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ppcg4
Joined: 16 Oct 2008
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| Both her and I are 24 (25 in Korean age) |
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hauwande
Joined: 17 Mar 2008
Location: gongju
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| Posted: Thu Dec 25, 2008 9:14 pm Post subject: |
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| caniff wrote: |
Man, I'm happy I found a good woman and don't have to go through this shit.
To the OP: Open your eyes a little wider, because there's a lotta fishies in the sea (even in Korea). |
i agree with this poster.
op, the extent to which you are allowing yourself to be abused, both by yourself and her, is breathtaking. so much so that i have my doubts about whether you are telling the truth and not just trolling us for want of a better thing to do.
for christs sake, stand up, brush the dirt and shit off of your clothes and move forward with at least an iota of pride and respect.
there are many great girls around. the idea that they are few and far bwtween is a myth. there are many. one is for you.
good luck |
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I'm no Picasso
Joined: 28 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Thu Dec 25, 2008 11:06 pm Post subject: |
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OP:
My girlfriend, who is Korean, and generally awesome, had this to say about your situation:
She is afraid of getting too close to you, afraid of getting too deep in the relationship...because she's worried that she might get hurt.
So, deep down she's insecure.
So you should make her trust you. Show your love for her. Call her everyday, and bring her little gifts from Canada. Do little things like that to earn her trust. Don't do a big crazy event, just do little things.
If you want to continue this relationship (and it sounds like you do), do those things. |
Why, so he can get in deeper, as she grows more and more "insecure" (aka bitchy and psychotic) because they are getting more and more serious and she's afraid of being hurt? People who take their insecurities out on others don't get better the more attached they get to you. That is the worst f*cking myth of all time. What starts with a spark ends with a flame. |
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brento1138
Joined: 17 Nov 2004
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| Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 1:01 am Post subject: Re: My girl is driving me INSANE. Sorry for another girl ran |
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Dude. There is a difference between "loving" a girl and "wanting" a girl.
K, just read the last part. Anyways, good she seems into u. For now.
But alas, trust me, the same cycle will continue. Expect it to. And don't be surprised when the dark side emerges again... |
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Oreovictim
Joined: 23 Aug 2006
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| Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 3:12 am Post subject: |
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| fortysixyou wrote: |
OP:
So you should make her trust you. Show your love for her. Call her everyday, and bring her little gifts from Canada. Do little things like that to earn her trust. |
I wouldn't take this advice. It almost sounds like the relationship that South Korea has with North Korea: give gifts and attention or else. Do you like walking on egg shells?
Hey, OP, I read one of the posts above me. It reminds me about other guys who are in your sort of relationship. There's always a line somewhere in the story that says, "She treated me like crap, but then she came over and gave me the best sex ever." Sex is great, but think about your dignity and your peace of mind.
Man, my stepbrother once dated a spoiled, high-maintenance girl, and I do stress "girl." This chick came from an extremely wealthy family. When my stepbrother went a few states away to visit some friends, she was sad and lonely for the next two weeks. You know how her parents cheered her up? They bought her a brand new car. That girl came right out of a soap opera. |
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Xuanzang
Joined: 10 Apr 2007
Location: Sadang
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| Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 3:18 am Post subject: |
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| Oreovictim wrote: |
| fortysixyou wrote: |
OP:
So you should make her trust you. Show your love for her. Call her everyday, and bring her little gifts from Canada. Do little things like that to earn her trust. |
I wouldn't take this advice. It almost sounds like the relationship that South Korea has with North Korea: give gifts and attention or else. Do you like walking on egg shells?
Hey, OP, I read one of the posts above me. It reminds me about other guys who are in your sort of relationship. There's always a line somewhere in the story that says, "She treated me like crap, but then she came over and gave me the best sex ever." Sex is great, but think about your dignity and your peace of mind.
Man, my stepbrother once dated a spoiled, high-maintenance girl, and I do stress "girl." This chick came from an extremely wealthy family. When my stepbrother went a few states away to visit some friends, she was sad and lonely for the next two weeks. You know how her parents cheered her up? They bought her a brand new car. That girl came right out of a soap opera. |
Sounds like something out of Dirty, Sexy, Money.
I`m paraphrasing and borrowing from the Shield but this works for guys in their situation. "This girl... this girl is just pissing... she's pissing all over us. She's pissing on you. What does it taste like? Chief, what does it taste like, 'cause you know what, it tastes like piss to me!" |
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jkelly80
Joined: 13 Jun 2007
Location: you boys like mexico?
