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legalquestions
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 Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 6:39 am Post subject: finally getting married in Korea at 50! |
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Thinking of getting married in a couple of months. I'm not (too) dysfunctional; not too desperate, just ready to get married at 51 years of age. Narrowed the selection to a couple of Filipinos (ask me why, if you'd like). One 18 and the other 19.
What should I expect of such a union, living here in Seoul (not that I care/that it matters)?
Anyone with such a similar experience? |
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crusher_of_heads
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Location: kimbop and kimchi for kimberly!!!!
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 6:40 am Post subject: |
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| I can imagine the replies-anyone? Gesler? |
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Join Me
Joined: 14 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 6:57 am Post subject: |
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'One 18 and the other 19." What to expect? ahhhh....divorce? Might want to be asking some questions about whether you can create some sort of prenuptial agreement wherever you intend to get married at.
Honestly though. Congrats and I hope things work out for the best. I think people should do what makes them happy...but you still need to approach life with your eyes open. |
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ttompatz
Joined: 05 Sep 2005
Location: Kwangju, South Korea
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 7:15 am Post subject: Re: finally getting married in Korea at 50! |
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| legalquestions wrote: |
Thinking of getting married in a couple of months. I'm not (too) dysfunctional; not too desperate, just ready to get married at 51 years of age. Narrowed the selection to a couple of Filipinos (ask me why, if you'd like). One 18 and the other 19.
What should I expect of such a union, living here in Seoul (not that I care/that it matters)?
Anyone with such a similar experience? |
You won't have any problem in Korea or Asia in general.
You may want to take a look at:
http://www.asawa.org/
Scroll down to the section at the bottom of the page for such things as:
Section I: Pre-Relationship Education (YOURS)
Section II: Courtship
Section III: Engagement/Marriage
Section IV: Immigration
Section V: Lifetime Issues Section
Then think about going home.... with your young bride.
(or as some at home will look at it, your gold digging, green card seeking, mail-order, trophy bride).
After you have read all that and educated your self then you are in good shape to make a realistic determination on the chances of success in a Fil/Am relationship.
There will be other issues that you will have to deal with in a cross cultural marriage as well.
You WILL have to deal with all of those issues starting with the USCIS and your application for her immigrant visa and it will get worse after that.
This was NOT meant to be demeaning or derogatory in any manner nor was it meant to put a damper on your future plans but just an eye opener.
If you can deal with those issues that WILL arise then you will be in good shape for a long and successful marriage.
My personal opinion is that Pinays make the best wives but there are good wives and bad wives in and from every culture.
Go into it with your eyes as well as your heart open and things should work out pretty good for you.
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Otherside
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 7:39 am Post subject: Re: finally getting married in Korea at 50! |
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| legalquestions wrote: |
Thinking of getting married in a couple of months. I'm not (too) dysfunctional; not too desperate, just ready to get married at 51 years of age. Narrowed the selection to a couple of Filipinos (ask me why, if you'd like). One 18 and the other 19.
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Why? |
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asylum seeker
Joined: 22 Jul 2007
Location: On your computer screen.
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 8:59 am Post subject: Re: finally getting married in Korea at 50! |
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| legalquestions wrote: |
Thinking of getting married in a couple of months. I'm not (too) dysfunctional; not too desperate, just ready to get married at 51 years of age. Narrowed the selection to a couple of Filipinos (ask me why, if you'd like). One 18 and the other 19.
What should I expect of such a union, living here in Seoul (not that I care/that it matters)?
Anyone with such a similar experience? |
Sure they're not a little too over the hill? |
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chemdah
Joined: 09 Mar 2007
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I agree that they make excellent partners. I am dating one, and she is awesome. My advice is to spend time dating in person (not online) before making such a big commitment.
And if you are a half-way decent Westerner, you will treat her with much more respect than a Korean man would. I hate to make that generalization but most of the Pinays I have met in Korea who are married to Korean husbands are dreading the decision. Many of them are treated like housekeepers and abused, having little or no rights even if they wanted to leave.
I know a Pinay who was beaten over the head with the battery of a laptop by her drunk Korean husband because she slightly raised her voice at him. She was sent to a hospital after collapsing. Since she was planning on divorcing this monster, I told her to file a police report and bring the hospital documents as proof.
So she went to the Police station to file a report about the abuse,
and they told her she couldnt file it without
her husband's authorization.  |
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The_Source
Joined: 09 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 12:22 pm Post subject: Re: finally getting married in Korea at 50! |
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| legalquestions wrote: |
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Why don't you marry her in the Philippines so that her family can attend?
We Westerners have forgotten the significance of family values, but Filipinos/as haven't. |
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Jeff's Cigarettes
Joined: 27 Mar 2007
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 2:42 pm Post subject: |
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| I'm 47 and my wife is 20. No problems and we've been married for four years. |
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bassexpander
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 5:03 pm Post subject: |
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| Jeff's Cigarettes wrote: |
| I'm 47 and my wife is 20. No problems and we've been married for four years. |
You married her when she was 16? |
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bassexpander
Joined: 13 Sep 2007
Location: Someplace you'd rather be.
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 5:07 pm Post subject: |
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I almost married a pinay 8 years ago. Check out www.mag-anak.org if you want a good site for that. Lots of discussion where you can meet other guys married to filipinas, get advice, etc. Most of the guys seem to be of a similar age split as you.
I will warn you. I had a VERY nice fiance', but she was a filipina, and had a habit of telling little white lies to make me feel more comfortable about little situations. It drove me nuts. It's a cultural thing I couldn't overcome. |
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Jeff's Cigarettes
Joined: 27 Mar 2007
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 5:07 pm Post subject: |
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| Were u a math major? But, my wife isn't Pinoy. |
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bassexpander
Joined: 13 Sep 2007
Location: Someplace you'd rather be.
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 5:11 pm Post subject: |
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| Jeff's Cigarettes wrote: |
| Were u a math major? But, my wife isn't Pinoy. |
No. Were you a pedophile? |
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Jeff's Cigarettes
Joined: 27 Mar 2007
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 5:17 pm Post subject: |
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| Bass, that's a totally inappropriate reply. And, quite frankly I'm shocked to have this from you. Did someone piss in ur oatmeal this morning? |
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ben-ja-mas
Joined: 20 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 5:18 pm Post subject: |
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| bassexpander wrote: |
| Jeff's Cigarettes wrote: |
| Were u a math major? But, my wife isn't Pinoy. |
No. Were you a pedophile? |
Excellent and well deserved -  |
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