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[Large Hadron Collider]

Hi All,

Has anyone gone through something similar?

I'm flying to Korea in a matter of days to start teaching and my sister recently took sixteen paracetemol tablets in one go. She is now in care and has been suffering terribly with panic, anxiety and depression of late. My dear mother on the other hand, who has manic depression, is also now in care and is now also suspected of having Alzeihmer's Disease.

I think I'm a little upset about this. I just wondered if anyone has a view on (or experience of) going to a foreign country under such circumstances.

[Large Hadron Collider]

I know how to spell 'leaving'. Honest! Sorry for the typo.

[icicle]

It could potentially be difficult for you ... There are inevitable stresses on you in living in a totally different culture ... and worrying about them might make it harder for you ...

One thing I would be sure of having in your position would be having enough money so that if you need to you can buy an airline ticket back at short notice ... (Just so it is available) (I actually now think that anyone who is here should try to have that available)

Do they have other people to care for them ...? Or are you going to worry about them not having that? Are you getting out of what is a difficult situation ... so that you can cope with it? (I don't necessarily think that is a bad thing but I think it is important that before you leave to work in another country that you do know why you are doing it and how you yourself feel about it) ...

If these family issues are of recent development I would consider delaying leaving ...

[saram_]

[Large Hadron Collider]

Thank you for the kind words and advice. I don't, unfortunately, have much casdh flow at the moment but neither my mother or sister's condition is immediately life-threatning so I really can't see me flying back to England after I just fly out to Seoul.

I think I will head off as soon as I receive my flight ticket because I've been unemployed for several months and I'm more than ready to throw myself into doing something challenging and rewarding. It might even distract me from this crap I'm going through.

I'm used to having to deal with the mental problems of my family to be honest. However, it reads as such a tragic, sad story. You see, my mum's been seriously ill on and off since she gave birth to me. The doctor advised her NOT to have another child and what does she do? She bloody well goes and has another child anyway (my younger sister). Now my only sibling is in the mess she's in and it could so easily have been avoided! I love my sister dearly but I'm really scared about what sort of life she has in front of her. My mum just couldn't inhibite her reproductive instincts and the rest, as they say, is history.

As Arthur Schopenhaur once said:

"If having children was merely an act of rationale , would the human race even continue to exist?".

[Large Hadron Collider]

Thank you for the kind words and advice. I don't, unfortunately, have much casdh flow at the moment but neither my mother or sister's condition is immediately life-threatning so I really can't see me flying back to England after I just fly out to Seoul.

I think I will head off as soon as I receive my flight ticket because I've been unemployed for several months and I'm more than ready to throw myself into doing something challenging and rewarding. It might even distract me from this crap I'm going through.

I'm used to having to deal with the mental problems of my family to be honest. However, it reads as such a tragic, sad story. You see, my mum's been seriously ill on and off since she gave birth to me. The doctor advised her NOT to have another child and what does she do? She bloody well goes and has another child anyway (my younger sister). Now my only sibling is in the mess she's in and it could so easily have been avoided! I love my sister dearly but I'm really scared about what sort of life she has in front of her. My mum just couldn't inhibite her reproductive instincts and the rest, as they say, is history.

As Arthur Schopenhaur once said:

"If having children was merely an act of rationale , would the human race even continue to exist?".

[Large Hadron Collider]

Thank you for the kind words and advice. I don't, unfortunately, have much casdh flow at the moment but neither my mother or sister's condition is immediately life-threatning so I really can't see me flying back to England after I just fly out to Seoul.

I think I will head off as soon as I receive my flight ticket because I've been unemployed for several months and I'm more than ready to throw myself into doing something challenging and rewarding. It might even distract me from this crap I'm going through.

I'm used to having to deal with the mental problems of my family to be honest. However, it reads as such a tragic, sad story. You see, my mum's been seriously ill on and off since she gave birth to me. The doctor advised her NOT to have another child and what does she do? She bloody well goes and has another child anyway (my younger sister). Now my only sibling is in the mess she's in and it could so easily have been avoided! I love my sister dearly but I'm really scared about what sort of life she has in front of her. My mum just couldn't inhibite her reproductive instincts and the rest, as they say, is history.

As Arthur Schopenhaur once said:

"If having children was merely an act of rationale , would the human race even continue to exist?".

[Whistleblower]

I think we got your message.

[kingplaya4]

It's very unlikely to be challenging and rewarding, although it will probably pay better than unemployment. Unless I were about to be out on the streets I don't think I'd leave a mother and a sister in that position, although its your call to make.

[mzeno]

A real problem here. Either you leave and say F-it, or you become the caretaker, giving up your own shot at a life of your own. When in doubt, flip a coin.

[Large Hadron Collider]

I didn't mean to post the same message three times; you know how computers can be.

Well, I think teaching English to foreign students is often very challenging and rewarding. Hearing a student construct a present perfect tense in the third person for the first time is a nice buzz and there are always ways of improving your teaching style if you are alert to the way you are teaching.

Still, that's not what this thread is about.

I guess I was just looking for some cyber space sympathy about the state of my mum and sister's mental health. I guess that's available everywhere, even on Dave's Cafe! I'm a bit of a pool hustler so I hope there's some decent pool players about in Seoul.

[Konglishman]