Korean Job Discussion Forums

[cocochanel]

I'm a Western woman of average height and build (not grossly overweight, but definitely not anorexic either). I consider myself fairly intelligent, and although I have been a bit of a doormat (even by Western standards) in the past, I don't like to take an extraordinary amount of guff. I wonder how this would (if at all, affect my chances in the Korean dating scene). Any advice?


cocochanel

[Tiger Beer]

Is anyone else waiting for TMTATM and Kiwiboy and a few others to pull out the charms on this post?

[Derrek]

Well, look at it this way...

If you are blonde, you will get hit up by several korean guys asking you if you are a Russian prostitute. You might get paid for your dates!

But with a name like "coco" I am betting you are not a blonde.

All I can say is that if you end up dating any guys from Africa... make sure he WRAPS IT! The Aids rate is like 40% there. A friend of mine's boyfriend was from Cameroon, and although he seemed nice, you never know what bad luck partner he might have run into there before coming to Korea.

Always good to wrap it in any case.

[Mr. Pink]

I think it all depends if you like Korean men or not.

I rarely see foreigners dating who have met in country. On the other hand I see A LOT of foreign woman who date or have married Korean men. In fact I even work with one

[osangrl]

Female advice:

I don't understand what the guys are talking about. Im a tall blonde, average build Canadian girl. I have never had a problem dating here. I will give you a rundown on the men as Ive experienced.

Korean
I have dated one Korean guy, but even though he could speak average English, I just couldn't stand it, felt like I was babysitting. Korean men on a whole, are very intimidated by English speakers. Yes, they are fascinated with us foreign women, but to actually come up and talk to us is a different story. Yes you may get hit up for being a prostitute, but its not that bad. Whatever.

Teachers
I haven't really dated a teacher here. Shagged a few, but thats it. They also have a reputation among the females as "trolls", but so do us girls. They usually prefer to date Korean women. But again, in my experience, I think if it were the right time or whatever, it would be no problem to find a teacher to date, but its all in taste. The boys are not that bad..... there is an ongoing fight girl vs boys on here... but i just think its a lot of hullabaloo.

Business men
They are everywhere. From everywhere. American, French, British, Australia etc. If you can snag one of these they have the greatest apartments, alot of money...but not much time. Nice, educated and usually respectful gentlemen.

American G.I's
We could go on about this one forever. So a guy who's life is run by the government, their paychecks are not so good, and they are only here for a year.....so he doesn't look so appealing for a serious relationship. Who cares? Alot of them are hot. Big, muscular, really want a western girlfriend and will treat you like a queen. Most of them are retards spawn out of the pit of hell, but some of them , Officers, or higher ranked ones are fantastic. Stay away from the young ones, make sure they are not married. whatever.

Africans..mostly Nigerian
As shivers of disgust run down my spine even writing this section. Ok, so these guys are everywhere. And they will try anything to get in your pants. They are annoying, creepy and aggressive. Newbies have a hard time with them especially. They are friendly at first, but to many of them, buying you a drink, means he can rape you at the end of the night. I hope i don't get blasted by that comment....but through experience in my first month here, most of them are SCUM. Stay away from them no matter how lonely you are.

Hmmm.... i feel like im forgetting a category. But again, people remember these are my experiences, and don't blast me please.

To conclude, if your not a beast, dating here is not a problem. I call it my permanent spring break. Its a thriving sex pit here if you know how to go out and get it. Im in a relationship now, have been for over a year. Which category? Can't say

Good luck, have fun, and don't worry.


cheers!




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[Tiger Beer]

Yeah, I'd say OsanGirl hit the mark on the head though.

Male foreign teachers and female foreign teachers don't seem to date much at all. But occassionally they do. I'd say maybe 10% foreign guys prefer the foreign girls, but the majority tend to go way off in the other direction - generally. I've known some pretty hot relationships between the two now and then again however. Some foreign guys swear by it as the girls don't have as many dating options.. or at least thats perception.

American GI's generally tend to be the big ones for most foreign English teachers. As OsanGirl mentioned, they have very attractive physical features, plus a lot of them have really kind of old-fashioned values, meaning not really playing. They actually have legitimate family-like values and can be sweethearts from what I hear. Plus most of them are extremely interested in all kinds of Western girls - they don't seem to get as infected with the Asian Girl virus as the English teachers.

