Korean Job Discussion Forums

[Ukon]

[hopefullykorea]

[Ukon]

[hopefullykorea]

[stevieg4ever]

I might get slated for this but I really think it says something about someone who has been on Daves since 19th April 2009 and is already making posts about dating, itself based on tenuous assumptions.

It happens so often it really makes you wonder about the kind of people Korea attracts. Then its not easy to deduce why ESL is such a mess and why Koreans have such a despairing view towards native teachers.

[thurst]

lol i'mma have to side with ukon on this one. if you have to move halfway around the world to have a shot at women then you really do need to step your game up, and by that i mean take a hard look at yourself and stop being a lame.

there's some comic gold in this thread though

[hopefullykorea]

[afsjesse]

I'll keep this simple. How about just being yourself? If that don't work, tune yourself up like bundangbabo said and try again.

[Kurtz]

OP,

I usually don't post much on Dave's as it's a very depressing place to hang out, but this is how "the game" is played here,

A typical thread goes like this,

1) A question is posted,
2) X amount of normal responses, some might even be helpful,
3) Long term (usually) poster will then say something derogatory to OP,
4) Long term posters will then start arguing amongst themselves, taking the topic well away from its focus,
5) The odd comment will be thrown in from posters with less power, but will be completely ignored as the two heavyweight long term posters are having a head to head, like a couple of wild animals fighting for the right to fornicate with the females as it's mating season,
6) Long term posters will at some point drop it, but will keep a look out for the movements of their opponent for the next little battle of wills.

The general discussion board should mainly be used for time wasting, expect next to no serious replies, and proceed with caution through this minefield.

[Oreovictim]

You're 5'8"? You'll have more luck here than back home. But, and I really stress this, work on your appearance if you need to. A lot of foreign guys here are just slobs. Invest in nice clothes, shave, and if you have hair, keep it well-groomed and styled. And when you are dressed up, for God's sake, leave the backpack at home.

Anyway, back to the height thing. I'm 5'9", and when I used to do the dating sites in America, it was always the same on the profiles for the women: "Must be AT LEAST 6'0"." Some of them would be a bit more realistic and could deal with a guy who's, say, 5'10". If you've ever done the online dating, you know what I'm talking about.

Here it's a different story. Sure, women everywhere like tall guys, but it's easier in Korea. You'll be on a dating site, and a woman will say: "Must be between 5'7" - 6'0". Yeah, a lot easier.

You'll even see lots of Korean couples where they're the same height or even (gasp!) the woman's taller. It's not as common back home.

[samcheokguy]

On three ocassions I've gotten 'too tall'
Yes the upper limit seems to be about 6'3".

[coralreefer_1]

I am 5'8 also, and honestly find myself being in the shortest segment anywhere I go.

Sure, most older men may be around my same height, but the younger generation, say late 20's and younger, are almost always taller than myself.

That being said, as far as looks go, this has been my experience:

If you are a handsome guy and you want to be a playboy, you will be a very busy man

If you are a handsome guy and want to have a real relationship, it may be more difficult. Not that I am some show-stopping man, but I was doing pretty well for myself back home. I have found that many girls in Korea will automatically assume you are a playboy and not want to get serious with you if you are remotely handsome, as they have all heard the stories of foreigners sleeping with hundreds of women.

I would even venture to say that as far as finding a relationship with a woman you want to stay with, a "less than average" looking foreigner would be more successful than an "above average" foreigner.

Sadly, my girlfriend and I recently broke up(after more than a year together). While much of it has to do with my plans to move to Seoul, part of it was her insecurity, as she was under the impression that whenever I walked down the street, women threw themselves at me, and of course since I am a foreigner, I apparently have no control over myself and give in to any woman who shows an interest. That was the way she thought, and that is how many women think.

Many beautiful women the world over say the same things - Men will not approach them because they assume the woman must have a boyfriend, or that they are not handsome enough to be with her. Plenty of lonely models out there...believe it.

You will likely be fine no matter your height/looks. As you say you are only coming for a year, so not likely to be looking for anything serious. In that case just enjoy the different culture and make the best of it.

P.S. As others have mentioned, and I can attest, learning Korean DOES help!

[mayorgc]

OP

how old are you and how much experience have u had with women?

K gals are different from western gals on the surface.

but you still need to realize that women all over the world are the same.

[i_teach_esl]

spot on, kurtz^^

[bogey666]