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conbon78
Joined: 05 Jun 2008
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Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 9:52 pm Post subject: Making Friends |
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So I moved up to Seoul 3 months ago from a smaller town in Korea, but now I have almost no friends. I don't work with any foreigners, so I can't meet people that way and the Koreans I work with don't seem to want to be my friend because they hate speaking English. How did you meet your friends? Oh...and I should mention that I live way outside of the center of Seoul, so I'm not in Itaewon, Hong dae, or Gangnam on a regular basis. In fact, I've only seen 2 foreigners where I live. Ideas? |
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DWAEJIMORIGUKBAP
Joined: 28 May 2009 Location: Electron cloud
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Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 9:59 pm Post subject: |
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meetup.com Korean page. Excellent.
Adventure Korea trips.
Also google seoul circle, used to be yupkkiclub. Met my first gf in Korea and one of my best friends there.
And I know it might be hard to do, but go to Itaewon and just start up a conversation with a few people who look like they might be ok. Like scoring dates, it's just a number game, 10 might blow you off but the next might not... |
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nomad-ish

Joined: 08 Oct 2007 Location: On the bottom of the food chain
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Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 10:14 pm Post subject: |
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i think heading to itaewon and trying to strike up a conversation in a coffee shop might be helpful. also, it'd be a really good idea if you joined some clubs or took a korean class at one of the universities. i believe there's one a sookmyeong (i'm not certain on the price though). |
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eIn07912

Joined: 06 Dec 2008 Location: seoul
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Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 10:35 pm Post subject: |
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Haha, I'd be careful about those meetup groups. Some seem kind of out there. A lot of "spiritual awakening" groups. |
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DWAEJIMORIGUKBAP
Joined: 28 May 2009 Location: Electron cloud
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Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 10:37 pm Post subject: |
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eIn07912 wrote: |
Haha, I'd be careful about those meetup groups. Some seem kind of out there. A lot of "spiritual awakening" groups. |
Not really. I've been to a few of the non spiritual ones, such as the hiking and food ones etc and met some good ppl. A good mix of proffessionals and not only English teachers which can be a nice break, can't it? |
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dalem
Joined: 30 Dec 2008
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Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 4:03 am Post subject: |
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i'm in a bunch of them too. It's great if you want that social fix outside of work. however, while i'm fairly new at it, all of it seems to be short time social fixe, no longer term friendship outside meetups.... yet! Even if it is just while at the meetup and no longer hangouts yet, it really is the lifeline for me. |
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littlelisa
Joined: 12 Jun 2007 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 5:40 am Post subject: |
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Take up a hobby. I swing dance.
Or, consider taking classes. There are free Korean classes offered around a bunch of places on Saturdays, I made a bunch of friends there.
Or, look into a bunch of different interest groups (do a search for something you're interested on the web or on facebook or something). I'm part of the Seoul veggie club, and I made some friends there too. I have other friends who've met people through hiking groups or book clubs.
Heck I even made a friend waiting for another friend at Anguk station. I don't even know how we ended up talking, but it was cool.
I also met a bunch of people through couchsurfing, and that's fun too. There's no limit, find something you like and you'll find others who like it too. Best way to start a friendship. |
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dalem
Joined: 30 Dec 2008
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Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 6:47 am Post subject: |
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just curious littlelisa, what is seoulveggie? Is it a vegetarian group, or rather a group that gardens? (hoping for the gardening type) |
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Freeghen
Joined: 01 Oct 2009
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Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 7:01 am Post subject: |
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The same situation happened to me. I moved to a satellite city outside of Seoul and got a job at a hagwon where I am the only foreigner. It is pretty lonely and it is hard to just walk up to people and talk to them without any good reason besides having 'weigukin' status in common.
I actually found a group on facebook for my area and have met up for dinner with some of the people on there. It is good because you can chat with them beforehand and you don't have to travel 8,000 miles by subway to hang out. |
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DWAEJIMORIGUKBAP
Joined: 28 May 2009 Location: Electron cloud
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Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 4:26 pm Post subject: |
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dalem wrote: |
i'm in a bunch of them too. It's great if you want that social fix outside of work. however, while i'm fairly new at it, all of it seems to be short time social fixe, no longer term friendship outside meetups.... yet! Even if it is just while at the meetup and no longer hangouts yet, it really is the lifeline for me. |
Yeah I found them the same. A decent time at the time but no friendships developed outside of the actual meetups. Seoul Cirlce / yupggiklub I made long term friends from though.. |
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thedrizzle
Joined: 26 Feb 2009
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Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 4:48 pm Post subject: |
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Well, I had a lot of friends I met in WoW that I knew before I got here, but Ithere's a couple D&D clubs you can find on facebook that meet once a week or so that are full of cool guys and gals. |
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Bloopity Bloop

Joined: 26 Apr 2009 Location: Seoul yo
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Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 8:36 pm Post subject: |
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What is the best way to make friends whose primary idea of a good time does not equal getting wasted? |
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madtownhustl
Joined: 04 Jun 2009
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Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 8:40 pm Post subject: |
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Bloopity Bloop wrote: |
What is the best way to make friends whose primary idea of a good time does not equal getting wasted? |
hmm.. I'd go to a farmer's market or a pumpkin patch. Givin the time of year. |
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DWAEJIMORIGUKBAP
Joined: 28 May 2009 Location: Electron cloud
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Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 8:46 pm Post subject: |
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Bloopity Bloop wrote: |
What is the best way to make friends whose primary idea of a good time does not equal getting wasted? |
People who
A. Don't live in hbc / itaewon.
B. Aren't male and between 14 - 99 years old he he...
Seriously though I'm finding living in the country, most of the waeygookis here dont like a drink all that much. Which is kind of weird, seeing as I do. I'm like - 'eh? In Seoul and Ilsan most people I knew did.
So maybe outside the city, you find people that don't like that lifestyle or are trying to get away from it...? |
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nosmallplans

Joined: 10 Oct 2008 Location: noksapyeong
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Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 10:16 pm Post subject: |
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I think meeting people in your neighborhood is the best. Especially if there are only a few. You are far more likely to bond and see each other often. The people who live down where there are tons of foreigners don't really need to make more foreign friends. |
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