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[Goku]

So I have been going out with two Korean girls. The first girl is a young very innocent naive girl who loves me with all her heart. She sends me text messages everyday, how much she loves me and she would do anything for me. The other girl barely speaks English but we have great sex. She pisses me off a lot but she adds a lot of spark to the relationship. She's cute and has a great body.

Here's the thing. I have been lying to both of them. I finally decided to do the "right" thing which has turned out to be the worst possible decesion in my life. Guys heres a warning, if you have a great thing going where one girl really loves you, and the other girl you have great sex with, never ruin it by doing the "right thing". No that just makes you stupid.

SO I told my sweet girlfriend I would be loyal, and I will break up with my sex girlfriend. I thought it hightime I came clean and just broke it off with the sex buddy. So being the "gentleman" I was decided to tell the sex girl friend to meet me at a bar and talk about it. Figuring it would be civil and I could explain it, completely forgot her ability to speak English. SO she has another friend come over and explain it. Obviously I made her lose face in front of her friends and she was totally pissed off because I choose the sweet girl. I tried to be honest and kind about it, but that doesn't work becuase... well who the F*** is gonna be happy for being 2nd prize?

Anyways, she busts out completely pissed off at me.

And here is where I become an offical asshole. I somehow, by gratitude to my loins decide I can salvage what piece of ass I can get, it by saying I choose my sex friend (Whom I just tried to break up with) over the other girl. I msg her, try to find her, and when I finally do, she is totally pissed off and says she never wants to see me again.

So here I am, holding the shitty end of the stick, having been dumped (while trying to dump her) and effectively emotionally cheating my other girlfriend. It was the most shameful thing I've ever done in my life. And really quite pathetic. I really wanted to kill myself after thinkng of what I had just done.

I'm so weighted by guilt, I decided to break it off with both girls. My sweet girlfriend is just underserving of a Jackass like me, So I broke up with her. She was crying and didn't understand why at all. I told her I had emotionally cheated on her by giving into the sex friend. THEN MAKING IT WORSE she said she understands my sexual needs and she blames herself for not having sex with me. Oh jesus christ I really almost found some toliet cleaner to drink.

I have effectively alienated two wonderful girls because I was selfish and wanted both. Or because I was stupid and tried to take moral high ground.
Whichever way you see it, I hate myself now. I should have never gotten in this situaiton in the first place, and this is the worst possible thing I've ever done.

Self loathing blows, and I'm going to be wallowing in it for several months now.

I told both of them I'm really sorry and I will now commit myself to a month of absitence and meditation as retribution. The sex friend hates me with a passion, and all her friends, who by the way know my friends making this a helluva lot worse. And my sweet girlfriend, has a broken heartbecause I can't bear to see that I might hurt her in the future.

I will not see, date or touch any girls till I figure out where I went astray. I never did this back in the states and it seems my high intensity Asian fever has wrought some diabolical amoral plague onto my soul.

This story hopefuly will teach you boys out there who have lost their moral compass in Korea to be wary of infidelity. Even though it's very easy to be with many women, don't do it. If they don't end up hating you.... you will end up hating yourself. Karma's a bitch.

[Mix1]

What a train wreck!

Take a hint from Koreans...if you cheat, do NOT tell anyone about it.

Another thing they usually do is when they don't want to see someone anymore, they just don't reply to any calls or messages. Meeting someone in person so that you can dump them is a huge loss of face for them, and will rarely go over well.

You screwed up first by cheating, and second by trying to salvage your situation by being honest.

Your situation would have worked out so much better if you had just broken it off cleanly with one of the girls involved and never mentioned the other girl. Instead you dragged everyone through the mud and made matters much worse than they needed to be.

Hint: Honesty rarely works well in this country.

[kentucker4]

[ChinaBoy]

How many threads have there been by young Romeos who are able to romance multiple women and come here to talk about it?

[Mr-Dokdo]

[Darkray16]

I don't think you should be sad at all.
From your experience obviously neither girl was the right one.
No matter how many excuses or arguments you can think up, if any girl was the right one, you wouldn't have needed a second one. You were settling for her because obviously she was only part of what you want from a girl, and the other girl was the same, emotional attachment/neediness and sexual desire, respectively.

[fortysixyou]

Yeah, what you did was assholian, but I'm sure we're all guilty of doing the same types of thing. I know I am.

Having done the switcheroo between two girls three different times in my life, each time left me feeling like a total piece of shitball!

My self-loathing was always washed away by a period of purification: no chicks, staying busy, working out, reading a lot, masturb*ting and crying to Enya cds by candlelight, etc.


What I learned from all that is to always be honest, loyal, and faithful to those whom I shag. After a brief period of solitude I'm sure you'll agree and you'll be feelin' right as rain.


Also remember that the pain you inflict on others is returned to you three-fold, but the good things you do for others is also returned to you three-fold. So get out there and pay for your sins before they have time to catch up to ya.

[IMF crisis]

[Socks]

Has this thread been translated into Korean and put up on a Korean blog site yet? (Naver, Daum)?

[jkelly80]

Elie Wiesel's "Night" was pretty heart wrenching, but I have to say this is the saddest story I've ever heard.

[Milwaukiedave]

[fortysixyou]

[Beeyee]

Dude, I hear ya.

I too was never like this in my home country but here, damn, the girls are so easy

As I've said multiple times before, I'm no oil painting, far from it, yet in the time I have been here I have always had at least 2 women on the go. Right now I have a steady girlfriend (23) and a f**k buddy (33) and I really dont know why. I have no emotional attachment at all to the older woman but my God the sex is great. I keep trying to give her up and be faithful to my genuinely sweet girlfriend but I always get tempted back.

I reiterate, before I came to Korea I did not behave like this. I can only put it down to some serious yellow fever. Hell, I have a date with a 3rd woman tonight

[Xuanzang]

Live with it. Oh and other posters are right. Honesty is never the best policy when dealing with Koreana Femininus.

[Goku]

Having read all the comments,

I have decided I will continue to avoid both girls. I certainly agree now, honesty is a terrible thing, and brandishing the sword of truth in this country full of spears has only got me pricked and stabbed. and Darkray you were totally right. One provided my emotional needs, and the other one my sexual needs. I don't see why I can't find a girl who can provide for both. It really is better I broke up with them.

My only quandry to that is, how to get back into the game without this guilt looming over me? I'm supposed to go to a club tonight, but I can't do that. Especially not if I fear seeing my ex-sex girl friend... it's a good chance I'll bump into her because we both run the same circuits of bars and clubs. I can't avoid it too because the areas small and there is nowhere else to go.

Or I might follow this advice: