|
Korean Job Discussion Forums
"The Internet's Meeting Place for ESL/EFL Teachers from Around the World!"
|
| View previous topic :: View next topic |
| Author |
Message |
hugekebab
Joined: 05 Jan 2008
|
 Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 12:14 am Post subject: My uni is giving my tel. no. to other professors/students... |
 |
|
This is driving me mad. Phone calls out of the blue.
Today I get a phone call out of the blue from another professor.
Me: Hello ?
Korean professor I've never met:Hi, I'm a professor from the trade department, I hear you are from England, I studied in England, I want to meet you, What's your apt number?
Me: (desperately trying not to give my apt. number and to think on my feet; how the hell don't I offend him) Uh, Why don't you see me in my tutorial session, I'm very busy, I have double the teaching time of all faculty staff.
Korean professor I've never met:Uh, I'm not sure, where is your apt.
Me: My tutorial is in building 6; see you there.
Korena professor I've never met: uh....i'm not sure....uh, ok maybe, bye.
I have never ever met or even heard of this bloke. Is it normal here for people to give out your personal phone number on request to all and sundry (even to students) and on what planet is it not rude or intrusive to rings someone apartment whom you've never met, and in the first sentence ask for your apt no so they can visit you?
Whatever, the result is he's insulted and I'm embarrassed and pissed off.
Jesus this place drives me ******* insane with anger some days. Lately I just want out.
Next tutorial he will be there trying to buy me lunch, just like the other professor who wanted something from me last week is trying to buy me lunch. I don't want it, shove your lunch up your arse please. You are making me feel socially obligated without giving me any room for declining your delicous invitation. The only reason you are contacting me is A. English practice and B. Editing work, or C. some other thing they need a foreigner for. I am not here for your convenience.
Sorry, I'm extremely angry. |
|
| Back to top |
|
 |
hugekebab
Joined: 05 Jan 2008
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 12:19 am Post subject: |
|
|
| I've just realised this may be better off in the job section, sorry if it should. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
michaelambling
Joined: 31 Dec 2008
Location: Paradise
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 12:42 am Post subject: Re: My uni is giving my tel. no. to other professors/student |
|
|
| hugekebab wrote: |
This is driving me mad. Phone calls out of the blue.
Today I get a phone call out of the blue from another professor.
Me: Hello ?
Korean professor I've never met:Hi, I'm a professor from the trade department, I hear you are from England, I studied in England, I want to meet you, What's your apt number?
Me: (desperately trying not to give my apt. number and to think on my feet; how the hell don't I offend him) Uh, Why don't you see me in my tutorial session, I'm very busy, I have double the teaching time of all faculty staff.
Korean professor I've never met:Uh, I'm not sure, where is your apt.
Me: My tutorial is in building 6; see you there.
Korena professor I've never met: uh....i'm not sure....uh, ok maybe, bye.
I have never ever met or even heard of this bloke. Is it normal here for people to give out your personal phone number on request to all and sundry (even to students) and on what planet is it not rude or intrusive to rings someone apartment whom you've never met, and in the first sentence ask for your apt no so they can visit you?
Whatever, the result is he's insulted and I'm embarrassed and pissed off.
Jesus this place drives me ******* insane with anger some days. Lately I just want out.
Next tutorial he will be there trying to buy me lunch, just like the other professor who wanted something from me last week is trying to buy me lunch. I don't want it, shove your lunch up your arse please. You are making me feel socially obligated without giving me any room for declining your delicous invitation. The only reason you are contacting me is A. English practice and B. Editing work, or C. some other thing they need a foreigner for. I am not here for your convenience.
Sorry, I'm extremely angry. |
Be firm. Repeat the same exact phrase, if you have to. "I'm very busy, see me in my office hour." Don't let them pressure you, don't let them make you feel impolite. They're imposing on you, not vice versa. Don't let them walk all over you.
My university doesn't do this crap with me, but they do with my co-worker. I bet because he's English and polite, and I'm American and an asshole. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Yu_Bum_suk
Joined: 25 Dec 2004
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 12:54 am Post subject: |
|
|
| Work at a public school. They put your number on a teachers list that gets passed around and posted everywhere. Once the new students get hold of it it usually only takes a couple weeks for the novelty to wear off and them to stop calling and texting. Having students who have gone off to uni texting you to wish you a happy Teachers' Day two years later makes it worth-while, though. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
hugekebab
Joined: 05 Jan 2008
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 1:00 am Post subject: Re: My uni is giving my tel. no. to other professors/student |
|
|
| michaelambling wrote: |
| hugekebab wrote: |
This is driving me mad. Phone calls out of the blue.
Today I get a phone call out of the blue from another professor.
Me: Hello ?
