant: Survey
By Kim Cheong-won, Korea Times (December 15, 2005)
old link: http://times.hankooki.com/lpage/nation/200512/kt2005121517170211960.htm
alternative link: http://news.empas.com/show.tsp/cp_kt/20051215n21251

[Paji eh Wong]

Monogamy is new in Korea. The locals aren't used to it.

The hand wringing that goes on around Dave's is funny.

Infidelity in Korea is either a "bug" or its a "feature". Its up to you how you look at it.

[Scotticus]

[Oreovictim]

Ha-ha! Interesting post. I knew this Korean woman who seemed a bit strange to the other Koreans. She was 31 at the time and not married. Next thing I knew, she was engaged to a guy that she used to know. They were to be married in three months. The guy was nice enough to me, but he was a baby to his wife. He expected to be pampered a lot.

While we're on the topic, I have a question or two. Someone mentioned that women get about 30% or so in a divorce. What happens if she marries and then divorces a foreigner? Does the ratio change? Does she get 70% or something like that. I shouldn't assume that foreigners would get screwed, but I wouldn't be surprised.

Also, why do Korean guys cheat? Is it just because they can or because their wives aren't putting out? A few people have told me that it's common for Korean women, once they push out a baby or two, for their sex drive to drop completely. Of course, the people who told me this happen to be foreigners who aren't married to Korean women.

I don't know if anyone in or around Seoul notices this, but I've noticed something weird in Bundang. I always see really hot-looking wives or girlfriends with Korean guys who are either ugly, pudgy, shorter than average, etc. Perhaps they got set up, and the guys got really lucky, but I have another idea. Being that it's Bundang, I'll just assume that money talks, and these guys happen to make mega bucks.

[bogey666]

[Atavistic]

Yes, Incognito, there is NO monogamy in ANY east-Asian country.

None.

Whatsoever.

Or...maybe it's just the women you choose.

[ardis]

Well, over half of my friends from home have divorced parents because one or both cheated, so I feel like I can't really point fingers. Monogamy is hard pressed to find ANYWHERE in the world, Asia being no exception.

[RJjr]

[mikeyboy122]

To get divorced in Korea is shameful to the old folks. My gal, who is 52 and quite active in that kind of way, told me her mother said she would commit suicide if she were ever to divorce. No sh*t! Appearances are everything here. Even though many of them are deceptive. 40 plus Korean woman are WAY more attentive to their man than the younger ones. The first Korean I dated was 27. Good lookin' and all but she was gimme, gimme, gimme like I was lucky to be with her. AND she sucked in that one room, you know? But not the kind of suck I preferred. My 52 year old sweety practically kills me everytime. And it's ALL good to her. Check it out. Low mileage or killer ride. Which do you prefer? Keep the new car smell, I'll keep my back breaker.

[RJjr]

How old are you?