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eIn07912



Joined: 06 Dec 2008
Location: seoul

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 4:10 am    Post subject: i keep getting stared at today Reply with quote

everywhere. by everyone.

ive been here nearly 3 years, never had a day like today.

i wasnt doing anything special. normal places, doing normal things, but its like everyone felt the need to just stare me down for some reason.

it made me rather paranoid at one point. i kept having to check if i had a booger in my nose. or a speck of something on my face.

i dont usually get burgers and fries, but had to today cause it was the only thing close and i was in a rush. i go to sit down and literally, every kimberly in there stopped and looked at me all at once. as if to say "wow, they really do eat burgers" or "what the hell is he doing here?"

odd.

a very odd day.
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scorpiocandy



Joined: 27 Feb 2008

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 4:24 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Me too!

And everyone kept staring in the same vicinity. I kept looking down to see what they were looking at but saw nothing out of the ordinary.

Very weird day
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Hobophobic



Joined: 16 Aug 2004
Location: Sinjeong negorie mokdong oh ga ri samgyup sal fighting

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 4:26 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

you put toilet paper in the flush...they all know it was you...you should go home now before you are on MBC and ruin it for the rest of us.
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justin moffatt



Joined: 29 Aug 2006

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 5:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sometimes I don't even want to leave home with my Korean wife, and deal with people staring on the subway. Today, some drunk adgeshi tried to pick a fight with me on the subway as we were waiting for the train. I prefer to taking taxis most of the time when with my wife.
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meangradin



Joined: 10 Mar 2006

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 5:37 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Sometimes I don't even want to leave home with my Korean wife, and deal with people staring on the subway. Today, some drunk adgeshi tried to pick a fight with me on the subway as we were waiting for the train. I prefer to taking taxis most of the time when with my wife.


does this often happen to you and your wife. in 5 years in korea, i have never had anyone confront me or say anything strange. the only time people say something to my korean wife and i, it is to comment on how nice and happy we look together. you two do not deserve that bs;marriage is tough enough - somedays - without some drunk loon giving you grief. just wait to you have kids; that will blow their minds.
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meangradin



Joined: 10 Mar 2006

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 5:37 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Sometimes I don't even want to leave home with my Korean wife, and deal with people staring on the subway. Today, some drunk adgeshi tried to pick a fight with me on the subway as we were waiting for the train. I prefer to taking taxis most of the time when with my wife.


does this often happen to you and your wife. in 5 years in korea, i have never had anyone confront me or say anything strange. the only time people say something to my korean wife and i, it is to comment on how nice and happy we look together. you two do not deserve that bs;marriage is tough enough - somedays - without some drunk loon giving you grief. just wait to you have kids; that will blow their minds.
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wylies99



Joined: 13 May 2006
Location: I'm one cool cat!

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 6:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

They stare all of the time. Rolling Eyes

The posters on here who say no one stares at them CAN'T POSSIBLY be in Korea.
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OneWayTraffic



Joined: 14 Mar 2005

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 6:41 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

The staring greatly depends on which city you're in, in my experience.

However, it never stops.
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justin moffatt



Joined: 29 Aug 2006

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 7:24 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ironically, out of Seoul no-one seems to care. And yes, people stare all the time. The adgeshi comments and confontations (drunk or otherwise) happen less often, but do occur. Keep in mind, we take the subway only 2-3 times a month together.

I have had many Korean and Kyopo friends tell me that most Korean men don't really care if foreigners are with Korean women who they view as unattractive (for Korean standards). However, if the opposite is true, then . . .

This topic was broached before, and the general comments were: Just ignore it. After a while, you get tired of having to "ignore" blatant discriminatory remarks and actions. Strangely, it seems to bother me more than my wife (who is the biggest apologist I know). Wink
Unfortunately, this later led to an arguement on increasing discriminatory issues in Korea (prevalent on this board and in the media) between my wife and I. She made a comment like "most SE Asian people live in this area", to which I responded "some SE Asian may live in this area". I then tried to explain (rather poorly) the importance of not generalizing, based on what the Korean media and other Koreans may report. Maybe I am just being oversensitive . . . (unconsciously at least due to previous adgeshi encounter)

Enough thread hijacking: Maybe another media broadcast perpetuating foreigners negatively again was aired today, hence the staring . . . who knows.
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freshking



Joined: 07 Dec 2006

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 10:10 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

stare back.
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jkelly80



Joined: 13 Jun 2007
Location: you boys like mexico?

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 10:17 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Definitely stare back. Wink at them. Take a picture with your cell phone. 안녕하십니까 them. Or give them a healthy 좆까 if they won't leave you alone, and then get read for a purely symbolic pretense of a fight.

I didn't put up this shit back home, I certainly won't suffer it here.
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OnTheOtherSide



Joined: 29 Feb 2008

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 11:42 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

PigeonFart wrote:
There's no malace involved, they're just ignorant peasants.

Although it makes me angry, i have to remind myself that my fellow countrymen were like that too back in the middle ages. Then i kind of calm down. Being able to speak korean would be very useful though.


I just visited Kansas and Nebraska.

Trust me, if a Korean person went through the towns out there, they would get stared at just as badly.

That's just how it is any place where it is 98% one race and there in no racial diversity.

Most of the things people single out Koreans for doing are done in the US too. It's a joke to see how people think the US is so much more evolved and sophisticated Rolling Eyes
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OnTheOtherSide



Joined: 29 Feb 2008

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 11:50 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

jkelly80 wrote:
Definitely stare back. Wink at them. Take a picture with your cell phone. 안녕하십니까 them. Or give them a healthy 좆까 if they won't leave you alone, and then get read for a purely symbolic pretense of a fight.

I didn't put up this shit back home, I certainly won't suffer it here.


These are great ideas.

I used to give the old men an extremely gay tongue wiggle, and they thought I was some flaming foreigner on the prowl for Korean man butt. It would always freak them out and disgust them, and it was absolutely hilarious.

Or I would just give them a wierd and insane smile.

Usually I would just stare back, with a raise of my eyebrow as if to say "What are you looking at?"

Just do whatever. If it's an attractive women give them a wink. Point at your *beep* and make a hand gesture to indicate that it's "very large".
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VanIslander



Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Location: Geoje, Hadong, Tongyeong,... now in a small coastal island town outside Gyeongsangnamdo!

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 11:52 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

just ignore their kimpotent behaviour
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nomad-ish



Joined: 08 Oct 2007
Location: On the bottom of the food chain

PostPosted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 8:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

you know what's worse than just normal staring? when you move trying to get away from that person and they follow you to stare! (i've had this happen to me a few times in the past month, just by old men however). i felt like smacking one Embarassed he was so much in my face
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