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[caniff]

Go wherever they'll give you a set of balls.

Good luck, Grasshopper.

[thomas pars]

as shitty as this feels now you've been given a really good gift.
you get your freedom and can do/see anyone/anything you please.
Stick around in Korea. Nothing is Happening in the west. If you go
home to some lame customer service job for 10 bucks an hour
for some girl you're really going to regret it later. But it already sounds like
you have no balls so good luck with everything.

[The Gipkik]

LOL, OP. Is this the same girl you wrote about extensively way back when? The one you were so infatuated by, found so "delicious?" The one that met you at the airport? It's still the girl, eh? Well, you never listened to the advice back then, so do what you "need" to do. Girl addictions are tough to get over, but it'll make you a better man.

[mulligc3]

I can't believe this situation and you are letting her get away with it. I know you love her and love is blind but just coz Love is involved doesn't mean its right. Love is two sided. Do you not deserve to have a girl who feels for you , the way you feel for them.
You are allowing this plus a girl likes a guy who doesn't allow himself to be treated like a door mat.
Leave her!!

[ppcg4]

Alright folks thanks for the opinions on the girl.

Let's try to stay on topic here. Have any of you been faced with a similar situation and found it difficult to decide?

I'm sure a lot of you aren't first-timers in Korea.

[ppcg4]

[Spud10]

If it involves a girl, then of course it will difficult for you to decide.

God gave men a *beep* and a brain, but not enough blood to run both at the same time.

Better start "thinking" and figure out what is best for you, and only you.

[NMonk]

you'l be lucky to even get a job in a call centre right now in the west!!!

ditch girl, stay in Korea but to move to a different city and get a hot Korean gf, a hot korean girl will soon have you forgetting about your crazy ex.

[ldh2222]

In your writing, it seems like you answered your own question. Go back home.

[mr. positive]

GirlyGirl is so right... what would you think of a female putting up with a guy doing the same thing? You'd tell her to kick him to the curb in an instant. I know more than one guy like that here in Korea that's serving as a lapdog for some Korean girl. Don't be that guy. Like others have said, might as well finish your contract and get the bonus money before going, so you have some time to decide, but either way, the girl's got to go. I know you said it's not the topic you originally sought advice for, but as long as you let her play you like a fool, it'll cloud all of your other decision-making.

And yes, my ID is mr. positive, but there's nothing positive about a girl like that, and the best thing you can do for her and yourself is to move on. It'll set you straight, and maybe she'll start to get a clue that it's not right to treat folks the way she does - or not.

[gregoriomills]

She's just not that into you. Period.

I think every guy has been in a similar situation as you are now (the "I'm in love with her, but she doesn't love me back" thing, NOT the "letting her see other guys" thing btw). Only distance and time will solve that one, my friend, 'cause it doesn't look like you have the will to stay away. Go home or change cities/countries, get a new girl. One who won't castrate you.

[endo]

[3DR]

[Illysook]

I confess, I've played a boy or two sorta like that.

It wasn't on purpose. It was just that there was another guy whom I liked better, or was in love with, who didn't love me back. When things went south with him, I would lean on the nice guy who was in love with me, even though I didn't love him.

You should definitely dump her azz!

After that, go home and be reminded of how people treat you when they really do care about you.

Once you get home, take some time to clear your head, then you will be prepared to make decisions about your future.

[chris_J2]

Do the wedding in July, & come back to Korea in August / September. If you've been at your current job for over a year, they should give you a month off anyway.