Korean professor I've never met:Hi, I'm a professor from the trade department, I hear you are from England, I studied in England, I want to meet you, What's your apt number?
Me: (desperately trying not to give my apt. number and to think on my feet; how the hell don't I offend him) Uh, Why don't you see me in my tutorial session, I'm very busy, I have double the teaching time of all faculty staff.
Korean professor I've never met:Uh, I'm not sure, where is your apt.
Me: My tutorial is in building 6; see you there.
Korena professor I've never met: uh....i'm not sure....uh, ok maybe, bye.
I have never ever met or even heard of this bloke. Is it normal here for people to give out your personal phone number on request to all and sundry (even to students) and on what planet is it not rude or intrusive to rings someone apartment whom you've never met, and in the first sentence ask for your apt no so they can visit you?
Whatever, the result is he's insulted and I'm embarrassed and pissed off.
Jesus this place drives me ******* insane with anger some days. Lately I just want out.
Next tutorial he will be there trying to buy me lunch, just like the other professor who wanted something from me last week is trying to buy me lunch. I don't want it, shove your lunch up your arse please. You are making me feel socially obligated without giving me any room for declining your delicous invitation. The only reason you are contacting me is A. English practice and B. Editing work, or C. some other thing they need a foreigner for. I am not here for your convenience.
Sorry, I'm extremely angry. |
Be firm. Repeat the same exact phrase, if you have to. "I'm very busy, see me in my office hour." Don't let them pressure you, don't let them make you feel impolite. They're imposing on you, not vice versa. Don't let them walk all over
My university doesn't do this crap with me, but they do with my co-worker. I bet because he's English and polite, and I'm American and an asshole. |
Thanks for the advice mate, Yeh, I'm just going to stick with the I'm really busy line and say it over and over. Sometimes you are pushed to oblivion though!
The guy studied in the UK for three years and he doesn't realise ringing someone out of the blue isn't rude. It's all beyond me. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
DCJames
Joined: 27 Jul 2006
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 1:06 am Post subject: Re: My uni is giving my tel. no. to other professors/student |
|
|
| hugekebab wrote: |
This is driving me mad. Phone calls out of the blue.
Today I get a phone call out of the blue from another professor.
Me: Hello ?
Korean professor I've never met:Hi, I'm a professor from the trade department, I hear you are from England, I studied in England, I want to meet you, What's your apt number?
Me: (desperately trying not to give my apt. number and to think on my feet; how the hell don't I offend him) Uh, Why don't you see me in my tutorial session, I'm very busy, I have double the teaching time of all faculty staff.
Korean professor I've never met:Uh, I'm not sure, where is your apt.
Me: My tutorial is in building 6; see you there.
Korena professor I've never met: uh....i'm not sure....uh, ok maybe, bye.
I have never ever met or even heard of this bloke. Is it normal here for people to give out your personal phone number on request to all and sundry (even to students) and on what planet is it not rude or intrusive to rings someone apartment whom you've never met, and in the first sentence ask for your apt no so they can visit you?
Whatever, the result is he's insulted and I'm embarrassed and pissed off.
Jesus this place drives me ******* insane with anger some days. Lately I just want out.
Next tutorial he will be there trying to buy me lunch, just like the other professor who wanted something from me last week is trying to buy me lunch. I don't want it, shove your lunch up your arse please. You are making me feel socially obligated without giving me any room for declining your delicous invitation. The only reason you are contacting me is A. English practice and B. Editing work, or C. some other thing they need a foreigner for. I am not here for your convenience.
Sorry, I'm extremely angry. |
Everyone's phone number is listed already on their website, noob.  |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
michaelambling
Joined: 31 Dec 2008
Location: Paradise
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 1:11 am Post subject: Re: My uni is giving my tel. no. to other professors/student |
|
|
| hugekebab wrote: |
Thanks for the advice mate, Yeh, I'm just going to stick with the I'm really busy line and say it over and over. Sometimes you are pushed to oblivion though!
The guy studied in the UK for three years and he doesn't realise ringing someone out of the blue isn't rude. It's all beyond me. |
He knows; he just doesn't care. The apologists can make the "it's their culture" excuse with the Koreans who've never left the country, but if he's been to England he's had at least some experience with English politeness, and ringing someone out of the blue is high on the list of cultural taboos in Britain. I assume he thinks that since this is Korea, he can act by Korean rules--i.e., treat the foreigner as a hired servant.
It doesn't matter how many times he pushes you; remember that he's being consciously pushy and selfish, so you have to fight with fire.  |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
hugekebab
Joined: 05 Jan 2008
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 1:33 am Post subject: Re: My uni is giving my tel. no. to other professors/student |
|
|
| DCJames wrote: |
| hugekebab wrote: |
This is driving me mad. Phone calls out of the blue.
