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chaz47



Joined: 11 Sep 2003

PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 1:48 am    Post subject: Bringing a Japanese wife and her children to Korea... Reply with quote

What do you think would happen in this situation. Hypothetically...

The kids are both Elementary aged, one is in 5th the other 1st.

The mom is 36 and speaks no Korean and little English. She does own a home in Japan which I assume she would sell to put towards an apartment.

(This is not my idea, it is hers. To me it smacks of pie in the sky. But... )

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Xuanzang



Joined: 10 Apr 2007
Location: Sadang

PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 2:04 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

What would she do for money? Those kids would have a terrible time in public school being who they are. Why would she want to do this?
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chaz47



Joined: 11 Sep 2003

PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 2:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Xuanzang wrote:
What would she do for money? Those kids would have a terrible time in public school being who they are. Why would she want to do this?


She's going to school to be an interior designer.

That's what I told her.

She wants to marry me.

I work in a uni and like my vacations because I can visit my family back home for longer than 10 days and still keep my job. In Japan my qualifications will only get me a cram school job similar to hagwon indentured servitude here.

So...
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sargx



Joined: 29 Nov 2007

PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 2:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Her kids will get beaten up. After 3-4 bloody noses and ripped clothing she'll change her mind and want to go home.. except she sold it for you. SEE WHAT YOU DID! You're ruining her life!@!!11!
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Xuanzang



Joined: 10 Apr 2007
Location: Sadang

PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 2:14 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Will she go to school in Korea? I`m guessing the kids arent yours huh? Might just be better for you to move there since she has roots down with her own home and such.
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Freakstar



Joined: 29 Jun 2007

PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 2:17 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

chaz47 wrote:


She wants to marry me.


That's great and all, but do you want to marry her? She'd be sacrificing a lot to move to Korea with her two children to be with you. Don't take it lightly, man.
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chaz47



Joined: 11 Sep 2003

PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 2:19 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Xuanzang wrote:
Will she go to school in Korea? I`m guessing the kids arent yours huh? Might just be better for you to move there since she has roots down with her own home and such.


She finishes her schooling in March.

Yep, not mine. I dig them though.

I'd like to, but returning to the bottom of the food chain scares me. What benefits are there to holding a Japanese spousal visa? Their treatment of foreigners is already so much more humane I can't imagine what employment benefits I might gain.
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Xuanzang



Joined: 10 Apr 2007
Location: Sadang

PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 2:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It`s like the F married visa here in Korea. It allows you to do whatever you want. Work, study, do nothing. But it does require a guarantor, which is typically your spouse
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Xuanzang



Joined: 10 Apr 2007
Location: Sadang

PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 2:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Here is a good reference link if you need it.
http://www.debito.org/index.php/?p=176
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Konglishman



Joined: 14 Sep 2007
Location: Nanjing

PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 2:28 am    Post subject: Re: Bringing a Japanese wife and her children to Korea... Reply with quote

chaz47 wrote:
What do you think would happen in this situation. Hypothetically...

The kids are both Elementary aged, one is in 5th the other 1st.

The mom is 36 and speaks no Korean and little English. She does own a home in Japan which I assume she would sell to put towards an apartment.

(This is not my idea, it is hers. To me it smacks of pie in the sky. But... )

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At first, she will love Korea, but eventually, her eyes will open and she will hate it.
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Beej



Joined: 05 Mar 2005
Location: Eungam Loop

PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 2:36 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

If you are going to do this, be a man, move to Japan, and do whatever it takes to support your new family. Or move back home.
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GwangjuParents



Joined: 31 Oct 2008

PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 3:12