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[deadkoala]

I wanted to apologize because this is my first post on eslcafe, but I've been lurking here on and off since 2005. I recently moved back to Korea from living in Japan for 3 years. I met an extremely beautiful woman the second week after arriving and we hit it off quickly. We had so much chemistry between us, we would talk for hours on the phone (which is something I do not normally do, even with family members). To be honest, I've never felt this connection with anyone in general.

It was not just her looks, but the fact that she is very intelligent and independent(Her salary is higher than mine and she only works a few days a month, speaks english and fluent Japanese). She would drive two hours to see me and pick me up and she would show me places I normally wouldn't have found since my Korean is horrible and I do not have any Korean friends besides her and her network of friends. She introduced me to all of her friends and we would go out, watch movies, norebang, etc...

However just recently within the last two weeks she stopped contacting me. It left me confused so I called her and she said she does not want me to contact her via text or calling, but left me her email address.

Her reasoning was that she liked me for more than a friend, but her feelings changed because I was talking to other women. She said that she thought I was different than other men. These other women I had exchanged numbers with, but never talked for more than a few minutes, just through text. They weren't close friends, but I needed to branch out because I only had her as a friend. I didn't expect her to get upset because she wasn't officially my girlfriend or anything.

I feel like I lost a friend that i've known for years and it's been bothering me so much lately. I don't think it's fair that she just cut me off like that.
From your perspectivel, do you think I should pursue or leave it be? She said she needed time and didn't know when she would contact me again, but I worry she is doing this to forget she even met me.

[D.D.]

She got an asian bf and you are being cut out because she doesnt want you calling while they are together.

[deadkoala]

She doesn't have a boyfriend. I know that for a fact. I was with her pretty much every day she was off from work and we only went three days without talking. She also recently broke up with her boyfriend within the last two months who she met while traveling in Europe. It's definitely not a boyfriend...

[Samurai Blur]

Dude, you need to tell this woman that you didn't know she viewed you as more than a friend, and that feel the same way about her, but you didn't want to say anything and ruin the great friendship that you have (if that is the truth.. it's what I gathered from your post). If you care that much don't be a pansy, explain yourself to her! Tell her that you had just "branched out" because you didn't think you had a chance with her. Apologize if you have too. If you don't, mark my words, YOU WILL REGRET IT!

[deadkoala]

[Cheonmunka]

[Samurai Blur]

Yeah, if that's the case then I have to agree with the post above this one. Give her some time. Maybe she'll come around.

[deadkoala]

[Samurai Blur]

Welcome to the world of Korean women man. They make even less sense than the girls back home. Someone in China once told me "Dont try to reason your way through things with people here, your reasoning will only be met with more incoherent generalizations." I would imagine you are dealing with a similar logic, atleast, that's what it sounds like.

[T-dot]

She is training you to become her biatch. Simple really.

Drug dealers do the same thing. Free drugs, get them hooked and then cut them off.

[Samurai Blur]

[Dodgy Al]

You've been rejected, and that can be difficult to accept - especially if the reason for it doesn't add up. She's lying to you, but really, what does that matter? If it's the real reason, she's mental and this situation will arise again and again. If it's not the real reason, she's hiding something. Either way, it's over. Save yourself future heartache and move on. There's approximately one billion women in Korea. Find one that's less mental.

[Samurai Blur]

They are all going to do this in the end. It's the way Korean women play the "I wrap you around my finger" game. My girlfriend read your post. She said that's something she has done before. Get it under control or tell her to eff off. Anything else will just beat you into submission.

[redaxe]

This woman is not your friend, and she is manipulating you. Stay away, and don't call her or e-mail her or anything. And then don't be surprised if she comes crawling back, either.

[yingwenlaoshi]