Today I get a phone call out of the blue from another professor.
Me: Hello ?
Korean professor I've never met:Hi, I'm a professor from the trade department, I hear you are from England, I studied in England, I want to meet you, What's your apt number?
Me: (desperately trying not to give my apt. number and to think on my feet; how the hell don't I offend him) Uh, Why don't you see me in my tutorial session, I'm very busy, I have double the teaching time of all faculty staff.
Korean professor I've never met:Uh, I'm not sure, where is your apt.
Me: My tutorial is in building 6; see you there.
Korena professor I've never met: uh....i'm not sure....uh, ok maybe, bye.
I have never ever met or even heard of this bloke. Is it normal here for people to give out your personal phone number on request to all and sundry (even to students) and on what planet is it not rude or intrusive to rings someone apartment whom you've never met, and in the first sentence ask for your apt no so they can visit you?
Whatever, the result is he's insulted and I'm embarrassed and pissed off.
Jesus this place drives me ******* insane with anger some days. Lately I just want out.
Next tutorial he will be there trying to buy me lunch, just like the other professor who wanted something from me last week is trying to buy me lunch. I don't want it, shove your lunch up your arse please. You are making me feel socially obligated without giving me any room for declining your delicous invitation. The only reason you are contacting me is A. English practice and B. Editing work, or C. some other thing they need a foreigner for. I am not here for your convenience.
Sorry, I'm extremely angry. |
Everyone's phone number is listed already on their website, noob. |
Not on mine; he got it from a member of staff, t wat and it's my home number not my office. I've also been here more than a year; go and try and piss someone else off will you? |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
ChinaBoy
Joined: 17 Feb 2007
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 2:09 am Post subject: |
|
|
I ensure that my employer believes I do not have a phone.
No calls ever. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Oreovictim
Joined: 23 Aug 2006
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 2:37 am Post subject: |
|
|
I don't work at a uni, but I understand about Koreans getting nosy with where you live, what's your phone number.
I've had that a few times. I'll be minding my own business, and some adjosshi starts asking really personal questions. "What school do you work at?" "What apartment building do you live in?" Pretty damn annoying.
And the last thing I want to do is have a Korean friend who's 20 or 25 years older than me. Why? So I can pour his drinks, listen to his stories and be a sniveling, servile little monkey? They all think that it's their Confucius-given right to treat younger people as slaves.
No thanks! |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Bibbitybop
Joined: 22 Feb 2006
Location: Seoul
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 3:32 am Post subject: |
|
|
My uni doesn't publish personal phone numbers and we have a strict policy about not giving out personal info. Very strict.
OP, why not tell the man the address of a massage parlor? |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
earthbound14
Joined: 23 Jan 2007
Location: seoul
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 5:36 am Post subject: |
|
|
I've had the same problem. My previous school gave my number to a prof who said hello to me once while walking to class. Or at least I assume becuase the day I met him I started getting calls from a guy with a very similar voice asking me to teach private lessons.
Never introduces himself, never tells me where I know him from or how he got my number.
Me - Hello?
Him - Do you want teach lesson at YBM?
Me - Who is this? What is your name?
Him - Do you want teach lesson?
Me - What's your name?
Him - Lesson in YBM near school.
Me - I don't live near the school. That is very far and I'm very busy.
Him - Can you help me find teacher?
Me - I don't know anybody near the school. I drive 45 minutes from another city every day.
Every month I get a new message for work around my university and every time I say I live too far and don't know anyone. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
hugekebab
Joined: 05 Jan 2008
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 6:37 am Post subject: |
|
|
| ChinaBoy wrote: |
I ensure that my employer believes I do not have a phone.
No calls ever. |
Thats what I tell' I've never ever given em my mobile, but my apt is on campus, and it's an internal line so I'm screwed. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
hugekebab
Joined: 05 Jan 2008
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 6:40 am Post subject: |
|
|
| Anyway next tuesday ive got a tutorial with two of the arse pains coming. Guaranteed they will both shower me with dinner offers. In return I will shower them in my golden love (urine.) |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
the foystein
Joined: 23 Apr 2007
|
| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2009 6:54 am Post subject: |
|
|
Wanting to visit your home is a bit different; however, in my experience the availability of contact information is not.
In a previous life I was Campus President of a small college in the U.S.A. All of the employees had college email accounts and their address was public information. The employees also had phone numbers for all the other employees. The students did not get this list but many of the instructors gave their numbers to the students. The college provided me with a cell phone; all the students had the number. At times this was a bit of a pain, but the compensation was great and allowed me to come to Korea and goof off. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
|
You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot vote in polls in this forum
|
|
FAQ
Search
Memberlist
Usergroups
Register
Profile
Log in to check your private messages
Log in
