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[Cartman]

I'm finally going to vent this one - Just wanted to know how many others out there are experiencing stuff like this:

Been on the dating scene for long enough now to experience the same patterns of flakiness. Met a couple of nice genuine girls, who I've dated for a bit, but most of the ones in between are clearly not interested since they keep flaking out of meeting up at the last minute. YET, they continue to text msg me as soon as I give up:

"Hi, how was your day/weekend?"
or
"what are you doing this week"?

- almost to try and spark my interest in paying attention to them again.

Then as soon as they get me to send a msg or two back and ask to meet up, they back off. I have always been clear with my intentions from the start: some I want to try and be friends with, and others know that I am looking for something possibly more.

I feel like just writing "WHAT THE F*** DO YOU WANT" - but instead I'm just starting to delete the contacts from my phone.

Another thing that is irritating when talking to a girl in person is the constant approval seeking. I get questions like "So, what is your image of me?" "Or what did you think of me when you first met?" (when we just met 10 minutes ago). At first I thought it was a test for them to make sure I'm interested, which is fine. But many times I find that even some of the girls who aren't interested still TRAP me into giving them multiple compliments by asking the same question 4 times over the course of a 20 minute conversation.

I watched a friend play it cooler with a girl who was definitely interested in him and when he decided not to 'play into' her 6th approval seeking question about what he thought of her, she made a sad face and put her knuckles close to her eyes as if to imitate herself crying.

I'm done with the games. No more ego stroking from me. Only going to give the time of day to the ones who seem real and genuine....

Would like to hear some of your stories if they are similar....

[nautilus]

My moneys on 20 pages, maybe 21.

[Xuanzang]

You and Goku need to form a K-girls help club.

[The Gipkik]

Hey, listen, if you insist on meeting drunk Korean girls in bars; girls who are specifically looking for the white boys, you're going to get some real head cases going on. They're essentially outsiders. Good luck.

[Bog Roll]

[Janny]

[MattAwesome]

first poster that has had the same problems as i have. if they flake, they are not interested so move on.

[Cartman]

[Kimchi Cha Cha]

Stop looking at Korean girls in their 20s and move onto women in the 30s, or older if that floats ya boat.

Less mind games, less stress, less flakiness, more directness, more accountability. You'll be thanking me later.

[bry0000000]

There's a lot to explain here and I don't think I can do a good job of it, but suffice to say, you're already behind the 8 ball because they know you're interested. Your best bet is to show to them that you weren't actually interested without them thinking you're disinterested.