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[DWAEJIMORIGUKBAP]

Stop analysing sh*t

It'll work out when it works out.

It's all about timing.

You being in 'the right place' (not geographically) and meeeting someone who is ready also at the same time.

Badaboombadabing.

fin.

It's also v difficult if one of you is staying in Korea and one of you is moving eventually. Or if you both plan to go home eventually but come from different countries and one doesn't have a strong desire to go expatriate to the other persons country.

I myself plan to move to Granada in Spain in a year or two and live meagerly off my savings in a one bed studio apt and work pt evenings for food money whilst in the day I pursue my own, let's call them artisitc projects...

I've given up on dating between now and landing in Spain (unless she wants just a casual affair) because lets face it - how many women (especially Korean) are going to be thrilled about the prospect of living in a European country where they themselves will find it hard to get a visa and then only earn min wage if they do (unless they are qualified proffessionally and speak Spanish) whilst living in a box with a guy who doesn't exactly have good long term financial prospects...?

So I've accepted that I won't be dating for probably the next two years. Luckilly, my 'projects' are what I care about most in life any way, so no biggie, once I came round to accpeting that, it's actually somewhat a relief to not be thinking about the opposite s*x so much....

[Panda]

I hope my post won't be laughed at...Cuz I used to bash others when they asked for help on their personal problems. But I then realized being a foreigner in a country, how often one's needs were ignored....not only by others, but mainly by ourselves.

I refused to be weak and believed I should only do better than what I did back home otherwise people would think I am a loser. Thus I got lots of problems unsolved and lots of pressure unrelieved inside of me.

I also felt quite ashamed whenever I was screwed up by a relationship, so I kept reminding myself : "Hey, your aim coming to Korea is neither dating nor getting married, having kids.....keep it simple and cool."

I really admire you, DWAEJIMORIGUBAP. I should have set longer plans and work on them straightforward just like what you are doing.

I have been told there are more better men outside Korea (I am not trying to be offensive to you guys here though). Hopefully, I could concentrate on my work and study and oneday swim out of this small Nodong-Gang river for the big Pacific Ocean.

Cheers, everybody.

[karoly]

Communication is the key; if there is no balance between the openness of partners, and in their social/philosophical ideologies, then just enjoy your time knowing that ultimately there will be no serious relationship.

[djz]

Just a few questions because this thread is pretty confusing:

1) Are you an ESL teacher from the states?
2) You're Korean, right?
3) Are you living by yourself now or with your parents?

Thanks.

As for advice: don't mention babies until you've been dating a long time.

[Draz]

[giraffe]

[Panda]

[Panda]

[karoly]