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chaz47
Joined: 11 Sep 2003
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 Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 10:23 pm Post subject: Dating after 30 in Korea... |
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Anyone else here single and in their 30s. I'm finding it exceedingly difficult to meet a nice K-girl. It seems like Koreans over 30 are single for good reason, i.e. no one would take them. They tend to extend this same logic to foreigners that are over 30 and single because I only meet the dregs these days. If by some freakish stroke of luck I can get a date with women younger than 30 even they have issues.
I've been here about 4 years and have had two long-term relationships but am now in an 8 month dry spell and it's getting aggravating. |
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Mochi
Joined: 20 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 10:28 pm Post subject: |
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I'm in my mid thirties and there is definitely a stigma on unmarried thirty-somethings.
If you live in the sticks, I bet it's tough. But if you live in Seoul, you just need to get out there (and I don't mean to be patronizing). If you hate the club scene, try meetup.com - it's not a dating site, but it is a good way to expand your circle. |
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DWAEJIMORIGUKBAP
Joined: 28 May 2009
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 10:31 pm Post subject: |
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Hmmm, maybe it's not just me then...
I've been pretty 'dry' since I tunred 30 too...
I'll start lying about my age...
Well to be fair I haven't been trying so much either...
Are you asking aout as many girls as before...? Keeping smae standars of dress, hygeine etc...
If you are, then you might have a point and you might want to lie about your age until you're in there... |
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roadwork
Joined: 24 Nov 2008
Location: Goin' up the country
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 10:42 pm Post subject: |
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| There are a few unmarried 30 somethings out there, but as another poster said, they are that way for a reason. Usually, from what other friends have told me, the best deal you can get for your age would be to date a divorced K girl. A friend of mine did it in Incheon and they wound up getting married and he adopted the woman's daughter. He said that she was grateful on two accounts: 1) She didn't have to get married to another cheating lying drunken K-man and 2) She actually got married to someone who actually loved her and her daughter, despite her not being his. |
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djsmnc
Joined: 20 Jan 2003
Location: Dave's ESL Cafe
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:01 pm Post subject: |
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| I still have to beat them off with a stick! |
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drkalbi
Joined: 06 Aug 2006
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:12 pm Post subject: |
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| Try dating after 60. |
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xingyiman
Joined: 12 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:14 pm Post subject: |
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| Whether you are in the west or here dating past 30's sucks. All the good ones are taken and whats left has a short shelf life. |
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Epicurus
Joined: 18 Jun 2009
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:17 pm Post subject: |
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| xingyiman wrote: |
| Whether you are in the west or here dating past 30's sucks. All the good ones are taken and whats left has a short shelf life. |
wrong. Dating after 30 in the West is good. Even better in Latin America.
One can still easily score women around 25.
I have a friend who's been here for several years. We met up in Seoul a while ago and he had 2 fairly pretty Korean gals with him, in their mid 20's. He mentioned to me later, after the gals had left to catch the last subway train home that when he mentioned his real age (33/34 now I think), he caught a reaction on their faces and it wasn't a positive one.
So he says he'll start lying 
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OnTheOtherSide
Joined: 29 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:17 pm Post subject: |
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| Just do a big cycle of steroids to get badass muscles. Problem solved. |
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roadwork
Joined: 24 Nov 2008
Location: Goin' up the country
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:21 pm Post subject: |
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| OnTheOtherSide wrote: |
| Just do a big cycle of steroids to get badass muscles. Problem solved. |
That's kind of funny, but it seems like K girls don't really go for the super buff guys like chicks back in the west do. They like them slender and soft here. |
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Epicurus
Joined: 18 Jun 2009
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:22 pm Post subject: |
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| roadwork wrote: |
| OnTheOtherSide wrote: |
| Just do a big cycle of steroids to get badass muscles. Problem solved. |
That's kind of funny, but it seems like K girls don't really go for the super buff guys like chicks back in the west do. They like them slender and soft here. |
GENERALLY true.
the buff guy won't look good wearing a shiny pink suit or a tight black suit as wide as his arm, replete with the flower boy hairstyle.
but I have a sense this is slightly changing. |
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I'm no Picasso
Joined: 28 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Epicurus wrote: |
| roadwork wrote: |
| OnTheOtherSide wrote: |
| Just do a big cycle of steroids to get badass muscles. Problem solved. |
That's kind of funny, but it seems like K girls don't really go for the super buff guys like chicks back in the west do. They like them slender and soft here. |
GENERALLY true.
the buff guy won't look good wearing a shiny pink suit or a tight black suit as wide as his arm, replete with the flower boy hairstyle.
but I have a sense this is slightly changing. |
The one thing I've unanimously heard out of my male Korean friends over the last few months:
"Tonight I exercise to make the six pack. If you want girl, you must make the six pack." |
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Captain Corea
Joined: 28 Feb 2005
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:25 pm Post subject: |
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I know a whole swack of single attractive k-girls in their 30s.
But they have very high standards. |
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xingyiman
Joined: 12 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:25 pm Post subject: |
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| Epicurus wrote: |
| xingyiman wrote: |
| Whether you are in the west or here dating past 30's sucks. All the good ones are taken and whats left has a short shelf life. |
wrong. Dating after 30 in the West is good. Even better in Latin America.
One can still easily score women around 25.
I have a friend who's been here for several years. We met up in Seoul a while ago and he had 2 fairly pretty Korean gals with him, in their mid 20's. He mentioned to me later, after the gals had left to catch the last subway train home that when he mentioned his real age (33/34 now I think), he caught a reaction on their faces and it wasn't a positive one.
So he says he'll start lying |
We must be from two different planets or dimensions or something. In the west most of the over 30 available gals are overweight. If they are anything close to good looking they probably just got divorced and they'll have a new BF as soon as they make a trip to some bar. Yeah in Asia you can make a way of it but in the west the only way you are gonna snag a good looker is if she's in her 20's and then the only way to do that is if you are loaded. Can't argue with you about latin America but by west I mean the United States, Canada, etc..... |
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eIn07912
Joined: 06 Dec 2008
Location: seoul
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:28 pm Post subject: |
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I have a friend over 30 trying to do the dating thing. He admits most of the chicks he goes out with here are a few pieces short of a kimbap roll. Usually after the first or second date they automatically start brining up marriage and such. They don't beat around the bush about it either.
That's just the culture here though. If they're not married by 30, that means something is wrong with them. They either rush off and marry the the first person that comes along, or accept that they will be single forever, and devote their entire lives to their jobs. Option B will usually guarantee they end up in some kind of position of authority or management, but it also makes them bitter old farts (male and female) that like to take out revenge on any happy young single care free 20 something or anyone married and with a family.
Personally, I advocate a more "Logan's Run" style of society. Where, when we turn 30, we all turn to dust. 30 for me is only 5 years away, but it feels like my life will be over at that point. Oh, to stay young forever... |
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