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giraffe
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japanese people have a term for this... Hikikomori.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori
Interesting social phenomena.
Theres a korean horror movie called Loner that deals with this. Aswell as one of the segments in the Tokyo! movie.
But i guess these are extreme cases =p.
Personnally im a recluse. I cant stand seeing the same people over and over again hearing them complain about the same crap over and over again. Or even the opposite hearing about happy people doing happy things. Drives me nuts. I just keep to myself. It different with my wife though. Love to spend time with her but i am choosy with who else i spend my time with. |
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Harpeau
Joined: 01 Feb 2003
Location: Coquitlam, BC
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| Posted: Sat Aug 15, 2009 6:24 am Post subject: |
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| Interesting thread! Bump. |
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tzechuk
Joined: 20 Dec 2004
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I probably can as long as I have a computer. Haha.. I can sit here all day without moving  |
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Scamps
Joined: 01 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Sat Aug 15, 2009 7:28 am Post subject: |
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I'm a total recluse but it isn't exactly by choice. I'm not into smoking, drinking or partying and the small circle of Korean friends I have are always working. So when I'm not working I'm always at home playing with my pets, staying up all night, watching tv, listening to music, surfing online and all those other kinds of non-social activities.
If anybody feels like they're in the same boat as me, pm me and I'd be happy to go out, see more of Korea, try a new restaurant or whatever. |
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beercanman
Joined: 16 May 2009
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| Posted: Sat Aug 15, 2009 8:22 am Post subject: |
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| thoreau wrote: |
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| I don't really understand the loner mindset, but to each their own... |
People get tiring after a while. It is difficult for me to feign interest in the mundane details of someone's life. I feel no urge to share similarly uninteresting facts about my own.
But I do a pretty good job of 'faking' it.
So, after a long day of putting on a social face I feel very tired and weighed down. I seek solace in the quiet confines of my own space. Weekends are a time for me to recharge so I can again bear the burden of faking it the next week.
That being said, sometimes I will run across a genuine person. Someone who hasn't already made up their mind on all the issues. Someone who is willing to converse (not just talk and wait their turn) but not impinge on my private space. A person who is not encumbered by baubles and drama. Those rare souls I can spend hours with and feel better at the end of the day. |
I believe, honestly, that we'd get along fine. My ideas are similar. I am a true introvert, but miss a good chat now and then, with a smart person. Duh, as if lulz, we all wanna talk to dummies rotflmao |
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visitorq
Joined: 11 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat Aug 15, 2009 9:43 am Post subject: |
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| I am pretty reclusive myself. Most of the time I go to work and return home. I am only seen when I need to go out and get something. Those places know me, and they know my buying patterns. The local minimart knows exactly what I am going to buy if I come in at 11 pm. They also know exactly what I will buy if I go in at noon. The pizza place knows me when I call. I merely have to say 'waygookin' and show up 10 minutes later. It is quite funny. I enjoy my time alone, but I have some things I need to sort out in my life right now. Moving to another country (Thailand) is always a somewhat daunting task. |
Recluse to loner is a hop skip and a thump.
I lived in Ulsan and Thailand. Thailand is far superior. |
Unless you're living in an ivory tower, it's pretty well impossible to be a recluse in Thailand... it's always the opposite problem: trying to keep a low profile and not get harassed by people who want something from you... Thai people can be fun/sweet at times, but they're so often in your space, and see you as an opportunity. Ex. whenever you go to a nightclub you get harassed by girls just like girls usually get harassed by guys in other countries (reversed). Yes it is annoying. |
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stevieg4ever
Joined: 11 Feb 2006
Location: London, England
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| Posted: Sat Aug 15, 2009 10:13 am Post subject: |
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I miss the privateness, peace and tranquility that my small town in Korea afforded me, now that I am not in Korea I have really learnt the value of this. In Korea I go hiking, go to a temple or a local market and take my camera with me, that is much better for me than the rough and tumble of city life.
I have realised whilst travelling and living in Korea that I don't have too many friends in the UK and not much life either and that that really doesn't bother me.
I exercise, study, read, take pictures, play sudoku, surf, play chess and do plenty of other stuff alone.
I think I have always had an element of reclusiveness in my life but now that I am older I dont see this as such a bad thing. The media and other modern western elements makes people who are reculsive out to be wierdos and strange disturbed people like Michael Jackson. Stupid really...
