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People that are back home, did you accomplish your goals?

 
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allovertheplace



Joined: 02 Aug 2009

PostPosted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 8:03 pm    Post subject: People that are back home, did you accomplish your goals? Reply with quote

It took my 2 years to finish my goals, curious what other did.

Get a girl out of my head - check
Go to Thailand and Japan - check
Get my yellow belt - check
Learn Korea - nope
Save 20k - nope
Get into a great grad school - check
Pay off student loans - nope
Make some great friends - check
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bixlerscott



Joined: 27 Sep 2006
Location: Near Wonju, South Korea

PostPosted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 1:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

This is kind of long, but I sure need people to talk to other than my few relatives I have left.

No, but I returned only 3 weeks ago with today being my 1st chance at any free time for ME. My brother burned himself up in a house fire 4 days after my arrival home 3 weeks ago to America by passing out drunk with a cigarette in a house full of knee deep trash such as newspaper, lottery tickets, and food packaging. A grizzly tragic house fire that could had been easily prevented from ever happening by simply taking out the trash and not smoking in bed drunk or only smoking outside on the front porch. Never minding the awful grizzly almost unbelievable disgusting fact, I cleaned up my brothers house last year by hauling out 39 big bags of trash and tried to extend to him, some basic housekeeping skills for fire safety and living comfort, but he just let it return to hell in a hand basket after I went to Korea. Oddly, the only things that survived the fire was my things stored with him and the things I had gave him. It's all so strange and just got stranger the more I poked around in the grizzely house site and cars.

And then I'm concerned for my mother to not get suicidal with dealing with what every mother dreads the most, the death of their kids. I must stick with her for now to ensure she doesn't do anything stupid which ties me up with many hours of talking every day and doing all her work since she's of age and very disabled in bad health. And we have no money in our family with a recent funeral being a financial and huge emotional burden on us. I tried and tried to help my relatives over the years, but learned you can't change people to do right as to avert disasters such as this through taking responsibility, paying attention to detail, and actually doing a little work.

It's too bad I've lost all my old friends as they are now either dead or in prison due to the social disease of poverty so I have no one to talk to other than trying to comfort my mother emotionally get her through this dreadful time of grieving. Because I haven't lived out here for many years, I know few people and don't see a way to really connect nor interested in a diseased degenerating community only talking about death, dying, AA, health issues, the end of America, and how God saves instead of how we can go out and catch the big one and achieve something for ourselves; not sit and wait to die while letting China and India take it all. Read, nearly every small business in my home country are ran by foreigners with large corporations selling only foreign imports while we Americans are in process of being fleeced for everything. We are not included in the plan of the current economy, but are suffering the consequences of our sell out shaming leaders.

No jobs seem to be available and business is very slow. Not even restaurant, retail, and pizza delivery and no one is actively seeking seasonal holiday help for the Christmas season as I just wanted something to tie me over after having spent my money on a terrible matter of circumstances as have happened before. Every time I return home, a left curve suprise ball slams me in the side of my head while stepping up to the plate resulting in repercussions beyond belief and MY control. Yes, I know the serenity prayer, but things need to be a bit better than this rubbish. I'm very disappointed, but must carry on and it will take some time to sort out.
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Unposter



Joined: 04 Jun 2006

PostPosted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 6:20 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh man, sorry to hear about that. There is no doubt in my mind poverty sucks the life out of people in more ways than one. Good luck with everything!
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tfunk



Joined: 12 Aug 2006
Location: Dublin, Ireland

PostPosted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 6:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hi bixlerscott,

I find it's difficult to respond to such an emotionally real post without sounding cheesy, but I hope fortune changes for you and wish you all the best.
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talltony4



Joined: 09 Aug 2004

PostPosted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 6:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Wow, Bixlerscott, sorry to hear that. I hope you can find something to tide you over. Whereabouts are you?
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OBwannabe



Joined: 16 Feb 2008

PostPosted: Thu Nov 05, 2009 7:50 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

What a tragic story. Don't know what to say. I hope things somehow turn around for you.

Not to be an ass, but I am curious about the topic brought up in the OP.
I'd love to hear stories of those who have come and since left. What goals did they come to Korea with and did they achieve them? Particularly paying off debts.
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spyro25



Joined: 23 Nov 2004

PostPosted: Thu Nov 05, 2009 8:53 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Korea can often bring in unintended consequences to the intended ones:

intended:
Pay off some debts
unintended:
made a lot more than i thought i would

intended:
meet hot asian girls
unintended:
marry one

intended:
do a bit of professional development
unintended:
get into cambridge university

intended:
get bigger
unintended:
get a beer belly

intended:
see a bit of the world
unintended:
travel extensively across asia

intended:
learn a bit about other cultures
unintended:
realise that not all cultures are worth knowing, and to take a bit more pride in your own culture.
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madoka



Joined: 27 Mar 2008

PostPosted: Thu Nov 05, 2009 12:20 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

OBwannabe wrote:

I'd love to hear stories of those who have come and since left. What goals did they come to Korea with and did they achieve them? Particularly paying off debts.


I paid over $20,000 in taxes last month (both quarterly income and property taxes). Man, that sucked.

I also recently opened an office and started hiring. I've got three employees now and hoping to go to five by next month. The recession has been great for finding employees in that regard. I placed a job ad and got over 200 replies for one entry level administrative assistant position, including 3 MBAs and multiple MAs. I guess that shows how the economy is these days.
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Juregen



Joined: 30 May 2006

PostPosted: Thu Nov 05, 2009 6:40 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

madoka wrote:
OBwannabe wrote:

I'd love to hear stories of those who have come and since left. What goals did they come to Korea with and did they achieve them? Particularly paying off debts.


I paid over $20,000 in taxes last month (both quarterly income and property taxes). Man, that sucked.

I also recently opened an office and started hiring. I've got three employees now and hoping to go to five by next month. The recession has been great for finding employees in that regard. I placed a job ad and got over 200 replies for one entry level administrative assistant position, including 3 MBAs and multiple MAs. I guess that shows how the economy is these days.


Lol, I think everyone would love to pay 20.000$ in taxes!
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