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kangnam mafioso
Joined: 27 Jan 2003 Location: Teheranno
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 8:03 am Post subject: Tired of the Traveling Life |
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| Do you ever get sick of the traveling lifestyle? Bouncing around from one place to the next, no ties to family or stable friends, weekends in Hongdae scoping for one night stands, living in a box controlled by your boss, not understanding 95% of what's being said around you, disconnected from your own culture and history, drinking and partying all the time and not having any roots or a place to call your own? |
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IconsFanatic
Joined: 19 Jan 2003
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 8:07 am Post subject: |
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Yup, that's why I'm leaving when my contract is up. It was an interesting experience, but I can't see how people can become "lifers".
Off to Ing-gur-lund! |
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mithridates

Joined: 03 Mar 2003 Location: President's office, Korean Space Agency
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 8:15 am Post subject: |
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That doesn't sound very fun the way you put it. Here's the life I've got:
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I have my own place here, a nice Officetel in Sanbon.
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| no ties to family or stable friends, |
No ties to family, that's true, though I have some good friends here. I would like to make more money so that I could invite some of my Canadian friends over from time to time though.
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| weekends in Hongdae scoping for one night stands, |
hmm...
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| living in a box controlled by your boss, |
I have no boss!
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| not understanding 95% of what's being said around you, |
No problem there.
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| disconnected from your own culture and history, |
That's interesting. I'll have to give that some thought as I hadn't really pondered what my culture actually is before. I'm a lifer here, but I wouldn't mind going back around Christmas.
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| drinking and partying all the time and not having any roots or a place to call your own? |
I don't drink very much...
But if I were living the way you described it, I think I would be quite sick of the life by now. I could see how a whole year could go by with lesson plans / arguing with the boss and co-workers / trying to convince the hagwon to give one a better room or different roommate...
And you? Are you living the travelling lifestyle here?
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TECO

Joined: 20 Jan 2003
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 8:17 am Post subject: |
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You go through certain periods in your life.
20 -30 year olds love it.
Lots of people here, though, who get married and settle down. |
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shawner88

Joined: 01 Feb 2003
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 8:57 am Post subject: |
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| I tend to idealize travelling to where I can't wait to get out of Korea and check out some new place, only to get there and after a few days count down the time until I can fly back to Korea. |
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Cthulhu

Joined: 02 Feb 2003
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 10:42 am Post subject: |
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In my opinion the instability with friends is one of the toughest things about teaching anywhere abroad. Sure, friends come and go back home, but in Korea (for example) it's accelerated and at a more regular pace. It's like a revolving door where someone you know well leaves every year and you make new friends all the time and the cycle repeats itself. It's especially tough if you settle down and don't hit the foreigner hangouts as much--the circle of friends thins out.
Some people like it and some don't mind, but not me. I had enough of it being a military brat. |
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Clutch Cargo

Joined: 28 Feb 2003 Location: Sim City 2005
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 4:14 pm Post subject: |
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| Getting a bit tired of it myself. I've been contemplating returning home after this 'tract and getting back into the mainstream. A couple of hitches with a plan I'd made for next year came up, and I realised the actual amount of time it would take here to do what I wanted to do was/is more than I'm prepared to commit. It's almost an about-face but I'm starting to realise how difficult it may be to get established back home if I return in another few years. Feelings of isolation and homesickness have compounded it all. Will take a drop in pay to do this I expect, but money is a poor substitute for having a life. |
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canuckistan Mod Team


Joined: 17 Jun 2003 Location: Training future GS competitors.....
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 4:23 pm Post subject: |
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| For 8 years I was running a company traveling between 3 cities never living in one place for more than 3 days. Korea has given me the chance to be planted, enjoy my free time and home just being an employee for a change! |
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Emma Clare

Joined: 24 May 2003 Location: Anseong, sung, song.
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 4:30 pm Post subject: |
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| Some people like it and some don't mind, but not me. I had enough of it being a military brat. |
Ditto. I had enough of being pushed and pulled all over the place as a kid, for the same reason. My Mother told me that by the time I was 19 I'd lived at 21 different addresses! I think that's why part of me finds it really hard to settle down in one place for very long. Yet I always envied people who still had childhood friends. Lost count of the number of primary schools I went to!
Even as an adult I never seem to permanently reside in one place for any longer than around 6 months. BUT I'm starting to get sick of packing my bags, yet again. I'd really love to just find some place, have a home, a family, some stability in my life, and just grow old and content. |
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katydid

Joined: 02 Feb 2003 Location: Here kitty kitty kitty...
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 5:36 pm Post subject: |
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| I'm starting to get sick of packing my bags, yet again. I'd really love to just find some place, have a home, a family, some stability in my life, and just grow old and content. |
Oh god...hear, hear. I have two months to go myself. Hate saying this, the easiest thing is to stay here. The money is good.
But I really feel my personal life is suffering, as the people I meet (or when there is a blue moon, date) won't be here for very long and I am starting to hate the whole transient lifestyle. I really envy those here who came to Korea with their boyfriend or their best friend and are sharing their experiences together.
I can't imagine many guys here are looking for what I want, I imagine lots are looking for one night stands as Kangnam Mafioso mentioned. It just happens to be easier emotionally for them to do that. |
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dominic

Joined: 10 Mar 2003 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 6:37 pm Post subject: most |
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| most people who work in schools...their boss owns the house. I'm 27 and I dont love it anymore, im leaving after my contract too, the "culture" is getting on my last nerve. |
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weatherman

Joined: 14 Jan 2003 Location: Korea
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 9:16 pm Post subject: |
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I have never really thought that my life in Korea was even apart of the travelling life. I live in Korea, pay taxes, work, try to be a good citizen, I don't really feel I am a traveller. I think the life style of an ESL teacher in Korea has more to do with personality than the industry itself. Korea can be a very tempting place coming from small town (or even big city) north america, and not giving too much into this all the temptations out there is a must. It is called moderation, something I am still trying to learn.  |
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Corporal

Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 10:03 pm Post subject: Re: Tired of the Traveling Life |
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| kangnam mafioso wrote: |
| Do you ever get sick of the traveling lifestyle? Bouncing around from one place to the next, no ties to family or stable friends, weekends in Hongdae scoping for one night stands, living in a box controlled by your boss, not understanding 95% of what's being said around you, disconnected from your own culture and history, drinking and partying all the time and not having any roots or a place to call your own? |
The one in italics is the only one I'll give you.
A flaw, albeit an understandable one, of many of the members of this board is that they assume every foreigner in Korea is living the same lifestyle they are. |
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whatthefunk

Joined: 21 Apr 2003 Location: Dont have a clue
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 10:09 pm Post subject: |
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 10:16 pm Post subject: |
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| weatherman wrote: |
I have never really thought that my life in Korea was even apart of the travelling life. I live in Korea, pay taxes, work, try to be a good citizen, I don't really feel I am a traveller. I think the life style of an ESL teacher in Korea has more to do with personality than the industry itself. Korea can be a very tempting place coming from small town (or even big city) north america, and not giving too much into this all the temptations out there is a must. It is called moderation, something I am still trying to learn.  |
Yeah Korea's pretty tame as far as a "travelling lifestyle" goes. You're for the most part going to have a reasonable degree of stability when it comes to living space, job etc. You've got a base, you can settle down and make some friends and learn about the place a little more than you can when you're on the road and moving every few days and continually having to readjust to new cities, new hotels, new public transport, new people etc. Sometimes when I was in some old hotel in a place like India I'd lie in bed at night and wonder in the past just how many people had actually died in the bed I was sleeping in. I don't worry about that here.
That's a good thing.
Seriously. |
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