Korean Job Discussion Forums

[tanklor1]

I'm not one to make threads of a personal nature. My nature is normally personal and I likes it that way. First off, I'm a single guy but I know that I'm only here for a short amount of time, so, I've shyed away from the dating scene. (I can't be the only guy!)

Well, I was at my favorite KimBop place a couple of weeks back minding my own bisness when a woman from another table started talking to me. Her English is almost perfect and I was delighted to have company.

We exchanged phone numbers. A couple of days later I decided to try my luck.

"Coffee" I thought, tiss nothing wrong with it.

My first attempt failed, so I brushed it off and went about my day. A couple of days later I recieved a text asking how I was. I responded in kind and finally decided to ask her out again. "Piss or get off the pot" I thought.

She accepted

So, we went for coffee. Babo, she's married. *Hand slaps head* of course
she wants someone to practice English with. OK OK as long as she buys the coffee I can easily lend an hour out of a mudane Saturday afternoon.

This morning she texts me again. asking for my adress and if she can come to my apartment sometime. While thinking it over she sent me another text saying she can only come over in the mronings. "Huh, how about that?" I thougth to myself. Just to see what will come of it, I sent it to her: which may have led me to walk a fence of immorality.

If she wants to practice English I'll be glad to sit over a cup of tea and chat with her, but if the oft-chance she wants to have an affair. I'm considering, mostly for laughs, trying to persuade her not to have it. She's a Religious person after all.

So, what would you guys do if presented with the option of having an affair?

Go through with it?

Or

Try to persuade her to be true to her husband?

Honestly, I think the second option would produce more interesting results. But that's just me.

[loggerhead007]

My K-gal (who is over 40 like myself) told me that 90% of Korean men cheat on their wives. Hard to quantify I know but she has many older friends who say the same thing. I say if she says yes, get busy. But double check the yes. There's more than one way to pay for "lessons". Is she a youngster? I've also been told they like to "hop around" more to see what they can line up. Just my take, good luck.

[Demonicat]

I wouldn't worry too much. She may just want to stay out of the public eye so as not to have rumours going around that she is having an affair. IOW, if she gets seen having coffee with a strange man- people may talk. If she meets you in your apartment, no one will be talking.
If it is sex, then I'd avoid it. No need to get wrapped up in that shit. No sir.

[tanklor1]

[moosehead]

you do know adultery is illegal in K, right OP?

there's really all kinds of reasons why you should say no and nip this in the bud

just be forewarned, is all

[Arthur Dent]

Korean woman + Man + private apartment= carnal relations.
No question.
What to do?
Why ask Dave's?
Ask yourself.

[michaelambling]

You can go to jail for sleeping with a married woman.

You are a white foreign man, so you WILL go to jail if you are caught.

Is she really worth it? IMO, no girl is worth going to jail for, no matter how hot. No, not even Lee Hyo-ri or Scarlett Johansson.

[The evil penguin]

[michaelambling]

[blackjack]

[itaewonguy]

just go along for the ride and see what comes of it..
you will know what to do if anything happens...

[Cheonmunka]

Oh to be young again!


Seriously, I'd wear protection. Many men coming back from the South East with carnal (nice word) diseases.

[Goku]

Even as someone who has taken the moral low road (I'm sure some remember my phsychotic outburst about dating two women at at the same time ...)
I definately don't recommend it.

If the woman has kids, there is definately a good strong logical and moral justifaction for not having the affair. Not only would you be a male version of a homewerecker, but you probably wouldn't be able to live with yourself knowning you have destroyed an entire family. (If you could live with yourself after that, you'd be a blemish of a humanity and I hope a giant hatches from your insides and eats away at you slowly and painfully.... ) I don't need to get into why cheating with a woman who has a child is wrong. If you don't realize that, then maybe you might as well start going around commiting robbery, raping children, murdering people, and setting off bomb explosions.

If she doesn't have kids, it's still morally defunct. Just think about the other side of this. When your wife is married, you HAVE the expectation she won't cheat on you.

Look I understand booty is booty. I'm no better for dating two women at the same time (although it was about a duration of a week before the guilt ate away at my brain). The temptations of the flesh are great but that doesn't mean you need to throw away your principlces.

What makes you a man is dicated by your actions.

There are so many ways to get action. With a married woman is possibly the worst and most desperate way.

[jkelly80]

We are a short term solution in the eyes of the Korean populace, whether it be carnalities or token whitey status. Do it.

[harlowethrombey]