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I was born in a family that the parents' role model was relatively weak (they are great persons though).

Also thanks to my trifling social life before I graduated from university, I had almost no chance to meet people that are very different from me.

Later I started to date, honestly, I like all my relationships and I love all guys I dated simply because they make my life more interesting. For the first time I explored the worlds that I had never seen before.

I have been remodelled by my ex-bfs, from my out-looking to my hobbies to my understanding and the attitude to the world...

A very obvious change is my taste to music.

My ex-bf back home liked a second-line pop star and for a while, my mp3 was filled with those cheap pop music.
My Canaidan ex-bf later introduced lots of weird music to me including some African tribe music, until now I still like the music type he likes.
Later I met a guy who loves electronic music,especially techno, he really made me fond of those stuffs a lot.
I also dated a DJ who played awesome music all the time, mostly electronic, but also hip-pop.........lots of 60-70 oldie.

Now I am dating a guy who likes rock and roll a lot , he himself was the bass in a band back home...I have never liked rock and roll much, but I believe I am going to like it sooner or later.


How did your boyfriends/girlfriends change you?

[Oreovictim]

How have girlfriends changed me? I've had girlfriends teach me a lot of things, but it's not like there was some sort of dramatic change in me.

The Korean girlfriends (all two of them) that I had mainly taught me about the language, but that's only because I would bother them. These two liked foreigners, and they were both surprised that I had an interest in learning the language. Their previous boyfriends didn't really bother to learn.

It's interesting that you're dating someone now who's getting you in to rock music. Lots of great rock band out there. You'll soon be humming the guitar riffs to classics like "Iron Man" and "Smoke on the Water." I hummed "Smoke on the Water" to a girlfriend, and she thought that it was the tune from The Pink Panther. Then I played the song, and she said, "Oh, this is on a Korean commercial!"

[alphakennyone]

I think I changed my girlfriends more than they changed me. A good short story by Anton Chekov, "The Darling" reflects that this may be common - the lady tends to take after her man more than the other way around.

I kind of chuckle when I see how "into" American football some of my friends' girlfriends are. I have to wonder how sincere their interest was at the beginning, however "real" it may be now.

SWEET, the Chekov is here:

http://www.classicreader.com/book/2046/1/

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[Koveras]

I've put up with successively less crap after each one. I can only hope that after a few more I'll learn not to put up with any.

[beercanman]

Not much, really. I'm pretty much the same as before. I did gather, from them at least, that females generally are into sex as much as guys, but they usually need to actually like the guy. Not sure I am correct here. Guys are more willing to shag a stranger based on looks. Girls do that too, not as often? But when a girl actually likes the guy, nice.

[earthbound14]

mmmmmm herpes?

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[UknowsI]

I really expected more answers like "to never trust anyone again".

[Darashii]

Funny you asked this...

I went home recently and one of the two goals in doing so was to go on a date with a guy I've known for 6 years on and off since university. He's Korean American and so we actually went on a pre-date when he came with his family earlier this year, but we considered the outting two weeks ago as our "First Date".

After the date, I felt...confused. He's beautiful (like, put a wig and heels on and you couldn't tell, gorgeous) and smart (medical student) and caring (involved in community and outreach) and likes me (traveled many, many miles to get to me). You'd think I'm walking on Clud 9, but...

He needs to experience life and women. He's powered his way through school, never taking a break, never taking time to explore the world and thus himself, to see what's out here. He's had, as far as I can tell, one loooooooong distance "girlfriend". I've had a lot of awkward and stupid and hurtful and beautiful experiences with all sortsa boys and men and manchildren and psychos...

I can't take back all the shit I've been through that's shaped and changed me. All that remains is for him to be shaped and changed by The Real World. I really like him and he seems to like me, but I'm not the same little girl who asked him out 6 years ago, but he... he hasn't changed a bit.

And I actually revealed this fact to him. I told him later that it would be a really great idea if he went out on a lot of dates with other women and screwed around a bit. I really did. He was shocked. Most women would be like "Hah! That guy got no game! I'm just gonna watch him flap around hopelessly because it amuses me," but I decided that instead of breaking him in for another woman (because God knows, boys are terribly ungrateful to the women who show them what they want and will simply go running after The Next One because now he's Ready for the Big League) it's time for some other woman to do the training so that I (if he even decides to 'come back') can then be the one he runs to to show me his finely honed male prowess.

Perhaps men don't (or think that they don't) change as much as women with each relationship or encounter, but I hope to god they do. I need you to come at me being the man you intend to be for a looooong time.

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[beercanman]

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