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socratesocks · Joined: 18 Mar 2009 Location: Gwangju, Met City

So maybe this has been posted before, but the search feature isn't working so I'm just going to ask.

Been in Korea, Gwangju to be precise, for about three weeks. Last week I was out with a group of friends, and met a K girl that they work with who I really liked. We talked the whole night, I was getting great signals from her, but when the night wore on and the alcohol really started to flow, I think I came on a bit too strong, and she sort of backed off. I called her, and I'm going out with her on Saturday. I really like her. I'm really new to Korean, my vocabulary is maybe 40 words and almost all of them are nouns. She speaks almost perfect English, but I'd like to know if there are there any Korean phrases that are really nice, like polite ways to give compliments or say nice things without being blunt.

Chet Wautlands · Joined: 11 Oct 2008

Less is definitely more in this situation. Work on pronouncing your thank yous and your pleases perfectly. Koreans, like any other people, care more about hearing their language spoken well than a lot.

If she speaks English perfectly, then you'll do yourself a favour by telling her so properly in English. Unless you are both drunk, caveman Korean won't win her over.

Just my two cents.

tenchu77491 · Joined: 16 Mar 2009

Win her over like any other girl.

Subtle is the way to go~ laying it on too heavy in public will make her back off because she won't want to appear 'easy' in the eyes of the public, and god forbid in Korea, everyone will be looking and she knows it. She has to keep her decency (if she's a total *beep* then you can probably ignore this). So treat her with respect and keep your distance but not too much distance to make her feel like you don't care or you're not interested.

Try to remember even the smallest things you talked about before and stuff she loves or what ever. If she had some important date or event subtly let her know you remember by wishing her luck or something like that. When you go out take her to a place you know is her favorite food etc. When she asks why there or what ever, you can say you remember she said it was her favorite etc.

That stuff will score you some points.

Like the other poster said, using some good Korean will score you points like 'thank you' and 'hello, goodbye', 'sorry', 'excuse me' etc. Not to mention she will probably think it's adorable to hear you try so well.

Pay for everything, don't back down, but don't play macho cool guy either. Even pay without her knowing and never mention it. I find it's more expected than appreciated, but it doesn't hurt either way.

Try an take her places and you plan out the evening mostly, but don't strong arm her everywhere either. Think on her side~

Yeaaaa

endo · Joined: 14 Mar 2004 Location: Seoul...my home

Learn to order some things in Korean - beer, garlic, samgypsal, ect...

But ask her a few questions too.

tenchu77491 · Joined: 16 Mar 2009

Paddycakes · Joined: 05 May 2003 Location: Seoul

ontheway · Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 8:39 am Post subject:

Try this:

When she's ready to leave, tell her:

"don't go, don't go, don't go ... kiss me."

bobbyhanlon · Joined: 09 Nov 2003 Location: 서울

instead of asking here, ask her how to say a few things in korean. she'll probably like your enthusiasm for the language and also think its cute when you mess up the pronunciation.
also be polite, smile a lot, make the occasional goofy joke, and listen to her.

otherwise hit the soju, get hammered together, and see what happens..

mc_jc · Joined: 13 Aug 2009 Location: C4B- Cp Red Cloud, Area-I

Make an earnest effort- the more you try, the better your chances are that the girl might see that and actually call it "cute", which keeps you in the game.
Have a coworker or a Korean friend teach you some useful phrases and write down their pronunciation and PRACTICE.
There are no magic phrases or words that would make a girl koo over you.

D.D. · Joined: 29 May 2008

Try chilling out ie. I really like her- dude talk about projecting already. Truth is you don't even know her yet, so chill out and get to know her.

FistFace · Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 1:51 pm Post subject:

I suggest you take her out for Samgyupsal, but before you do, withdraw this month's paycheck and turn it into 50,000 won bills.

Tell her, "Yah! Listen! This is the way it is... you're going to drink this bottle of soju while I have a cigarette and talk to my coworker on the phone. If you raise your voice to me, I'll smack you alongside the head, so watch out! Then we're going to a Noraebang. We're going to sing and drink more soju as I have some more cigarettes while rubbing your leg. You will sing the songs I say. After that, we'll go to a yagwon so you can shower, because by then, you will be sweaty and need a shower. If you resist, then I'm going to drag you by the hair and smack you around. We'll have sex, one way or another, so just forget about the 'I won't because I'm a nice girl' speech, and do it.

You're going to marry me, so there is no reason to say no. I love you, and you will love me too, because I'll never let go of you."

While her mouth is wide open from that story, and she's about to slap your face and walk away, tell her you are really a medical doctor, and teaching English is just something you tell women to keep them from chasing after your family fortune. Pull out your big wad of cash and flip her a few hundred thousand won. Tell her to use to it go pay, because you don't speak Korean. She can keep the change.

She'll be all yours.

cdninkorea · Joined: 27 Jan 2006 Location: Seoul

at FistFace. I think that might work if a) you're incredibly wealthy, or b) about 50 years ago, when men were tough and women liked it (or so I hear; the "flower boys" are a recent backlash).

Privateer · Joined: 31 Aug 2005 Location: Easy Street.

Get her drunk. Time-honoured method. Wink

mc_jc · Joined: 13 Aug 2009 Location: C4B- Cp Red Cloud, Area-I

I think you brought up an excellent point- cdninkorea

Those are the things women look for in a guy;

~Wealth
~Manliness

But we (as westerners) seem to be brought up that the best way to charm a lady is to be polite and gentleman-like- which could also backfire as much (and with some people, more than) as being polite and courteous.
I guess it all depends on how much and exactly what you bring to the table- the more money you bring, the better your chances are because you have to add "stability" and "potential" to the equation.

Unless- both are looking for a hot roll-in-the-hay. But if its only the man, he needs to ready to invest in it.

Privateer- it is considered a time-honoured tradition, but it also feeds into the perception that we are predators.

is it me, or do I feel like I am back in middle school giving my friend advice on how to meet "the girl that sits in front of him"...I mean, aren't we adults and at least had some experience dealing with women?

PARAMDUNGI · Joined: 11 Sep 2009 Location: Busan

The Korean language thing will come but don't force it. You'll learn as you go. I'd say just be funny, be spontaneous, make jokes, and throw in a few compliments. Have a few drinks and say this in your best sexy voice:

"Hago-sheep-o-yo?"

She'll probably laugh but might actually bone you. Peace