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tanklor1
Joined: 13 Jun 2006
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 2:43 am Post subject: I think that living in Korea has made me a harda$$. |
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I'm shopping around for a new job right now and I was sent an offer today that I wasn't happy with: a job in Deagu working from Monday-Saturday for 2.2. I sent a reply back stating that I would not work on Saturdays and I won't accept anything below 2.4.
Turth is: it's a sh!ty offer, but if this were a couple of years ago I would have said gently that it was a sh!ty offer. Now, I pretty much said. "Hey, that's an awful offer. If you're going to jerk me around like this then I'll find someone else." albeit I said it a little nicer than that.
Maybe I was just a push over before. But has anyone else turn into a harda$$ while living here? If so, can you share a couple of stories and how it worked out for you? |
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Css
Joined: 27 Sep 2004 Location: South of the river
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 2:48 am Post subject: |
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I think your idea of what makes a hardass is kinda off..
Sounds like you just got ruder. |
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Draz

Joined: 27 Jun 2007 Location: Land of Morning Clam
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 2:56 am Post subject: |
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Css wrote: |
I think your idea of what makes a hardass is kinda off..
Sounds like you just got ruder. |
I was agreeing until the last line. That isn't rude. What's rude is sending down an insulting job offer like that.  |
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bjonothan
Joined: 29 Apr 2003 Location: All over the place
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 3:03 am Post subject: |
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Draz wrote: |
Css wrote: |
I think your idea of what makes a hardass is kinda off..
Sounds like you just got ruder. |
I was agreeing until the last line. That isn't rude. What's rude is sending down an insulting job offer like that.  |
An offer is an offer mate.
You have the choice to say no to it.
It sounds like you might have been rude.
I hope that you are going to take some time off between contracts.
If you are like that at the start of the contract, it will only get worse.
Take it from experience. |
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Css
Joined: 27 Sep 2004 Location: South of the river
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 3:07 am Post subject: |
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Draz wrote: |
Css wrote: |
I think your idea of what makes a hardass is kinda off..
Sounds like you just got ruder. |
I was agreeing until the last line. That isn't rude. What's rude is sending down an insulting job offer like that.  |
he said that all that has changed is that he is no longer polite..so he has become more rude. no? |
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definitely maybe
Joined: 16 Feb 2008
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 4:05 am Post subject: |
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as long as it isn't worded maliciously, i see nothing wrong with telling a potential employer what you deem acceptable and unacceptable as a job offer. i know i've received garbage offers in the past that have pretty much insulted me. i may have taken the situation a bit too seriously, but some recruiters and hogwons toss some real shit out hoping some sucker is going to bite. |
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Ya-ta Boy
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Established in 1994
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 4:10 am Post subject: |
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received garbage offers in the past that have pretty much insulted me. i may have taken the situation a bit too seriously |
Or possibly taken yourself a bit too seriously. |
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definitely maybe
Joined: 16 Feb 2008
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 5:55 am Post subject: |
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received garbage offers in the past that have pretty much insulted me. i may have taken the situation a bit too seriously |
Or possibly taken yourself a bit too seriously. |
fair enough, ya-ta. i should've written personally instead of seriously. it's easier to assume that i'm just an asshole and should be dressed down, isn't it? i know i've been guilty of doing that once or twice. nonetheless, i don't think it is rude to provide an explanation as to why you're politely declining a position. what do you think, ya-ta boy? you've been here awhile, so i find it hard to believe that everything has been a cakewalk. |
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michaelambling
Joined: 31 Dec 2008 Location: Paradise
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 6:05 am Post subject: Re: I think that living in Korea has made me a harda$$. |
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tanklor1 wrote: |
I'm shopping around for a new job right now and I was sent an offer today that I wasn't happy with: a job in Deagu working from Monday-Saturday for 2.2. I sent a reply back stating that I would not work on Saturdays and I won't accept anything below 2.4.
Turth is: it's a sh!ty offer, but if this were a couple of years ago I would have said gently that it was a sh!ty offer. Now, I pretty much said. "Hey, that's an awful offer. If you're going to jerk me around like this then I'll find someone else." albeit I said it a little nicer than that.
Maybe I was just a push over before. But has anyone else turn into a harda$$ while living here? If so, can you share a couple of stories and how it worked out for you? |
Business is business. Be professional and not personal. You shouldn't worry about being impolite--be self-interested.
Granted, I'm bad at this myself, but it's something I work hard to change. |
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beast
Joined: 28 Jan 2003
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 6:21 am Post subject: |
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Maybe you should start a gang and then sell illegally downloaded DVD's out of the back of a van on a Friday night. |
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bjonothan
Joined: 29 Apr 2003 Location: All over the place
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 6:22 am Post subject: |
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beast wrote: |
Maybe you should start a gang and then sell illegally downloaded DVD's out of the back of a van on a Friday night. |
That is a random comment.
Or did I miss something? |
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bobbybigfoot
Joined: 05 May 2007 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 6:33 am Post subject: |
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There's a way of getting your point across without being insulting.
That being said I am guilty of flipping on a recruiter last June. I allowed this company to get to me when I should have just moved on. But at the time, their poor sense of business skills floored me and I couldn't resist. Here's the background:
The company got me my first job. Then disappeared. I figured they'd get in touch with me towards the end of my contract to see if they could get me another job. Nope. That was the first thing that made me shake my head. Guess they don't like money. Still, I figured I'd contact a few recruiters and see what offers I could get. I emailed. No reply. I emailed again, to a different address. This time got a response. Was told the girl that looked after me got a promotion and is no longer working directly with clients (she's soooo good that she didn't transfer her clientele to anyone). To this new person, I explained my situation. Told them that I was IN KOREA, had ALL my documents and what I was looking for. So what did they do? They handed my account over to some guy in Vancouver who contacted me a few days later. And this is a BIG recruiting company. Why would I want to deal with someone NOT in Korea? I already played the time zone game once before. But instead of just politely declining their help, I got into it with them. My mistake.
Korea is a funny place. The trick is not to let yourself get consumed by all the nuttiness. |
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aboxofchocolates

Joined: 21 Mar 2008 Location: on your mind
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 7:17 am Post subject: |
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..You have experience? 2.5 or higher these days, no? |
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Scotticus
Joined: 18 Mar 2007
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 8:33 am Post subject: |
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Css wrote: |
he said that all that has changed is that he is no longer polite..so he has become more rude. no? |
Cute attempt to argue semantics, except nowhere does he say he got less polite. If you're going to split hairs like a petulant child, expect to get it right back.
You also seem to lack a working knowledge of standard English words like "rude" and "polite." Polite does not equal "suffering anything anyone says/does to you with a smile." That's called "being a doormat." |
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toonchoon

Joined: 06 Feb 2009 Location: Gangnam
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Posted: Sun Feb 22, 2009 5:37 pm Post subject: |
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Css wrote: |
I think your idea of what makes a hardass is kinda off..
Sounds like you just got ruder. |
yeah, i agree. |
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