I think after having lived in Korea and travelled a lot people back home just dont seem as interesting to me anymore. And people in today's world can be so annoying sometimes. |
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rusty1983
Joined: 30 Jan 2007
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| Posted: Sat Aug 15, 2009 12:16 pm Post subject: |
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I like being alone sometimes but usually it drives me up the wall. Even if Im on my own Ive got a couple of conversations going on SKYPE.
What do you do on a Saturday night?
Hell Im just about to head out into the night alone cos Im so bored. |
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AgentM
Joined: 07 Jun 2009
Location: British Columbia, Canada
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| Posted: Sat Aug 15, 2009 1:15 pm Post subject: |
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| thoreau wrote: |
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| I don't really understand the loner mindset, but to each their own... |
People get tiring after a while. It is difficult for me to feign interest in the mundane details of someone's life. I feel no urge to share similarly uninteresting facts about my own.
But I do a pretty good job of 'faking' it.
So, after a long day of putting on a social face I feel very tired and weighed down. I seek solace in the quiet confines of my own space. Weekends are a time for me to recharge so I can again bear the burden of faking it the next week.
That being said, sometimes I will run across a genuine person. Someone who hasn't already made up their mind on all the issues. Someone who is willing to converse (not just talk and wait their turn) but not impinge on my private space. A person who is not encumbered by baubles and drama. Those rare souls I can spend hours with and feel better at the end of the day. |
I could understand that perspective. However, don't you get lonely after being on your own for a while? I find I do, even though as I previously said, I like my alone time. |
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World Traveler
Joined: 29 May 2009
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[quote="losing_touch"][quote="thoreau"]
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| It is difficult for me to feign interest in the mundane details of someone's life. I feel no urge to share similarly uninteresting facts about my own. |
I can definately see where you're coming from. What I try to do to rectify this is steer the conversation to a topic of mutual interest/ mutual edification.
Another thing you could do is try to meet as many new acquaintances as possible. This way you can find those people with whom you are most compatible. |
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Koveras
Joined: 09 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Sun Aug 16, 2009 1:21 am Post subject: |
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| giraffe wrote: |
japanese people have a term for this... Hikikomori.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori
Interesting social phenomena.
Theres a korean horror movie called Loner that deals with this. Aswell as one of the segments in the Tokyo! movie.
But i guess these are extreme cases =p.
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We have a term for this in english too: Loser. |
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AgentM
Joined: 07 Jun 2009
Location: British Columbia, Canada
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| Posted: Sun Aug 16, 2009 8:46 am Post subject: |
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[quote="World Traveler"][quote="losing_touch"]
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| AgentM wrote: |
| It is difficult for me to feign interest in the mundane details of someone's life. I feel no urge to share similarly uninteresting facts about my own. |
I can definately see where you're coming from. What I try to do to rectify this is steer the conversation to a topic of mutual interest/ mutual edification.
Another thing you could do is try to meet as many new acquaintances as possible. This way you can find those people with whom you are most compatible. |
Sorry, that was a misquote, I didn't say that... |
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giraffe
Joined: 07 Apr 2009
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| Posted: Sun Aug 16, 2009 8:59 am Post subject: |
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| Koveras wrote: |
We have a term for this in english too: Loser. |
I think what i meant is that its fairly common over there =p.. Im trying to find a youtube video i watched a few weeks back about this. all because of the school system. It Creates alot of suicide and reclusive people. |
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AgentM
Joined: 07 Jun 2009
Location: British Columbia, Canada
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| Posted: Sun Aug 16, 2009 9:29 am Post subject: |
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| giraffe wrote: |
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We have a term for this in english too: Loser. |
I think what i meant is that its fairly common over there =p.. Im trying to find a youtube video i watched a few weeks back about this. all because of the school system. It Creates alot of suicide and reclusive people. |
I would agree that the school system often does cause people to become more reclusive than they might otherwise be. High school isn't necessarily the best environment for everyone. |
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ed
Joined: 15 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Sun Aug 16, 2009 3:07 pm Post subject: yes |
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look up the words INTROVERT and EXTROVERT
I always wondered why I like to be alone but never feel lonely and why people I knew hated being alone and having no contact with other humans. |
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