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fromtheuk
Joined: 31 Mar 2007
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Posted: Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:14 pm Post subject: Rant full of rage |
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We have one nightmare 5th grade class. Today, one particular student was trying to taunt me fairly close up at the end of the lesson. I dismissively wagged my finger toward him and he eventually left.
I have never raised the issue of discipline with my co-teacher, because we get on okay. During lunch, I told her that class is the worst one I've ever had, I told her that student was the worst.
I explained I could handle it for the next few weeks, but the next native teacher (if they are a newbie) would eventually collapse or quit, from such a class.
I said even though I used to argue with my last co-teacher, she would even refuse to teach a class if they were this bad.
I advised her the students are out of control. She acknowledged they are a problem.
The truth is my co-teacher cannot discipline students and doesn't want to. Whenever I ask students to stand in the corner, she approaches them minutes later and asks them to sit down. It's frustrating.
I've never raised this issue with her before because I've got a good reference from her and I want to keep things sweet to secure my next job in May.
I told her after lunch I am going to approach the home room teacher for that class and point out that student. She said she will contact them herself.
Anyway, I am going in person.
Another thing that irks me is the way my co-teacher looks at the kids when they misbehave and show me disrespect. I am not paranoid, but she kind of smiles, as though she tacitly approves.
So, I am going to approach the relevant home room teacher after lunch, point out the offending student (not expecting anything from it) just to put the heat on him.
My co-teacher is speaking to that home room teacher on the phone now, and she is kind of giggling about it. I will still go in person and point out the little twit anyway.  |
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fromtheuk
Joined: 31 Mar 2007
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Posted: Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:25 pm Post subject: |
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I just went to the home room teacher, the little twit wasn't there yet, so I pointed to the Korean word 'rude' in my Korean-English dictionary. She responded that she knew it. Next time that twit behaves like that, I will ask him to stand in the corner, if my co-teacher lets him sit, I'll ask him to stand up again.
I pity the next native teacher, because they are going to go crazy without any discipline in class. If the next native teacher makes this an issue with my co-teacher, and they disagree, the class will be a discipline-free zone.
My co-teacher is fine, but she cannot control the class, she is an impediment to any form of discipline, therefore she is a liability and I suspect she doesn't care about the disrespect aspect, she is probably anti-foreigner too. If she is isn't, she just thinks this is a non-issue.
As soon as I get another job, I am going to start using my sick days. 15 of them.  |
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Fishead soup
Joined: 24 Jun 2007 Location: Korea
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Posted: Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:26 pm Post subject: |
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Most Korean Co-teachers are useless when it comes to Classroom management. Korean students are self policing. Allocate so much time for fun activities like ten minutes. Write ten minutes fun on the board. Every time a kid misbehaves substract one minute from that. |
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fromtheuk
Joined: 31 Mar 2007
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Posted: Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:29 pm Post subject: |
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This class is almost total anarchy. On a serious level, some of them were holding scissors to their necks. I told her if one of them does serious damage, we will be held responsible. She looked like it's no big deal.
I may prefer high school someday. To beat some of them to tears would be good. |
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bogey666

