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[oshiete]

...or I guess you could call this understanding Korean women (and I mean that respectfully)

I have only been on a couple dates (2 girls). In both cases there were two dates. Both girls gave very little indication that anything was not to their liking...quite the opposite really! After the second date both were "too busy" to go out again and then broke off contact all completely.

Now I can understand I might not be to the girl's liking. But what I don't get is that in both cases, after the second date, both girls talked extensively about how we would meet about again, making specific plans etc...If neither of them liked me why would they go to this trouble. Is this normal Korean girl behaviour to say one thing and do another? Just curious...anyone have a similar experience.

oh, and if you're just writing to ridicule me or w.e. then don't bother. I'm genuinely asking. thanks!

[Nemo]

They were just being polite.

When they get too "busy" it can also be their version of a polite flick off or they have upgraded, keeping you on the reserve bench for another time.

[oshiete]

[eIn07912]

[oshiete]

[eIn07912]

[samcheokguy]

Anyone who says they are too good not only for a foreigner, but a Korean famer, doesn't get sympathy in my book.
-Most Korean women are cheaper than a roll of kim bap. Not in that they are easy, but you can find a woman with their qualities (not looks mind you) in any Manhatten Island pick-up bar a block from Wall Street.

[E_athlete]

you left out a lot but you didn't tell me how far you went with them physically within 2 dates. Did you have sex? Kiss? Hold hands? Break the touch barrier?

The fact they went out with you more than once means you are doing something right. I think the problem is that you are not escalating fast enough.

[Dharma_Blue]

[oshiete]

[oshiete]

[quote="eIn07912 She never would let me over to her house, though she stayed at mine a lot. And she always seemed to be really well dressed, lived in a nice part of town, and had tons of extra spending money to just be a "student" as she claimed. In hindsight, I don't ever recall seeing her with books or doing any kind of project or homework.[/quote]

Hmm I once 'dated' a Russian girl in Korea I met at a businessman's bar. She would never let me go to her place either...though in that case I just assumed she had many secrets to keep...lol

[bassexpander]

Knowing very few facts here and just implying a lot...

Did you contact them that next day (or better yet, text them when you arrived home, thanking them for a wonderful evening)? I tell foreigner after foreigner that Korean women expect downright stalker-ish contact from a guy ASAP after a date.

I'm suggesting that I could see you keeping a western mindset and not contacting the girl for a few days in an attempt to not seem desperate. If you follow that route, you're really shooting yourself in the foot. In the Korean woman's mind (generally), you're not interested in her if you wait to contact. That's when fears of "He's one of those playboy foreigners" start to creep into their minds, and they cut you off.

When interested in a woman, most Korean men will contact their lovers as much as three times a day, via a call and a few texts, or whatever. Indeed, it's what many women expect. Once into you, many of these gals will want to meet you 3 to 5 times per week! Remember, Koreans tend to be extremely social within their little "in" crowd of friends. Take that times 10 for dating.

I once had a girlfriend whom I was absolutely crazy about, but I waited to contact her, foolishly thinking she would run to me. I learned years later that she assumed I hated her for something she'd said or done. Nothing could have been further from the truth, but that's what she thought. Why did she think that? Simply because I didn't contact her.

Serious advice to any male interested in Korean women -- you MUST contact them no later than the next day by call or text. Better yet, text her when you arrive home from the date, and then the next day.

You won't seem desperate, you'll seem attentive and interested.

Some other things I've learned: Seoul women can be very different from women outside of Seoul. Also, if a woman you are dating won't make time for you on both Saturday AND Sunday (or preferrably Friday, Saturday, and Sunday), then there is a good chance she's playing the field. I held fast to that rule, and it served me well.

[oshiete]

[ldh2222]

[E_athlete]

you should also try physically escalating. This can you doing some bs palm reading or something then holding hands afterwords. I'm just going to say that you cant expect her to make the move, ultimately you will have to make it happen yourself. Things don't just happen like you see on television.

Anyways this is topic that you can read books about. It's not something I can explain to you in a few short paragraphs. If you want to know more pm me. If you want advice there are better forums for this.

try http://www.theattractionforums.com/