Regarding Korean men, yeah, that seems to be common perception as OsanGirl mentioned.. however there are a few married women on the forum who met a Korean guy and married him. So thats not necessarily not an option. Its just getting use to different male/female relations being the biggest hurdle on that one.

[little mixed girl]

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[katydid]

Looking back on it, I haven't had too much trouble dating here with Korean guys...it's finding the ones who want to make things stick that might be difficult.
To me, the guys, the Korean guys, seem really insincere, and they will pay for you and be really attentive with you on the phone, but then just cut and run whenever they want and offer lame excuses. Or they may want only English lessons from you.
There are a lot of foreign guys here that are damn good-looking, but it's tricky to find one who isn't blinded by the lovely K-girls or doesn't turn out to be really really really odd.
If you are out for just fun, you might have no problems, and I have seen around here that the foreign guys and girls, while just friends, still can act really chummy and touchy feely with each other. It just depends on the people. But yeah, most people here have the "It's only one year" mentality, so if you just want fun, then you'll be OK. If you are looking for a serious relationship, things might be harder.

[Tiberious aka Sparkles]

[hellofaniceguy]

I know I'll get flamed for what I'm about to write, and I'm not trolling. So be it. But from what I have seen of korean males, (they are not men) I would never want my daughter to marry one, let alone date one. Her choice though.
Even foreign women who I know, regret being married to a korean male after a few years, let alone korean women being married to a korean male. Why do you think that the divorce rate is the second highest in the world! Sure, the U.S. is number one in divorces. But the U.S. has four times as many people! For a small population, when compared to the U.S., the divorce rate proves that korean males are not desired. They are their own worst doing. They come on strong, wine and dine, etc.... but still cling to the stupid things that they do; chauvinistic, domineering, controlling, I'm the "man" and your the woman so you obey me attitude" who still run around after marriage; singing rooms, prostitutes, drinking till they drop, etc. I am sure the same could be said for men from other countries but it's not as prevalent as in korea. They talk of family values and say, "it's our culture to be family orientated." But most will agree with me, the family values are all talk and talk is cheap. They are long on rhetoric and short on specifics. Just watch the news and see all the korean men who are involved in scandals! It's all superficial, the korean myth of family values.
I don't for one believe that foreign men come to korea, Japan, France or elsewhere to only meet women. If two people click, great. It doesn't matter which two countries they are from. Relationships will happen no matter where you live. And sometimes we think the grass is green on the other side when it's not. I suppose some men and women from whatever country they are from could not make a relationship work and try elsewhere. Who knows. We are all looking for Mr./Ms. right. No one wants to be alone. One night stands are common in korea just like other countries. Sex makes the world go round. Everyone wants that special person that has technique and makes them feel special. It just so happens that many men think that korean women have great technique. What we need to be doing is communicating with our partner if we're not satisified instead of running around looking for 10 minutes of pleasure!

[indiercj]

[crazylemongirl]

I think being here is a lot like university. It's easy to get laid, there are avenues for having a meaningful relationship if you know where to look.

clg

[Tiger Beer]

[hellofaniceguy]

Geesh!
It was in all the korean newspapers a few months back. The divorce rate. All of this information is available on the internet, although it's buried amidst thousands of legal documents in dozens of languages.
I was not aware of it until students brought it to my attention one day. Korea has the 2nd highest in the world with Jeju do have the highest divirce rate in korea. And Jeju is the honeymoon spot! Go figure! A poster asked "what's the population rate have to do with the divorce rate?" If I have to explain that....
but I will try and break it down for that poster....
It stands to reason that when ever figures are comprised for various reasons; crime rates, accidents, marriages, divorces, etc... Usually the U.S. has the highest figures. Well sure, the U.S. has almost 300 million people so the figures will be among the highest! Korea has 1/4 the population of the U.S. and yet has the 2nd highest rate in divorces. That's an awful lot of divorces for a small country! It's already know fact, according to the organizations which keep track of such things that korea also has the highest group of smokers, alcohol consumption, adoptions and adoptions. Not very good being number one in those areas!
China, which has the largest population, does not "share" it's numbers with the world. They well could have more than the U.S. and korea. Who knows.

[katydid]