| View previous topic :: View next topic |
| Author |
Message |
dmbfan
Joined: 09 Mar 2006
|
 Posted: Mon May 11, 2009 9:35 pm Post subject: OKAY!!!!! |
 |
|
Sorry......just need to vent a little.
1. Mom is getting another divorce from a 20 year marriage.
2. Mom put a restraining order on said husband (due to physcial acts).
3. I am far away from the family during this time.
4. My sister is graduating high school and I can't afford to go see, unless
I make some big sacrifices (totaling up to $1300).
5. Weighing it all out..........finish in September.......go home with a
enough money to get me through the sumemr so I can spend time
witih my sisters, seeing as how a divorce is upon them (sam Mom,
different daddies). I don't know when we will all be in the same house
together.
6. Spoke said concerns to mother, but she did not partake........she needs
"spritiual healing".
7. Debate of going for the gusto and obtaining a CELTA (and spending the
money for it) or just gonig home to be with family.
8. Find out today my Uncle is dying of cander, today.
9. Have not seen my father in 7 years (we are just now talking again).
10. Currently in Korea................feelign the mass of shit piling on.
wondering what to do and how to do it.
dmbfan |
|
| Back to top |
|
 |
Joe666
Joined: 19 Nov 2008
Location: Jesus it's hot down here!
|
| Posted: Mon May 11, 2009 11:05 pm Post subject: |
|
|
I am weighing in on this one against my not so better judgement. You have almost no control over what is happening outside of K-Land. What you are describing, sounds like your prototypical western family situation. You would not be in the wrong by staying in Korea or any other country.
It sounds like you are having a shit day. Join the club brother. I almost popped today myself. Let some time pass and think it over. Don't let one shitty day or moment get the best of your decision making. Your family will understand and respect your decisions no matter what is happening in their lives.
Joe |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
dmbfan
Joined: 09 Mar 2006
|
| Posted: Tue May 12, 2009 12:00 am Post subject: |
|
|
| Quote: |
I am weighing in on this one against my not so better judgement. You have almost no control over what is happening outside of K-Land. What you are describing, sounds like your prototypical western family situation. You would not be in the wrong by staying in Korea or any other country.
It sounds like you are having a shit day. Join the club brother. I almost popped today myself. Let some time pass and think it over. Don't let one shitty day or moment get the best of your decision making. Your family will understand and respect your decisions no matter what is happening in their lives.
Joe |
You may be right. Being in Korea does not help, though. I remember when both my grandmother and grandfather died while I was here. With my uncle, it just adds tot he worry about things back home. Where is my mom going to live, if the house goes on the market after the divorce? How will she make a living? I guess it is a matter of money/future plans vs family and cool off time.
Anyway, thanks.
dmbfan |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
DrOctagon
Joined: 11 Jun 2008
Location: Chicago
|
| Posted: Tue May 12, 2009 12:24 am Post subject: |
|
|
| Less than 4 months buddy. Try to stick it out. High school graduations aren't that important. It's just a graduation. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
dmbfan
Joined: 09 Mar 2006
|
| Posted: Tue May 12, 2009 2:20 am Post subject: |
|
|
| Quote: |
| Less than 4 months buddy. Try to stick it out. High school graduations aren't that important. It's just a graduation. |
Thanks. I'm working on it. It is hard, though.
(not seeking sympathy...just needed to vent).
The thing about my sisters graduation is that.......well, we did not grow up together and we've spent the last two years re-establishing a relationship. I've seen all of my other sisters graduate (even stayed home last spring/summer to see one graduate). I'm worried about a negative impact. Plus, since my mom is divorcing THEIR father, I don't know when we will all be together under one roof. And, I had to make a promise to my mother not to get physcial with my step dad because...well, there were a few reasons why she filed a restraining order against him. But, going home costs money and that is money I need to save for either a CELTA, a new car or a dam bood backpacking trip.
As some of you know, divorce changes everything (this will be the third I've witnessed).
And my unlce......another relative I love that is going to die while I'm in Korea.
That's life, though.
dmbfan |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
tzechuk
Joined: 20 Dec 2004
|
| Posted: Tue May 12, 2009 8:16 am Post subject: |
|
|
I would seriously urge you to stay put here - what are you going to do when you are at home? I know you have family to see, and stuff to do, but people are going to be downright miserable.
Save the money and send your sister a big fat(ish) cheque for her graduation. They are adults now, not little kids, they know how to use the computer and have mobile phones. If they want to keep a good relationship with you, they can and will.
Chin up... life sucks and don't I know it 
Sorry to hear all your issues, though. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
FAQ
Search
Memberlist
Usergroups
Register
Profile
Log in to check your private messages
Log in