Joined: 17 Mar 2008 Location: Korea, the ass free zone
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Posted: Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:49 pm Post subject: |
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fromtheuk wrote: |
This class is almost total anarchy. On a serious level, some of them were holding scissors to their necks. I told her if one of them does serious damage, we will be held responsible. She looked like it's no big deal.
I may prefer high school someday. To beat some of them to tears would be good. |
waziristan, there is a major issue happening here if your co-teacher interferes with minor disciplinary matters,... like telling them to go stand in the corner. (once YOU send them there, only YOU tell them they can go sit down)
My coteachers never interfere with me, and I never with them in discipline matters.
assert your manhood (or merely yourself even if you were a female) and if they try to interfere, just say.. "No, Ms. Kim, he or she isn't ready to sit down yet) just do it with a smile.
if they embarrass you by letting them do so anyways - STFU until after class, whereupon you take Ms. Kim into a quiet corner to tell her to never ever again let you lose face in front of the students... and if it gets to that point, don't be "nice" about it at all - in fact if it gets to that point, your battle is half lost anyways because your surrender was a "fait accompli". |
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fromtheuk
Joined: 31 Mar 2007
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Posted: Mon Apr 13, 2009 9:07 pm Post subject: |
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It's a question of wisdom bogey. I have a month to go, I need this woman's verbal reference for my next job. I did a good job interview yesterday, so if I don't get this job, and follow your advice, I'm up a creek.
I also don't see any point in making this an issue when it is not going to benefit me in any practical way.
She also isn't interfering. She approaches them in what she thinks is a subtle manner and she tells them to sit down. I think she doesn't want them to miss out on their education.
She is too easy going. I agree this is a major issue, and the next native teacher will probably have a nervous breakdown, unless she asserts herself, as you've suggested bogey.
Also remember, my co-teacher doesn't ask any student to stand up at all, never.
My last co-teacher never questioned my discipline in class, and our relationship was 90% bad. I have a month to ago, with somebody I get on with around 85%. I will bite my tongue during these trying moments and be patient.
I must do what benefits me. 
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Pa Jan Jo A Hamnida
Joined: 27 Oct 2006 Location: Not Korea
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Posted: Mon Apr 13, 2009 9:14 pm Post subject: |
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I look forward to your future posts about the new co-teacher. |
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Fishead soup
Joined: 24 Jun 2007 Location: Korea
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Posted: Mon Apr 13, 2009 9:24 pm Post subject: |
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fromtheuk wrote: |
This class is almost total anarchy. On a serious level, some of them were holding scissors to their necks. I told her if one of them does serious damage, we will be held responsible. She looked like it's no big deal.
I may prefer high school someday. To beat some of them to tears would be good. |
Here is the lyrics to your next pop song
I am an anti-Christ
I am an Anarchist
Don't know what I want but I know how to get.
I wanna destroy the passerby
I wanna be Anarchy
Anarchy in the UK
It's comming sometime maybe
I'll give a wrong time and stop the shopping line
Your future dream is a sphopping spree |
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fromtheuk
Joined: 31 Mar 2007
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Posted: Mon Apr 13, 2009 9:30 pm Post subject: |
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It's already been done......pistols.  |
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Jammer113
Joined: 13 Oct 2008
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Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2009 2:16 am Post subject: |
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If I ask a student to stand in the corner, my coteacher will always wait a few minutes and then speak to them before telling them to sit down. I really appreciate it. Half of punishment is punishment. The other half is councilling. Because of my relatively poor Korean, I usually can't council students. Especially with boys, it's important to talk to them about what they're doing wrong and why they shouldn't.
I'm curious, UK. How many good relationships have you had with coteachers, and how many bad ones? |
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WendyRose

Joined: 10 Dec 2008 Location: hanam-si, seoul
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Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2009 2:55 am Post subject: |
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I had a class like this last semester. They would smear glue sticks all over each other, crawl under the table with their cell phones, stand on the table and do belly dances...it was ridiculous.
My co-teacher at the time always had something to do during that class and would never show up. I often caught her in the next room shopping for clothes on the internet, gabbing on the phone or taking a nap.
The homeroom teacher knew that those kids were brats. This semester that homeroom teacher is now my co-teacher and I adore her with ever part of my being. She is a fantastic teacher who cares about the students...I have no idea what went wrong last semester.
My only advice is to perhaps ask the homeroom teacher to stay during a class period, at least for a short while (or have her come in halfway through to check on things). The kids seem to respect their homeroom teachers and it might calm them down (if only a little) if they had no idea when she would walk in.
Anyway, I feel your pain. |
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Scotticus
Joined: 18 Mar 2007
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Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2009 5:41 am Post subject: |
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fromtheuk wrote: |
Next time that twit behaves like that, I will ask him to stand in the corner, if my co-teacher lets him sit, I'll ask him to stand up again.
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Gee, I wonder why you have a behaviour problem... |
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bogey666

Joined: 17 Mar 2008 Location: Korea, the ass free zone
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Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2009 5:55 am Post subject: |
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Jammer113 wrote: |
Especially with boys, it's important to talk to them about what they're doing wrong and why they shouldn't.
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I agree with you BUT in my case by the time I take disciplinary action, like sending a kid to a corner and pressing his face against the wall, he's already directly disobeyed my requests several times and is doing something to spite me, or just ignoring me.
no real explanation and counseling is needed. They know EXACTLY what they did wrong and know that no other teacher with control of his/her classrom would tolerate it either.
that said .... the younger female teachers at my school - I admire almost all of them for how they discipline the boy teenage students.. it's a fascinating mixture of being stern but sometime caring at the same time. It's only something a female can do to (like pinching them on the cheeks, a little hard, but not too hard).
the best is when sometimes they bring in a boy into the teacher's room and start saying something to the kid... sometimes you'll see the boy's face just get redder and redder and redder, almost to the point of crying.. and they're not yelling at them, it's a reproachful tone..
have never seen a male teacher have the same effect.
when I see the young Korean gal teachers do this, I get "figurative" wood,, meaning... I take extreme pleasure in watching them and thinking what great MOTHERS they'll make.
interestingly enough my oldest Korean female co-teacher who's around 40 or so... has almost no control of her class at all, especially the older boys who just ignore her. |
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