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aphase
Joined: 27 Apr 2006
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 Posted: Tue Dec 23, 2008 9:11 pm Post subject: |
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| a girl who asks you to cancel a flight and flush money down the toilet seems like a selfish girl to me. it's also a sign that she doesn't really respect you. You really wanna be in a relationship like that? If so, continue what your doing. |
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ppcg4
Joined: 16 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Tue Dec 23, 2008 9:14 pm Post subject: |
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Last night, she tells me she's likely going on a trip, and then told me that she won't tell me any more, because I 'won't like the details'. She just told me she's going with her neighbour. What the F is that?!?...I told her last night that I just want to leave her on a good note, so I can enjoy the holiday and come back happy and looking forward to seeing her....Every text I sent her last night, she read and immediately deleted.
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I don't get this paragraph at all. It seems like you were with her last night, talking about her plans to travel and stuff. Then you say that she 'read and immediately deleted' every text you sent her? How do you know that someone read and deleted a text? Were you with with her while you texted? That would be weird enough for me to read and delete someone's texts.
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There's a function on all Korean cell phones (as far as I know) where it will notify you if the person has read and/or deleted your text message. |
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Savant
Joined: 25 May 2007
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| Posted: Tue Dec 23, 2008 9:17 pm Post subject: |
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You should limit your communication with her i.e. text, e-mail etc to a bare minimum. Only contact her if there is something important worth saying; forget the small talk for now [how are you? sleep well? etc.]
Stop making frequent contact with her; it shows you care far more for her than she does for you. As a result, she is getting what she wants and you are getting nothing but a headache.
Wait for a day or 2 without contacting her and see if she makes contact with you first. If she does make contact she'll probably ask why you never contacted her, be strong with an answer without sounding apologetic. |
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ppcg4
Joined: 16 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Tue Dec 23, 2008 9:43 pm Post subject: |
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| Savant wrote: |
You should limit your communication with her i.e. text, e-mail etc to a bare minimum. Only contact her if there is something important worth saying; forget the small talk for now [how are you? sleep well? etc.]
Stop making frequent contact with her; it shows you care far more for her than she does for you. As a result, she is getting what she wants and you are getting nothing but a headache.
Wait for a day or 2 without contacting her and see if she makes contact with you first. If she does make contact she'll probably ask why you never contacted her, be strong with an answer without sounding apologetic. |
Best advice yet. Thank you.
She also said "I'm not sure about how I feel about you, so I will see when you get back."
Maybe a day or two of no contact will do us some good. We usually talk on MSN during the day, but I haven't talked to her yet.
I'm starting to feel better about this. Thanks guys. |
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afsjesse
Joined: 23 Sep 2007
Location: Kickin' it in 'Kato town.
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| Posted: Tue Dec 23, 2008 9:47 pm Post subject: |
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Or better yet, just leave without saying goodbye. That'll show her that you dont need her as much as she may think and that you are your own man.  |
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Tue Dec 23, 2008 10:11 pm Post subject: |
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I couldnt stop laughing while I read this, I am not laughing at you, sorry.
It is such a insanely pathetic world  that everybody hurts someone who treats him/her like gold but adores someone else who treats him/her like shit.
Our commodity society is so well developed, but in the love market people still seem to bargain and trade in a primitive way.  |
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ppcg4
Joined: 16 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Tue Dec 23, 2008 11:17 pm Post subject: |
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I agree, Panda. This seems to be a recurring theme in my life. I'm nice to a girl, I get shat on. I'm not going to stop being nice either. One day I'll meet a girl who genuinely appreciates a nice guy like me.
I know it'll be worth the wait. |
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xxcanonxx
Joined: 26 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Tue Dec 23, 2008 11:25 pm Post subject: |
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I agree, Panda. This seems to be a recurring theme in my life. I'm nice to a girl, I get shat on. I'm not going to stop being nice either. One day I'll meet a girl who genuinely appreciates a nice guy like me.
I know it'll be worth the wait. |
I was in a similar situation to yours about 10 months ago. She acted like she was sorry and I forgave her. It was the same cycle you described. Things are great for a short while, then all of a sudden they go to shit and its always my fault.
My girl completely screwed me over. I moved in with her and loaned her some of the deposit, and when I tried to break it off, she said she was keeping all my money and all of my things as "payment for the time I stole from her, when she could've been out dating another guy".
Don't go down my path. Drop her now. She doesn't care about you. Don't listen to her lies. |
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SeoulFinn
Joined: 27 Feb 2006
Location: 1h from Seoul
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| Posted: Wed Dec 24, 2008 12:35 am Post subject: |
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@XX
I could, at least in theory, sue my ex of three years for breaking her promise to marry me. I just don't see a Korean court granting me monetary compensation for my lost time, "spoiled virtue" and all the things and sacrifices I did for her during the years. (Not to be taken seriously! J/K!)
@OP
Dump her. At least don't do the mistake I did. Don't stop seeing your Korean friends, let them be male or female. I used to have many Korean female friends, but I decided not to contact them so often, because missus wasn't too happy about me seeing them.
Anyway, OP, maybe you should date Ciccone_youth. She seems to be level headed and quite smart!  |
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ppcg4
Joined: 16 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Wed Dec 24, 2008 1:21 am Post subject: |
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Anyway, OP, maybe you should date Ciccone_youth. She seems to be level headed and quite smart! |
You know I agree. She does seem like a really level-headed girl. I think she knows too much about me though. 
This girl has driven me close to insanity... I'm on friggin xanax now. Never was before.
I ignored her online all day, and she finally sent me a message. We'll meet tonight. Hopefully I'll get another good lay out of her before we break it off for good. I don't have the patience for this anymore, and the responses I've read on here have convinced me that I can do better. |
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Bigfeet
Joined: 29 May 2008
Location: Grrrrr.....
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| Posted: Wed Dec 24, 2008 1:23 am Post subject: |
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| She will miss not having a sugar daddy on call for 9 whole days. |
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jkelly80
Joined: 13 Jun 2007
Location: you boys like mexico?
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| Posted: Wed Dec 24, 2008 1:26 am Post subject: |
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| Ask her if she's willing to share you with other girls. She'll luv that! |
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Straphanger
Joined: 09 Oct 2008
Location: Chilgok, Korea
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| Posted: Wed Dec 24, 2008 1:29 am Post subject: |
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| I ignored her online all day, and she finally sent me a message. We'll meet tonight. Hopefully I'll get another good lay out of her before we break it off for good. I don't have the patience for this anymore, and the responses I've read on here have convinced me that I can do better. |
As soon as you give her the time of her life and you finish, tell her 'too bad you told me not to call for 9 days. Welp, gotta pack, seeya!' |
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ppcg4
Joined: 16 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Wed Dec 24, 2008 1:32 am Post subject: |
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| Straphanger wrote: |
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| I ignored her online all day, and she finally sent me a message. We'll meet tonight. Hopefully I'll get another good lay out of her before we break it off for good. I don't have the patience for this anymore, and the responses I've read on here have convinced me that I can do better. |
As soon as you give her the time of her life and you finish, tell her 'too bad you told me not to call for 9 days. Welp, gotta pack, seeya!' |
That's the plan, Stan. Of course she could refuse to come back to my place. |
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dmbfan
Joined: 09 Mar 2006
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| Posted: Wed Dec 24, 2008 4:09 am Post subject: |
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| We'll see what happens after I get back. I'm just so upset about this crap, 2 days before I leave and have very little contact with her for 9 days. |
She's probably cheating on you, man. If not now, then probably when you're gone.
Really........................is it worth the trouble? That's what it all comes down to.
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