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[Zantetsuken]

This crazy guy who I met in my neighborhood about a year ago keeps popping up every 2 or 3 months in different parts of town. When I first met this nutbag I tried to get rid of him and being the dumbass I am...I gave him my phone number. This guy would then try to call me 10 or 12 times a day. Eventually he gave up after about a month. This was about a year ago.

Just when I thought I got rid of him....I see him again on the street. I've been seeing him off and on in different places since then. Everytime I see him he talks about how I should become more British and that USA is evil and everything else. He wants me to go to his house...always sings pop songs in front of me and tells me to go back to the states. Just think what a genuine nutbag would say...and thats this guy.

Unfortunately, this guy was hanging outside of my school when I went on my lunch break. In front of my coworkers he's singing songs and pestering me about where I'm going for lunch. Then he tries getting in my car thinking we are going to go eat together. I defintely wanted to knock this dude out once and for all...but you never know the retaliation a nutjob might do and also it was in front of the students and faculty.

I think that I definitely can expect to see this guy every few months from here on in....and now that he knows where I work and what my car looks like...who knows what he'll do.

Anybody else have a stalker before?I bet if I wasn't a white guy...this wouldn't even happen though.

[Goku]

Is he Korean or British?

[Sergio Stefanuto]

Just flying roundhouse him, bro

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[Chambertin]

Wish I had better advice, but I say start carrying your camera, stop talking to him and any time you see him, take a picture.

This way when somethign does get strange you have some good proof this strange person is stalking you.
Could even make some interesting blog enteries.

[Yu_Bum_suk]

Whenever a random Korean I meet who seems to be too friendly wants my number I say my phone's at home and write out the wrong number. The changes of making a great friend are outweighed by the chances of making a great mistake, unfortunately.

[Goku]

[seoulsucker]

Yup. Giving out the phone number to adult males is a HUGE no-no in this country. These guys are usually outcasts for one reason or another and are desperate to have some sort of social bond.

The first few weeks I was here I had to disconnect my landline and change my cellphone number because of a guy I randomly started a conversation with in my neighborhood. Thank god he never found out exactly where I lived.

[Yu_Bum_suk]

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[RJjr]

I've had stalkers, but never a male one. That would really, really, really, really, really suck. Do you feel like it's a coincidence that he's in these neighborhoods that you go to, or do you think he watches where you're going and follows you there?

[I'm no Picasso]

It's funny -- I've been thinking about this lately. In your case, the guy sounds like a genuine stalker, or heading in that direction. But I was talking to a (male) Korean friend the other day and he told me this little story:

He had another foreign friend (male) who (according to him) he was pretty close with. They were supposed to meet at 8:30 at the bar, but the Korean's mother made fresh ddeok and he wanted to share some with his friend while it was still warm, so he headed over early at 8. The foreigner was in the shower, and when he came out, he acted as though the Korean was imposing by showing up thirty minutes early at his place instead of meeting at the bar as planned. He was weirded out and sent my Korean friend away.

My friend asked if it was a cultural difference. That alone wouldn't have caused a problem for me, personally, but who knows how many more little incidents there were like this before that my Korean friend didn't think anything about, but which were freaking the foreigner out a bit.

I also had a female Korean friend shortly after I arrived who was becoming a bit too cozy too fast for my liking, calling and emailing everyday and wanting to spend loads of time together. And when I would see her, it was impossible to get away. We'd agree to have lunch, and after she'd suggest coffee, and after she'd suggest going back to hers to show me a book, and after she'd suggest me staying while she cooked dinner. It was too much for me, too fast.

The only thing I can think is that the genders are so segregated here, that what we sort of reserved for heterosexual guy-gal kinda relations back home is the way same-sex friendships are in this country.

Plus waegookin groupies always tend to be just a little odd. Sometimes in a good way, sometimes in a not-so-good way.

[Hobophobic]

A. Maybe you should go to the noraebang with him and only sing songs that have America or American in the title/chorus but sing them with your best fake English accent impersonation...

B. Or if being in a small room is potentially dangerous, whenever you see him you could become a close-talker - invade his personal space and when he tries to talk....refer to A in the manner he does with WangChung and the lot....make sure you air-guitar and do the riffs aloud as well....

In anycase, stalkers suck...good luck.

[Yesterday]

stalking aint too bad.. I was kidnapped 3 weekends ago - but I managed to escape after FOUR hours - climbed out a window and jumped 3 storeys down...

but I don't want to talk about it..