Korean Job Discussion Forums

[katydid]

[GoshiwonGuy]

[Homer]

GoshiwonGuy,

99%... ...perhaps thats rather high....

[GoshiwonGuy]

Ok, Homer.

I must be missing something. Do you mean to say that it should just be stated that sex is involved in 100% of relationships or that my 99% is tooo high

GG

[Starperson]

To the OP,

It's a whole different ball-game. If you're thinking of a long-term thing, forget it. It's just not the same concept in Korea. It may look the same, but it's not.
Maybe there are a few modern-thinking Korean men, but you'd be hard-pressed to find them.
Even if they're really sweet, gorgeous, kind etc they're still likely to be very old-fashioned.
I think I'd be fairly correct in saying that the concept of 'love' isn't the number one consideration when thinking of marriage. It's more about convenience, suitability and family duty.
And this is even with the 20-something guys.

But if you just want to have a bit of fun, learn a bit of Korean, get swept away with charisma, high cheek-bones and Korean-style 'romance', then date Korean men.

One poster on here said that they offer lame excuses. I think it's safe to say that their communication style is 'different'. Gutless is the word that comes to mind. If they want to end things, they're likely to be cold-hearted and treat you like a gangrenous limb that needs to be chopped off immediately, for the good of all. I think they don't know how to do it any other way.

That's my five cents.

(I have a lovely Korean boyfriend, a very kind and sweet person, but who I probably won't marry for a few different reasons, not least of which he lives in a big stinking city called Seoul).

[Homer]

GoshiwonGuy,

Was merely joking my man....

But if sex is 99% of a relationship its a sad comment on that particular relationship.

I will say sex is essential to a healthy relationship in the sense that if thats not working it can eventually poison the relationship.
Also, different people need sex to different degrees so its relative importance to a given relationship will vary.

[GoshiwonGuy]

[peppermint]

I've kept my distance from Korean men, not because of the usual racist bull, or anything said here. It's simply that the things I value in a man are very rare here, (I like my men just this side of knuckle dragging and that's hard enough to find in NA) and that I'm the antithesis of what's generally valued in a woman here. ( I loathe cuteness with the heat of a thousand burning suns)

I go for personalities, not appearances, so if I happened to meet a k-guy who a: wasn't intimidated by me, and b: caught my interest- who knows?

[Yaya]

[kelly]

Well I met my Fiance here in Korea, he's a GI and I love him to bits and can't wait to marry him next summer, some of them are awesome guys you can be lucky. I was and get treated like a queen and even though I'm in Korea I've never been so happy in my life! Good luck!!!

[Tiger Beer]

[sistersarah]

As far as Korean men go, don't give up hope. i found a great one. I think an important thing is to find one who is well-travelled....who's been exposed to some different ideas. They're out there.

[seoulmon]

[jaebea]

Sorry if I sound condescending, but you're missing the point. :)

The point is that even in this day and age, there are long-term relationships where sex is NOT a factor. Die hard Christians don't really believe in sex before marriage. Part of the enthused desire to get married is so they can finally play hide the salami. When they find out their wife/husband is as good as a dead fish or a BRS (blow/rollover/sleep) in bed, then it's a bit late to change their minds.. :)

I think that the 1% which has been accounted for is quite important for the sake of this argument, because there will be a smartarse like myself saying "WHAT ABOUT DIEHARD CHRISTIANS" and GG will either

a) look like a fool and concede that it isn't 1% OR
b) lay the smack down on me.

In any case, it has nothing to do with whether GG will or will not sleep with whatever percentage.. :)

jae.

[shawner88]