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drkalbi
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| mayorgc wrote: |
| I'm wondering. How does a marriage end after being together for 5-10 years? After 2 or 3 years, don't you already know enough about the person? What changes so drastically that you decide to divorce? Did you get married to young? did situations change (financially or infidelity)? |
I'm sure after you have been with someone this long, you can answer the question yourself.  |
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travel zen
Joined: 22 Feb 2005
Location: Good old Toronto, Canada
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| Posted: Mon Jul 13, 2009 6:51 am Post subject: |
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You can be with someone for 10 or 15 years and still learn new things about their personality.
You can still be madly in love and in lust with a person after 10 - 15 years despite what TV says.
You an even despise a person and still walk down the isle and marry them thinking that you can and will change them to your liking. |
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Chambertin
Joined: 07 Jun 2009
Location: Gunsan
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| Posted: Wed Jul 15, 2009 7:33 pm Post subject: |
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Broke off the engagement a couple months before the big day.
Luckily it was going to be a small wedding.
Found out she was earning the nickname finger-cuffs in the manager�s office...
Although I still love her, and dont think I can completely stop. I heard she got really fat and I cant keep the smile off my face.
If you can stay friends more power to you. There was a reason you married them, so at least the pain of separation hasn�t tainted the friendship. |
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friendoken
Joined: 19 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Jul 15, 2009 9:03 pm Post subject: |
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| Chambertin wrote: |
Broke off the engagement a couple months before the big day.
Luckily it was going to be a small wedding.
Found out she was earning the nickname finger-cuffs in the manager�s office...
Although I still love her, and dont think I can completely stop. I heard she got really fat and I cant keep the smile off my face.
If you can stay friends more power to you. There was a reason you married them, so at least the pain of separation hasn�t tainted the friendship. |
I like this! Very uplifting, thanks. Friends of my ex and myself back in Canada split up about two years ago and have been in a very nasty and extremely bitter divorce fight. Their 15 year old daughter got completely messed up, pregnant and had a kid, and I just heard from my ex that my friend had a massive stress induced heart attack and died a couple of days ago. 48 years old! That is frigging sad. When we hung out we used to laugh!!! And have sooo much fun.
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Kimsmith
Joined: 26 May 2008
Location: The holographic Universe
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| Posted: Wed Jul 22, 2009 8:58 pm Post subject: |
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| mayorgc wrote: |
| I'm wondering. How does a marriage end after being together for 5-10 years? After 2 or 3 years, don't you already know enough about the person? What changes so drastically that you decide to divorce? Did you get married to young? did situations change (financially or infidelity)? |
There are so many different reasons for a marriage break-up and I don't think it is possible to pin-point just a few of them. It's a huge combination of factors, and unfortunately, while everyone changes as they get older, they don't always change into people who you want to be around. |
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MissSeoul
Joined: 25 Oct 2006
Location: Somewhere in America
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| Posted: Thu Jul 23, 2009 11:01 pm Post subject: |
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| How did your Laos wife handle it? |
He " THINKS " he loves his Lao wife, but the feeling of love is not deep enough to care her feeling. She is the one who invited his ex ???
She must be very confused and she is the only one who can understand what she was doing, she might try to show her husband what a huge big heart she has , it must come from some kind of inferiority complex she has.
One thing I can tell you. HIS EX LEFT HIM and she broke his heart  |
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poet13
Joined: 22 Jan 2006
Location: Just over there....throwing lemons.
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"I'm wondering. How does a marriage end after being together for 5-10 years?"
8 years married here...I think. Maybe it was 9.
I made my weekly call from Korea while TDY. She said, "I want a divorce. I've sent the papers to Yongsan." "ok", I said, my head not really being 'in the moment'.
Then the flood. All the unanswered questions. Why do you always have to go for training courses on such short notice? Why was your passport here when you went overseas? How do you get such horrible scars from working for FEMA? Do they shoot you during training or did you rob a liquor store? (I have no idea where that one came from either.)
And the big one. "WHY AREN'T YOU FIGHTING FOR ME?" (Cause I said "ok" without much pause.)
"Well, the simple answer to that, is that you waited until I was half way around the world, far away from any kind of support, to jack me. Think about it."
And that, was the end of that. |
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alphakennyone
Joined: 01 Aug 2005
Location: city heights
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And the big one. "WHY AREN'T YOU FIGHTING FOR ME?" (Cause I said "ok" without much pause.)
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Never been married, but in every serious relationship I've had, that's the "test" that I've always failed, or refused to take. |
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Joe Batts Arm
Joined: 22 Jul 2009
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| Posted: Fri Jul 24, 2009 10:10 am Post subject: |
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| MissSeoul wrote: |
| sakamuras wrote: |
| How did your Laos wife handle it? |
He " THINKS " he loves his Lao wife, but the feeling of love is not deep enough to care her feeling. She is the one who invited his ex ???
She must be very confused and she is the only one who can understand what she was doing, she might try to show her husband what a huge big heart she has , it must come from some kind of inferiority complex she has.
One thing I can tell you. HIS EX LEFT HIM and she broke his heart |
You seem to be mildly confused about the facts and majorly confused in general. Are you Korean Miss Seoul? That would seem appropriate, especially considering your atrocious grammar. |
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