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| Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 11:24 am Post subject: |
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Poor Ronnie. |
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Mr-Dokdo
Joined: 16 Nov 2008
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| Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 1:42 pm Post subject: |
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| moosehead wrote: |
what she's got is you wrapped around her finger
omg another western male being pussywhipped by a K female  |
Indeed. Next! |
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tatertot
Joined: 21 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 3:17 pm Post subject: |
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Has anybody here seen the Japanese drama "Densha Otoko?" It seems oddly relevant to me here. Definitely a funny show and worth watching the first few episodes, at least 
The show is about an Otaku that manages to get a date with a beautiful woman totally out of his league. Since he's never had a date or interacted with a girl, he goes to the Internet to get advice on how to proceed...classic! |
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Privateer
Joined: 31 Aug 2005
Location: Easy Street.
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| Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 4:12 pm Post subject: Re: My girl is driving me INSANE. Sorry for another girl ran |
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| ppcg4 wrote: |
I met this girl about a month ago. Well about 2 months ago. We really hit it off quickly. Now I'm leaving for Canada for 9 days, and she's very distant and cold with me. Sometimes she can make me feel amazing, and other times she makes me feel like she doesn't care about me.
She told me that she might forget about me after the first few days. I wouldn't normally care, but I really think I love this girl. I go out of my way for her all the time. I spend money I don't have, and I give her time that I can't afford.
She told me 2 days ago that she doesn't want to see me until I get back (January 4th) because she doesn't want to miss me. Does that make sense?
Before I get the usual 'she's got someone else', I truly believe she doesn't. We wouldn't have hung out as much as we do if she had someone else.
I will wait to see what happens when I get back, but I feel she's ruined my holiday because I'll worry about what she's doing the whole time while I'm gone.
So much for being a nice guy. |
It's the Korean yo-yo. Girls here like to run hot and cold, break up and make up, to keep you under control. It's all a game. Break up with her first and she'll be chasing you instead. |
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travelingfool
Joined: 10 Mar 2008
Location: Parents' basement
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| Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 5:32 pm Post subject: |
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| I was seeing a Korean woman and for a time I didn't give a rat's butt about the relationship and she knew it. At that point she was all over me like a bad suit and wanted to hang out 24/7. She even threw in a little test telling me she needed some time away to which I replied "I think that's a great idea!". Well, as time went on I actually started to have feelings for this woman and let her know I actually cared and that is when things went way downhill and the ball was then squarely in her court. I was no longer a challenge to her and therefore she lost interest and started having an attitude. Of course, I have tons of stories like that where I broke the rules and became mister teddy bear guy with girls of all nationalities. When dating you always have to be just out of reach. Women are programed to respond to that. That is just the way it is. To the OP, those are some serious red flags and head games she is playing. I would tell her, "I'll call if I can, otherwise see you in 9 days". Of course easier said than done. |
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I'm no Picasso
Joined: 28 Oct 2008
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| travelingfool wrote: |
When dating you always have to be just out of reach.
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To the OP, those are some serious red flags and head games she is playing. |
Uh... sounds like you're a little into head games yourself. That tit for tat shiz is tired and immature. It may be a rare gem who doesn't require you to play games to keep their interest, and doesn't do the same in response (it's a problem on both sides -- and both genders like to blame the other as the originator), but I'd rather f*cking wait it out. What the hell is so wrong with being into someone and admitting it, and having them admit it right back? If you can't even manage that, you have no business even calling what you have a relationship.... |
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silentwhispers
Joined: 24 Mar 2008
Location: Louisville/Atlanta
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| Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 6:39 pm Post subject: |
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As a girl who has dated K-guys... you have got to get rid of her. She is using you. The guys I dated complained about how they had previously dated girls who didn't care about them. The girls only cared about what the guy would give her.
Sex is not love. Holding hands is not love. Feeling great when you're with her is not love.
Love is a mutual feeling. It's something you know just by looking in the other person's eyes. It causes you to be there for the other person and know they will always be there for you.
You are infatuated with her and like the idea of her. You are getting used. Get out while you can. There is a better person out there who will treat you better.
And stop with the daily emails. It's sweet but lame. |
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JongnoGuru
Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep
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| Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 7:38 pm Post subject: |
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| As a girl who has dated K-guys... you have got to get rid of her. She is using you. The guys I dated complained about how they had previously dated girls who didn't care about them. The girls only cared about what the guy would give her. |
This girl in my office, single, an absolute stunner of classical beauty (not in the cutesy, tarted-up Hongdae ho type of beauty), intelligent, charming, the poise of an ambassador's wife... She was given a 600k won pair of sunglasses by a boyfriend who she was planning on breaking up with. After getting the sunglasses, she figured it'd be best to wait a week before dropping the bomb on him. That way, keep sungrasses!  And the other girls in the office all thought it was quite right and natural that she do so.  |
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Xuanzang
Joined: 10 Apr 2007
Location: Sadang
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| Posted: Fri Dec 26, 2008 7:41 pm Post subject: |
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| I`m sure she dropped from ambassador`s wife to Gangnam golddigger in your esteemed estimation then. |
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