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[ABC KID]

An ever-increasing amount of westerners are marrying Koreans, including plenty of posters on here I should think. So for those that are married to a Korean, how do you get on with your Korean In-Laws?


Are they kind to you / indifferent to you / hostile to you (either because you are a foreigner or simply because they do not like you)?


Are they humble, flexible and open-minded or arrogant, stuck in their ways, with a superiority complex (either because of their age or nationality)?


How about communication? Can you speak Korean well? Or can they speak English well? In cases where communication is comfortable do you feel that it is a major plus point or do you sometimes think you would be better off if you could not understand each other?

[movybuf]

My in-laws are great. They are really cool and extremely nice to me. They actually seem to like me more than my wife's sister's husband.

Comminuication is not too much of a problem. I don't speak Korean fluently but enough to know what is going on. My father-in-law knows a bit of English too, so between us we can manage to understand each other.

[Snake Doctor]

Educated, smart, unobtrusive, unintrusive, wonderful, kind, and very patient people.

Love em to death. Can't get enough of my MIL, she's not the typical adjuma! How lucky can a guy be?

[definitely maybe]

I'm also incredibly lucky, particularly compared to my other buddies who married Koreans. My in-laws have been nothing of supportive of us the entirety of our relationship. They're very cool about not pushing things on me, and are always appreciative when I take interest in "the Korean way."

[PatrickGHBusan]

Having been married to my wife for over 10 years this is what I can say about my in-laws (her parents, her siblings and her aunts and uncles).

They are, to a person warm and welcoming people.

My Father-in-law is retired now but worked hard his whole life to provide for his family. He is a hilarious man who never hesitates to crack a joke. He accepted me without reservation when I started dating his daughter. He had a rough youth, his parents were killed in the Korean war. Yet he remains a positive man....

My mother-in-law is also fantastic. She made me feel like part of the family right away. She is interesting, kind, and patient.

Both of them have done nothing but support us and our kids.

Now that we are back in Canada I miss them a great deal along with my wife's brother and his daughters.

My wife's oldest aunt is a farmer in the countryside. She is 78 and still works at the crack of dawn. She met me for the first time when we visited her farm 10 years ago. she had never been abroad and had never met a westerner...yet she made me feel at home right away....

Most of my in-laws have visited us in Canada or taken a trip there with us when we visited my family. Those meetings were a rich and unforgetable experience.

I have to say that my Korean reached fluency faster because of my mother-in-law and my father-in-law with whom I had daily conversations.

[tzechuk]

My ex-mother in law's cool, all things considered. She loved me more than she loved her own son (that speaks volume, really, cos he's the oldest). Very religious, very well-read, well-travelled. Had a pretty hard life - apparently her father was some village chief during the occupation. He had no choice but to *befriend* the Japs. When the war was over, the executed dad. Ma followed shortly. She was 11 or so and has 2 younger brothers. Don't know the full story really.. just heard my ex talk about it from time to time.

She was really upset when my ex and I told her we were getting a divorce. She yelled at her son for not looking after me, for not knowing how to treat me right etc. etc. and she wouldn't stop apologising to me. She literally begged me to stay with him.

Sigh.. wish things were that simple.

[asmith]

Absolutely wonderful. No complaints from me.

[Horangi Munshin]

My in-laws are great. They'd have to be or I couldn't have lived with them the past six years!

[Enrico Palazzo]

A toast to all those nice wives and mothers-in-law.

Cheers, fellows! What about ladies married to Korean males?

[tzechuk]

[asmith]

[asmith]

[Captain Corea]

My parents in-law are great. Not perfect, but always trying. I couldn't ask for much more.

[nfld_chingu]

[peppermint]

My circle of friends is probably unusual, but I know mostly white men who divorced K-women, and western women happily married to k-men.