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[fromtheuk]

I find I dislike most of the people I meet. I like myself, but not many other people.

I don't wish them any harm, I just don't like them, or think they are particularly interesting. Well, you may ask, who are you fromtheuk?!!!

I make no claim about myself. I don't claim to be interesting at all, but I personally like to avoid most of humanity, as much as possible.

Do you dislike most of the people you meet?

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[Sophomorik]

i really don't understand the cynicism of this forum ...there is a writer's workshop in Seoul. perhaps if you vented your feelings through writing, you may just find the answer--and people to offer further insight. seriously, try it.

[eperdue4ad]

No.

But if a person really doesn't like most humans he meets, the dislike could be written all over his face....and when the message is interpreted as "Stay away from me" others aren't likely to be very engaging or in-depth with any conversation...cyclical cynicism? I don't know.

[OculisOrbis]

i'd say indifference with a large side of TBD

[Robot_Teacher]

You might ask yourself why is it that you don't like most people? I know I don't like the inconsiderate selfish, greedy, self rightous, anti-social, corrupt inside day trading investors and managers, many politicians, bully's, trolls, and power tripper bosses, but not everyone are like that. This might include a large segment of today's population though. What do you call those people who are always trying to get others in trouble?

You can save up money by teaching in Korea to buy a cheap piece of land in a small town/rural area, build a rock, and go live under it. Just don't forget to pay your property taxes or they'll come to take your rock.

I really don't know if I like or dislike most people I meet, but I know each one of us are in it alone as individuals seeking competitive advantages. It's not uncommon for someone transplanted to a new city or country to not have one single close friend after a year or 4 as modern society is not about friends, it's about making money, displaying social status, and enjoying your toys.

[mole]

[blurgalurgalurga]

I fully respect misanthropy as a lifestyle choice, but in public, it's best to keep it hidden if possible.

[AmericanExile]

At times, sure. It may be cyclical cynicism or whatever. It is also true that people can be annoying. Good people. Intelligent people. Funny people. A person is not the problem. People are the problem. Everywhere you go all the time there are people. People have different sensitivities to this. You may not mind it. At times, it feels to me that the other customer at the oil change who won't stop talking to me even though I'm reading a book just wants to use me to keep himself from being bored. I'm not there for a conversation. I'm there to get my oil changed. If it was just that guy - no problem, but it is everywhere all the time. It can get to be too much. So at times when I'm at the store having a polite conversation with some random person inside my head I'm thinking "a) stop touching everything I might want to buy that, b) don't you people have homes, and c) please, please, please leave me alone."

I don't always feel that way. I hope others don't know I feel that way because I don't mean to offend them or make them feel bad, but you're right they probably do. Shouldn't the question be are there people who don't feel like that from time to time?

[The Gipkik]

Damn, that is harsh. I just feel sorry for you mate. I actually like most of the people I meet. That is, I always give everyone the benefit of the doubt. They have to earn my dislike. And I don't mean after 2 minutes of aimless small talk. To me, part of the traveller's kit and kaboodle is to have a generous mind, see many different and opposing perspectives, and not to take most things personally. It's just sane.

[blurgalurgalurga]

I think a natural dislike of people is a legitimate perspective, more or less. People are pretty horrible sometimes.
I'm not of that disposition myself, and glad of it, but I think some people are best off just admitting that's how they are and trying to make the bet of it. By that I mean becoming a hermit, or at least laying low and not trying to bring other people down.
From the people I've known who are of that type, though, I'd hazard a guess that most of them are pretty unhappy. But, I don't know that they'd be happier were they out there fakin' it.
There's certainly a lot of people doing that.

[AmericanExile]

It's the yin and the yang man. Sometimes I love everyone and the world is bright and shiney. Sometimes I can't stand anyone. Sometimes I feel like eating pie. It's the human emotion pack. Walt Whitman wrote "Do I contradict myself? Then I contradict myself. I am large. I contain multitudes."

Sometimes the world gets to me. I don't feel shame about that. I don't feel weak because of it. I'm a person not a robot. Constant positivity and happiness is an unrealistic expectation of humans. Ecclesiastes, the teacher, tells us in one of the oldest written works in all of humanity there is a time for every human experience.

The interesting thing is we're saying the same thing. You say be open when you travel. So be open. Be open to human experiences. Even the ones you a priori believe to be bad, harsh, or closed. There is beauty there too if you have the eyes to see. If nothing else it allows you to relate to other humans more completely, more deeply.

Without this human experience is there punk rock? Without this human experience is there a United States? What would Jesus do? He'd get pissed off and go biblical on some money changers. Dude was a rebel least we forget.

[The Gipkik]

[blurgalurgalurga]

I just think some people are naturally cranky and don't like people, and that's fine with me as long as they aren't mean.
I certainly didn't mean to suggest that everybody who appears to be friendly and open is in fact faking it. But I do feel that many are. I'd prefer to talk to a grumpy old coot who is openly grumpy than a phony who is only 'nice' because they know they'll get further in life that way.

[The Gipkik]

[FMPJ]